posted June 03, 2003 05:12 PM         

I don't know exactly how to respond to you -- you are obviously smart, have been through a lot, and are a proud woman (ALL woman, with those strong aspects! ). Without birthtimes, birthplaces and exact degrees, it's difficult to make more than general statements about the trends in a synastry (comparison of 2 charts). Plus, I have no idea what you've been through, so do take anything I say with a grain of salt. What I can see in very general terms is that your chart shows an attraction to those from other cultures and who have different attitudes, and that in all relationships you are engaged in getting down to the bottom of it, to probe and discuss and work things out on a more equal basis, but according to your own (high) standards. His chart shows pride, too, and an attraction to beauty, mystery, and imagination -- the romantic gesture, the unspoken powerful passionate moment, and a need for true love. You have shown him more about love by being who you are than he can ever express to you. However, he is not equipped to meet you verbally as a sparring partner, although I can imagine there have been some nasty comebacks, and while you get no satisfaction for your need to satisfy your suspicions (which is really your need to be reassured of his loyalty and love) -- he gets no relief from having his motives and dignity shredded by your confrontations. Your communication styles and emotional needs are very different, as I'm sure you know. Despite all this, there's a lot of potential for some lovely love aspects -- there's some heaven visible in there. I'm sure you recognized yourselves in Relationship Signs.

Also, I have read that a LeoMoon is a karmic placement for a soul that has incarnated to experience a Grand Love Affair, perhaps after several incarnations of having love denied, or denying love. Nobody ever said having a passionate twin soul relationship was easy. Also notice how nobody ever says that twin soul relationships come with a guarantee to last a lifetime -- so if he is the one, you doubly need to _understand_ what's going on between you, if you are about to let him go, so your lesson isn't wasted.

I suggest you get some specifics on the birth data, and check the exact aspects, maybe on a free site like Astro.com, that lets you get a few different mini-synastry interpretations, for insight into your charts. Also, there's a Knowflake here who has been doing some chart comparisons for free -- you could also email Lanny at lllog@yahoo.com and see if he's available.

On a short-term practical basis, I would focus on studying how your different communication styles affect the emotions and needs of the other person, from any perspective you can-- read the Venus&Mars books, whatever works for you -- because wherever you two have been, or are now, somebody else has been there before, and there is a huge amount of help out there if you truly seek to understand each other.

In the end, you are a perfect soul, and he is a perfect soul -- can you learn to understand each other's needs, and adapt to just loving the other person the way they are? Because I'm getting the sense that if the perpetual thunderstorm wasn't living in your living room, and you could let each other be, the two of you would be very happy in a very special way. Even if you have to live next door to each other in separate apartments!

Good luck, Mica,

posted June 12, 2003 07:58 PM         

Sometimes difficulties in our relationships are needed in order for us to be able to see our part in the problems.

posted June 12, 2003 11:56 PM         

Anyway, I wanna say get out while you're still young, but what the heck do I know?
I'm certainly no expert either.