posted April 09, 2003 10:07 PM         

At what point, when you have had failed relationship after relationship (and I'm into my 30's now so I'm talking numerous failures) do you give up trying and start to believe that you are really "broken" and not supposed to even try any more. How do you keep believing that you are "smart" and "beautiful" (like your Mom tells you) when all indications are that men don't feel that way about you?

I don't mean to sound so negative, but I know that of anywhere in the world, that if unconditional love actually exists, then it is here at Lindaland and that you won't hold it against me.

Please forgive my over active moon/neptune conj. in Scorpio ... (Morgana, don't you have that wonderful conjunction in your chart too?) It's way out of control today.

I don't care if no one feels like responding to this but at least this is the one place in the world I am comfortable expressing myself.

Thanks guys, for listening.

posted April 10, 2003 12:24 AM         

Remember you need to be attractive to that one special person and not to the whole world. Believe what your mom says becuase she loves you and so will be that lucky guy who is still waiting for you somewhere having the same thoughts that you have.

posted April 10, 2003 12:37 AM         

If it means anything, I've had several friends tell me exactly what Nikky said...when you stop "looking" that's when love finds you.

I just can't seem to stop looking, LOL!!!! But I'm trying...

Keep your chin up!

posted April 10, 2003 03:22 AM           

Some people kiss many frogs before they find their prince and some people just wait or don't find anything until their prince comes along!!

I KNOW there is a love for everybody out there!!! To love, all you need to do is love!

You may get it for one year, two years or 50, but when you feel that true love it is worth all the waiting. Some people find love, fall in love and then lose love but all the pain and suffering you feel afterwards is worth that one unique feeling. That one true moment in your life gives you a memory that you can hold onto and cherish forever.

My partners step dad is still finding it hard to deal with the death of his soul mate. My partners mother. He and she had a love that was intense, fiery, passionate. He said to me, 'I would still go through all of this hurt, angst and suffering even if I only got to have what we had for one day.'
Thats the kind of love you have to look forward to. Don't go out seeking it or trying too hard. Just wait for YOUR time.

They had a couple of failed relationships and 1 marriage each. They met in their 40's and loved like they had known each other for an eternity

Good luck and god speed!!!!

posted April 10, 2003 03:44 AM         

Let me tell you something about myself.

I have loved and lost many, many times and every time the love was stronger and stronger and the lessons the same because I didn't seem to have learned it yet.
Then finally I gave up looking for my ideal man, I told myself there is no such thing and I won't be looking anymore and will be satisfied with any kind of love coming on my path. I was very happy with my own life, very happy indeed. Luck was on my side because I saw everything as luck! I was grateful for everything I have been through, I wouldn't have been the person I am now if it wasn't for those hard lessons. But....I fell in love again, if you can call it love. There was something very compulsive about it. He got my knees weak and in his eyes I drowned and time stood still. I just hád a task with him, that's what I felt. We both felt we knew each other forever and conversations went very immediate (a few inside the school I work, he is a student), like no time was lost. But...I knew he wasn't the perfect partner. He was 11 years younger and a Moslim, it was impossible. Ok, maybe that doesn't matter that much but somehow I just knew that. Still, I felt the compulsion...I HAD TO HAVE HIM! Why? Don't ask! Aaah long story but finally one time after lot's of heartache (he didn't show up a few times etc) he came at my place, hours later than we had planned and we started our fierce way of conversating like we were married for 50 years. It was all so normal. But he was impossible. He stayed the night but I didn't want to do anything with him like sex (of course he did ). I promised myself I am only going to do this with 'the one', the one who is my special friend (like I knew). Só, after that one meeting the contact between this Moroccan guy and I faded somehow. One way I was hurt but the other I loved him regardless and went on with my life because I was happy with my own life anyway. But I let go of all that I ever wished for, I was just convinced now (first time in my life) that it might be that there is no one ideal for me on this earth plane. I have met and lost two soulmates one of them who was married and such and I let it all go! I was like:" whatever comes my way...it's good!" Maybe there is no long term thing for me in store.
Well now.... 11th of January 2003 a friend I know for 8 years came by my house to talk about his natal chart and all the huge changes that have gone on in his life. He was not really my friend but my sisters boyfriend's friend. We have been seeing each other throughout those 8 years off and on on parties, when we went out going to places with a few people and such. There was always mutual understanding and peace between us.
Well...you guessed....this was totally unexpected but when we held each others hand on that 11th something really weird happened. We landed in bliss, bliss I have never felt before in my life. And our lifes changed that moment! He is the one! But I didn't know right then, because I didn't want anything with him. I was so astonished, amazed. Gosh it shot me right to far away in space! Anyway, a very long and intense story. But we are together and I have never been so happy in my life, he is exactly what I have always dreamed of and my best friend! We are HOME!
So.....yep. Let go of the thing you most desire and it will come to you when you are ready!
Enjoy your own life and yourself...don't worry it will come! Life is what you make it!

posted April 10, 2003 06:15 AM         

It probably sounds a bit harsh, but it worked. I met my husband a month after changing my attitude and thoughts.

It's not easy and it's hard when you feel lonely and want a man to wrap his arms around you. But, it is important to tell yourself ( I mean REALLY tell yourself) that you deserve the best and to be treated how you want to be treated.

Good luck and keep us posted!!

posted April 10, 2003 05:56 PM         

I know I have my hormones in a bunch over the boy-next-door but although it's not adding to my comfort I just avoid all contact and even looking at him! Nope that's okay...you know I have to be realistic. Can't live in lala land forever you know!
Have you gotten the gist of this yet? I'm very down! If you don't want ot get an eyefull of whiney fish stopnow!

