posted May 30, 2003 02:02 AM         

Can someone please help me? I am a member of astroadvice, an astrology website. Does anyone know if it is correct or legitimate?

I met a new guy a couple of months ago. He had given me his number and email address but I did not call him. I only emailed him. Well, he has been coming to my job talking to me and now I am starting to like him.

I went to astroadvice to find out if we were compatible and the love meter said we were only 59% compatible. I was kinda devastated because I am really starting to like this guy.

Can any one tell me if we are more compatible than 59% or compatible at all?

My birthday is May 4, 1967, 7:38 am Chicago, IL. His birthday is February 15, 1975 in Chicago, IL. I think he was born around 2:00 pm but I am not sure. I also went to astrodients and the prognosis was not very good. Can anyone at least give me hope?

Every time I meet a guy, I go to the astroadvice love meter chart and lately I am always meeting and liking guys whom the love meter says I am not compatible or have a very slim chance of being compatible.

My ex-boyfriend was an Aquarius and I want to make sure I do not go through the same thing with this new guy. I mean should I return his attention or just keep on moving?

Thanks,

posted May 30, 2003 03:19 AM         

I have membership at AstroAdvice too, and I believe you have to take that love meter with a BIG grain of salt. How they arrive at those percentages, I have no idea. How can you compare a fantastic union that's gentle and romantic, with one that has a raw emotional/sexual connection? How can a computer possibly decide which one means more to your heart?

Try this test: go back there and try putting in birthdates of people you went out with in the past, or even family members. See what reading you get. If you agree totally with the percentage point awarded in all cases, then it's for you. But better yet, why not try Astro.com? I relied on AstroAdvice till recently, but Astro.com has more features, and I'm tired of all the gambling spam that comes in through AstroAdvice.

Lunargirl

posted May 30, 2003 12:43 PM         

Thanks for the input. I have tried and put a couple of guys I had a relationship with birthdate just to see if the meter was right. But it was like a catch 22 because one guy that I was with for about 7 years, the love meter said we were 53% compatible, but even though we were in love and together many years, it truly ended badly and really hurt me and changed me as a person.

I guess I don't want to just have a great start and then have someone do something cruel to me because the aspects are not in my favor.

But I do understand what you are saying, I cannot let the meter control my love...but it is such a gamble. Just like life.

Thanks

posted May 31, 2003 02:09 PM         

If I recall from the old Ask the Astrologer forum, you have a lot of Uranian influence -- that's Aquarius' sign -- so you're giving out an Aquarian vibe -- so it makes sense you'll attract a Water-Bearer. Can't you just become his friend and see what happens? And I was so impressed by all the amazing work Cat did for you on your chart and relationships, there was a lot of information there for you that might be helpful for you now.

posted May 31, 2003 03:53 PM         

I know that you are right. But is it just that I have been through hell lately and I just want to minimize any pain or disappointment. It's like almost drowning and being afraid to dip your toe into the water.

I have a Venus in Gemini plus a Gemini Rising and Pisces Moon but in most of my relationships I get hurt. I don't know if it is a man thing, meaning men don't feel emotions as intensely as women but all I know is how I feel.

My rising sign and Veuus says I am supposed to be this big flirt, which I know I can be when I am confident, but it has been years since I have been confident.

I am also supposed to not be able to settle down with one person. I guess that will come in the future because I am very faithful.

But really 59% compatiblity is pretty bad or is it? I once did a compatibility with Keanu Reeves and it said we were something like 98% compatible. Yeah, I know what you are saying, what are the chances of that happening. I wish I could get that compatibility with a real man.

Lately all the guys I have been meeting have had low compatiblity with me. I guess I should move to the West Coast to find a compatible partner. Just kidding.

One thing I am not is a stick in the mud. I can move on quickly if I have not invested anything in a relationship but I am tired of moving. I want to stand still with someone for me. I am tired of being for someone else. I want them to be for me also.

posted May 31, 2003 10:02 PM         

I hear ya. You have good insight and a good memory. Yes, Cat(Sue) gave me some great and helpful information. I do believe that there must be something about the Aquarian engery, considering this guy I met is the fourth Aquarius I am attracted to.

It seems like such a coicidence that you met someone with so many things in common with your ex. Were you tempted to make a go of it and see if things would turn out differently? Did you feel guilty about making those decisions based on your ex?

I once had an Astrologer tell me I was very Aquarian and at that time I really couldn't understand her because I did not have any planets in Aquarius and Aquarius was not in any of my houses.

The eerry thing about my ex is my sister is married to a Aquarius who was putting her through the similar emotional turmoil, the only thing is she is a Capricorn and maybe more cut out to deal with them (Aquarius).

The best advice you gave me was to try to start out to be his friend. I will definitely try that because if he is not right for me then spending time being his friend will show me his face. Thanks Lunargirl.

posted May 31, 2003 10:55 PM         

You sound like me. I also had taken me 5 years to get over my first love. And yes, isn't Keanu a babe. Man, if I were an actress in Hollywood.

