posted April 05, 2003 01:53 PM         

I was about to quit the internet dating I had started until I learned about this transit. I have been recently rejected like the plague.

As I mentioned in an earlier post I am tall, nice looking, friendly, outgoing and open minded. I have been rejected by men my entire life.

I am slow at getting a relationship going despite what my Gemini Rising and Venus in Gemini may indicate. I was in a relationship with an Aquarius guy who I loved with all my heart but he did not want to get married so I moved on. It is just hard when everyone you move on to also rejects you.

I try not to reject men because I know how it feels. Usually I will try to become their friend or let them down slowly. But some men don't have that same consideration.

I was reading earlier post about having an empty house in house of relationships. Someone mentioned it does not mean a perso will not get married but my question is does it mean someone will stay married or are relationships just not that important in this life for someone who has an empty house?

I just want to know what am I doing wrong or do I have an affliction in my chart?

Please Help,

posted April 06, 2003 09:07 AM         

You probably come off as clingy or desperate. Try rejecting men early. Don't be so sensitive towards them or considerate of their feelings. Sounds cruel, but it's true. Men tend to want what they think they can't have.

posted April 06, 2003 01:16 PM         

Blue M, at least give his post a possibility.

posted April 06, 2003 06:07 PM         

You are so funny. I mean blunt but I think you are right. Sometimes you are to be direct when you want to get your point across. I don't feel as bad as I felt a few days ago. Now I am learning to go with the flo.

I will take your advice and try something new. But I am not clingy or desperate. These guys who rejected me emailed me like crazy. I would not give them my telephone number or go out with them until I was ready. After constanat adulation and about 2 months of emails I gave them a chance. I guess that is why I was so shocked. I am a very distant person, meaning I like independence and freedom and not clingy at all expect when I am in love and the relationship as settled but normally I am light-hearted and fun.

But thanks for the advice. I do have another question for you Randall, you mentioned men always want what they can't have do you think if I rejected them, they would want me more. Just curious

posted April 06, 2003 06:49 PM         

I went back to Ask the Astrologer and re-read my post House of Relationships. You mentioned the postion of my Natal Moon and Uranus and how I may choose partners who are not available or bizzare.

I guess I am shocked now because I did give the average, boring guys a chance and they still rejected me, only now I have lost confidence because I did try something new.

I see that the average Joe can hurt me just as much as the exciting risk taker.

You also mentioned Venus squares my moon which may show feelings are expressed irractically or incorrect. This is very true in my recent experience. I guess the guys I went out with, thought I was going to reject them so they rejected me first.

I know my feelings are expressed incorrectly because a lot of times I like guys and they don't think I am interested for some reason.

I just want to thank you for reminding me of the challenging aspect in my chart I need to consider and possibly make stronger or correct to help me in my relationships.

Thank you so much.

Blue M

posted April 06, 2003 09:06 PM         

Eventually someone is going to want to have a committed relationship or just get tired and want true intimacy.

What happens to that cat and mouse game when people get married? I guess a clearer question would be how do women get married if she is always running?

posted April 07, 2003 10:24 AM         

In my opinion, two months of having someone wait, and not have a chance of speaking with you on the phone leads to the possibility of them building up high expectations and fantasies no human being can ever live up too. When reality hits, and those dreams crumble, they become disappointed. They get upset and ties are cut immediately. More often than not, when women behave this way, it is called teasing and it frustrates men to no end.

posted April 07, 2003 09:39 PM         

Aphrodite, Yes, I guess I can see where someone might idealize who they want me to be and build up frustration but my intention is not to tease anyone. I just got out of a long term relationship and I wanted to take things slow but I can see things from the mens' point of view.

Randall, I know time is of the essence but weeding out the bad ones is very hard because there are not a lot of good ones left. I mean for every 50 emails I probably got one date.

Sue, , I guess my question again is how do I overcome my Uranus/Moon aspect? and does it mean instead of me rejecting men who are close to me, am I going to be more inclined to do something to make them reject me, for instance emailing someone for 2 months and then meeting them? How am I to know what I am doing when it is not intentional? I just feel so innocent like a child who just left home for the first time. This of course is not true but I should be old enough to know better.

But thanks for all of your input. The Austin Powers comparison was hilarious.

posted April 14, 2003 09:26 AM         

well, if it is any consolation, donna says i have 3 cinderella transits now. no hot love affair Romeo & Juliet style under my sleeve yet , BUT i did find out that one member on this LG site is part of my soulmate family during these transits.

i am happy about that

*** does a happy dance ***

you know who you are.

posted April 15, 2003 11:20 AM         

i do go out more often now though of my own choosing b/c there are things i want to savor. turns out the guys are coming to me under various transits donna told me about. hehe. so that makes it easy.

as for the "love of my life," that phrase sounds a bit too disneyland-ish for my capricorn moon tastes, especially at 23 years old. just my opinion.

and

posted April 15, 2003 05:08 PM         

virgo is a great sign.

pretty straightforward? no. i am straightforward

yeah, i am so serious with this moon. people can relax around this moon because they know we won't do something flighty, or be overly temperamental to the point of behavioral instability a lot of other moon signs are predisposed to. the bills get paid, the food is on the table, the gas tank in the car is full, the grocery trip completed, and the laundry is washed!

and . . . the credit card balances are paid in full every month, taxes are filed and guaranteed with a return long before the due date, the rent is paid by the 3rd, and the investment portfolio is balanced, in good standing and generates capital on a consistent basis.

a complete dinner is served promptly at 6 o'clock.

such dependability! why don't more people love us??? just joking! people don't love us, they use us

posted April 16, 2003 10:40 PM         

Reading your posts here, and some others from Ask the Astrologer, I'm struck by your seeming isolation from other people. I can imagine how Internet dating can temporarily lead to a greater feeling of isolation. Why not do as Aphrodite is doing, and get out more? In your own chosen way, of course. Do things you enjoy doing, that would be even more enjoyable if you shared them with someone you cared for, but that you would still enjoy alone.

Hope this makes sense to you...