I am not saying that I am unhappy I just want to know why after 25 years my relationship with my husband isn,t better or why I don't feel anything but restricted and claustrophobic and so tired...I thought I was okay 'till the girls I go to university with told me that I give them a very bad impression of what being married is like. I listen to myself and have to agree. Even when I think everything is fine I speak and it is a bitter,disillusioned,insecure,depressed and depressing woman that is speaking. And this is confusing for me because I know I have a good life and am Blesssed in many ways.It's like I don't know ?very tiring..is all. I feel like I'm going to have to go on leave in my mind to recuperate.I can actually feel myself close down the hatches to try and reenergize my batteries. I just don't know why after 25 years I still don't have a handle on this?WHy it's not a'smoother' place to be?

Anybody out htere want to give it a try? Astrologically speaking of course. I have adjusted, modified, cut-off, added on, moved aside ,gone under you name it I have done it to try and get a grip on this relationship and find a balance in it for me.All I can say is even if he is trying to improve our relationship I just can't seem to get it right!My reaction is to go inside myself and just wait out the unconfortable time..which is all mine I know because I can't seem to get a logical view of it in my mind.I don't know what is waht or anything I come away with AAAAAArrrgh! all over me and I'm too old to try and figure it out by myself. GIve me a hand will you? And Iknow I sound like a nutcase! I'll probably regret this but then what you tell total strangers is really astounding! (Hey I promise when I get an uplifting hormone ridden anecdote about my neighbor you guys will be the first to know---but you know hromones tend to stay inert when the subject is being papa and grandma!)

If you guys have nothing to say it's okay I could at least say this to somebody and that's okay too.

If you want to take a peek it's

me 6th March 1959 Québec 23:58
He 5th of February 1959 Chicoutimi 4:09

posted April 10, 2003 06:04 PM         

don't get rid of your hormones

if you'd like, you can always e-mail me at aphrodite@linda-goodman.com.

posted April 11, 2003 12:08 AM         

Brunn,
sorry to hear you feel that way. You sound frustrated, and I feel for you.
Don`t want to sound like a fortune teller now, but I think you may meet someone fascinating around August this year, or you may start a relationship with someone you know from before but havnt been "there" with him yet. He most likely will be a foreigner.

Next year you will feel compelled to break up your marriage and you may very well do so. Two or 3 years from now - your life will be completely changed, I hope for better.
In 2006 you may re-marry again.

I am saying this based upon your transits and progressed charts. In your progressed chart - all your angles are at their last degrees and are about to change sign, which is phenomenal, as usually people change house cups in their progressed chart one pair at a time, while you change them all almost at once (closely together). Aside from this - your progressed Sun is just about to change its sign too, from Aries to Taurus. So , starting with your progressed Sun, first you will change the way you view the world around you, and especially the men around you as the Sun in female`s horoscope represents the man in her life. (it takes aproximately 30 years for the Sun sign to progress to another sign, so it is quite spectacular). From Aries to Taurus- you will insist for receiving more pleasure in life, not giving/doing all the work yourself as you have been until now - but also wanting to receive somehting in return.
So much is in front of you , but do not fear the change, changes are good and always lead to progress.

posted April 11, 2003 05:14 AM         

The story of your partners stepdad is indeed beautiful. That's what it is all about!
Mmmmm

posted April 11, 2003 10:30 AM           

The thing that I thought was interesting was my partners mum met his dad when they were 15. Got married at 18 and had two boys. They were together for about 15 years and then divorced.

They both found respective partners a few years after their divorce. Luc's dad had 2 more girls with his new partner and both new partnerships were amazing love stories.

(bear with me).

The thing that stumps me is how it ended up. Almost two years ago Luc's dad died on the Monday and then when we were on the way to his funeral on the Friday we got a call to say his mum had gone. (this is hard). So I thought no matter about the strong love they had for their new partners, do you think they were meant to be together in the end??

posted April 12, 2003 05:13 PM         

Thank you all for your kind words and support. I was having a particularly bad day that day but it was nothing that a pint of "Ben & Jerry's New York Super Fudge Chunk" couldn't fix.

I will continue kissing those commitment fearing frogs (although one in particular is more like a snake who's good at charming the pants right off of you and then pulling a vanishing act for days.) I will have faith that when the time is right I will find my other half.

Much love to all of you,

posted May 15, 2003 01:53 AM         

Wanted to share a pearl of wisdom that came from a psychiatrist named Morrie. Really. My friend was consulting him, depressed about her love life, and he told her:

The Morrie Quote:

quote:

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There are at least 10,000 men in the world with whom you could marry and be happy with.

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Think of the millions and billions of souls here, now, incarnated at the same time as we all are!

And remember too, that when we do what we've always done, we get what we've always gotten. Peace, be happy, focus on the beautiful, and love will come.

posted May 20, 2003 06:54 AM         

Wish I could tell you something to make you feel better but I am struggling myself right now.

There is one thing though ... and I learned this from Linda. If you fear being alone for the rest of your life, you will be. I think the phrase is "What you fear shall come upon you." It may be from the Bible but I read it in one of Linda's books. You have to turn fear into faith.

If you figure out how to turn fear into faith, let me know how you did it. I'm still trying myself.

Love and Light,

posted May 21, 2003 05:35 PM         

I have moon in cancer in eighth house, and neptune in scorp in 12th house, with Neptune on the Ascendant and Venus in the 4/5th house and I am very emotional.

It could very well be hormones so I would not overlook that. The body follows the mind right? Look at what you are thinking, you are usually right. Take good care of yourself, eat right, go to a quiet spa and get a hot stone massage. Sit in the hot tub, dream, sleep, you deserve it, on a regular basis.

Have faith this way-Tell yourself you are a Very Important Person. Those hot stone massages are really where it's at

Natasha