I am going to take Lunagirl's advice and try to start off as friends first. I went to this website, www.life-answer.com and it gave me hope and said I would have the most fun in my life with this new guy. It also said I should hold on to this one. After reading my short report I feel there is compatiblity in our aspects but the rest depends on us. I feel relieved I got a second opinion.

posted June 01, 2003 01:59 AM         

You ask good questions, Blue M:

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It seems like such a coicidence that you met someone with so many things in common with your ex. Were you tempted to make a go of it and see if things would turn out differently? Did you feel guilty about making those decisions based on your ex?

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I work in the arts, and I have found over the years that arts "communities" are teeny, like villages. Eventually everyone knows each other or does by a degree of separation, so it wasn't as much a coincidence as you may think. For me to have a major relationship with an arts guy we'll call "Biff" from my old college seemed, at the time, to be one of those "When Harry met Sally" romances between old friends. I thought we could overcome our Aries difficulties. Well that didn't work out, but at least I have a good idea why, from my end of the responsibility. Then later, when I thought I'd healed, I met up with _another_ old friend named Biff (also Aries!) from the same college, also working in the arts but in a different branch from the first one. However, they hadn't been close friends, so given that I enjoyed this other man's company, I decided to keep an open mind and see how it went despite my old bad experience with Biff#1. Their similarities were running through my mind, of course -- part of what I had learned was that I had mistaken similarity for compatibility before, and I was trying to discern whether that was happening again. I was absolutely fine until the night we first kissed, which was great, and I decided to confide my misgivings about their similarities (he knew Biff#1 had broken my heart and knew I was hesitant).

Biff#2 then confided in me that he had received a strange phonecall that very day from Biff#1-- out of the blue, it had been years, they had never been close-- and that my name had come up. I can just see Biff#1 doing that, he had alienated other friends and was into networking, so he _would_ call somebody out of the blue. When Biff#2 told me that, I froze up, as all the emotions came back with the realization that I was still trying to replace the first guy with the second (sad, but human). It was more than just the surface similarities that I needed to pay attention to.

Well that was it for me. If ever I received a signal to not go ahead, that was it. I slept on it then went to see Biff#2 the next day to explain there were too many coincidences and similarities for me, and that I didn't feel right. Of course I was sorry to have disappointed him, and to have hurt his feelings, but he knew I was right in calling something off earlier than later. No, I didn't feel guilty, because it all happened so fast and I was honest with him, but mostly because my decision was _not_ based on my ex-- it was based on me not having resolved my issues regarding my ex, and that no matter how psychically it happened, that phonecall helped confirm my intuition that the second guy was just not right for me-- and me for him, conversely.

Biff#2 and I are still friends today. That's what honesty does. And he just found a fantastic girlfrend who's crazy about him and, I think, finds him exotic.

posted June 02, 2003 06:14 PM         

What a very intriguing story. You have a profound trust. Thanks for the compliment about my questions. My sister calls me Oprah because I am always asking questions to get to the heart of the matter.

The reason I say you have trust is because you made the decision to let go of Biff#2 without fear. I also liked what you said about making the decision because you realized you had not healed and had some issues regarding Biff#1. I have a fear of ending a relationship, especially if it is not abusive because I feel this may be God's chance to give me someone and I may not get the same chance again. I don't trust that chances will come around again.

If someone wants me I take that chance because I feel I am special and they must be special too, to have noticed me.

But I think you are right about following your intuition but sometimes you don't know if it is fear or your intuition guiding you until something concrete comes along to nudge you in the right direction, like the phone call from Biff#1 to Biff#2.

Well, at least everything worked out for the better.

posted June 02, 2003 11:43 PM         

Sometimes it's interesting and useful to chart astrological possibilities, but a person can't live their life "on paper". Life is to be lived. Enjoy getting to know a new person, Blue M!

posted June 04, 2003 12:40 AM         

Kenneth Brannaugh is Ok. I was really surprised when him and Emma broke up. They seemed like a happy couple, but who knows only the person who has to live with you. I know they made a couple of movies together.

Thanks for the encouragement but the new guy I met plays mind games I think. I could be jumping to conclusions but Sunday he told me he would give me a call after he took his showed before he went to bed and he never did. I have not heard from him since. Oh well, so what who cares. I don't.

I am exhausted at trying to figure men out and I really don't care anymore. I hope he is not expecting me to chase him down. Oh well another one bites the dust, Next!

I guess the 59% love meter was right about this one.

Sometimes it is fun to live on paper or in fantasy rather than reality. Actually I went back to Astro Advice and the love meter said I was 99% compatible with Keanu Reeves. I had forgotten the exact percentage because it was years ago that I check for my compatibility with Keanu.