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Topic: It's a scales thing!
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beverley
Knowflake Posts: 146
From: South Africa
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted June 19, 2003 03:42 AM
 
Hi
My birth info is 15 May 1963 Bulawayo Zimbabwe 8am. His birth info is 19 October 1951 Johannesburg South Africa 1pm.
We have been dating for only 3 weeks but he phoned me on Monday after a wonderful weekend together and said he needs time to think about things because he is developing feelings for me and doesn't want to get hurt again and doesn't know if this will work in the long term because we are so different. Besides his previous hurt is this just a Libra thing of weighing everything up so soon and from our charts do you think it's worth fighting for?
I would prefer to just go with the flow but he wants to make a decision now?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks
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lllog
Moderator Posts: 742
From: Springfield MO
Registered: Jun 2002
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posted June 19, 2003 09:11 AM
Pluto is transiting through your 7th House right now. If you are not in a close relationship, this is not the time to get into one with the intention to make it a life long commitment. Any relationship now will be intense and provide short term enjoyment and fulfillment, but don’t focus on long term goals.That said, both of your Plutos are conjunct the other's Mars indicating very strong romantic attraction. You also have His Saturn Oppose your Jupiter which is not a positive aspect in relationships. Hope that this helps, best of luck Lanny
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beverley
Knowflake Posts: 146
From: South Africa
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted June 19, 2003 09:46 AM
Thank you. Half of me wants to fight for this because he treats me really well and as Auriel knows i've been with a couple of monsters and the other half doesn't think I should have to continually look for the positives while he is only looking at the negatives?? We also have that Venus/Pluto thing (both ways!!), but maybe that aspect of it has been and gone?IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
Moderator Posts: 3280
From: San Francisco, CA, United States
Registered: Feb 2002
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posted June 19, 2003 10:48 AM
hi beverly, i remember you. if this is what you truthfully want and will rock your world if you got it, then you should go do it at full speed and not miss a single beat. the worst anyone can say to you is no, and that's it. you will survive this possible rejection and live on knowing you are confident in taking a stand for yourself.  IP: Logged |
beverley
Knowflake Posts: 146
From: South Africa
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted June 23, 2003 03:33 AM
Hi Aphrodite
You are sweet. He spoke to me on Saturday afternoon and said he doesn't love me now and never will because we are too different. I eat mostly vegetables he eats meat, I'm a morning person he is a night person etc etc. Then he said the pity is his kids REALLY REALLY like me. Then he said I remind him too much of his ex-wife (look like her, behave like her)who he used to adore and they went through a VERY UGLY divorce and he now hates her.(Large estate involved)We live far from each other and only see each other at weekends and he said he really enjoys being with me and if I can continue with things knowing what i know now he would still like me to keep spending weekends with him until......So I don't know????? Any thoughts? He also said he would never treat me any different to the way he has been and I spent the qwhole weekend there 'til Monday morning and he was the same. So???? I gess the question is do I continue with this hoping things will change or do I continue and just enjoy it while it lasts? He originally said he wants to finish things before we get used to being together but then why continue anyway??? Guess I'm very confused. There's a HUGE amount more we spoke about, but not enough space here, so just your thoughts will do thanks.
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lllog
Moderator Posts: 742
From: Springfield MO
Registered: Jun 2002
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posted June 23, 2003 06:16 PM
Everythingh else aside, I'm here to tell you that Morning people (like myself) and night People (My ex) do not mix well. Night people hate anyone that is happy before noon. Totally unscientific but true by my experience. Lanny IP: Logged |
Lunargirl
Knowflake Posts: 1513
From: south of utopia
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted June 24, 2003 03:55 AM
Sounds like he was being very honest with you about his limitations. I once dated a fellow who said the most distressing but true things about how he didn't want to get too close, but since he said this while holding me, I was confused... but I should have taken his words seriously. Your Libra is telling you the truth about how little he is prepared to give you, and exactly what size role he will allow you to play in his life.Do you really want a man who can't love you, who's going to look at you but see somebody else? If you want a light-hearted, only-on-occasion affair with no strings attached, while you actively date other men, then go for it. If you want a relationship where you can grow as a person, with that other person as a couple, do not go for it -- because he has just told you he doesn't want to be a couple -- just weekend lovers and friends. Sounds like the most important woman in his life is still his wife, although the feelings he has for her are not positive. Doesn't seem like much room for you in there. Just my ONION,
best to you,
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Aphrodite
Moderator Posts: 3280
From: San Francisco, CA, United States
Registered: Feb 2002
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posted June 24, 2003 01:46 PM
Hi Beverly,You didn't write what you wanted, specifically. IP: Logged |
beverley
Knowflake Posts: 146
From: South Africa
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted June 25, 2003 03:33 AM
Hi Guys
There has been a time travel problem and have only been able to view your posts today.
You are all unbelievably astute. At 40 I still look at the world with rose coloured glasses. I have decided to enjoy it while it lasts. I know he has been honest with me and appreciate that. I enjoy my weekends there and it helps HUGELY with the depression I feel at weekends. My friend who knows me VERY well says I won't cope as I can't like someone without loving them but I'm going to take it as it comes. You're right about the morning thing before 12noon : ) My eyes open and I'm 100 miles per hour : ) Guess it's a shock to other people.
Aphrodite, I'm not sure what I want or perhaps I am but won't admit it! At the moment I'm just going to enjoy being taken care of.
Thoughts?
Beverley
P.S. It just helps to talk - thanks to you all. Luv IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
Moderator Posts: 3280
From: San Francisco, CA, United States
Registered: Feb 2002
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posted June 25, 2003 11:11 AM
I have decided to enjoy it while it lasts. Okie dokie Beverly  IP: Logged |
beverley
Knowflake Posts: 146
From: South Africa
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted June 26, 2003 02:46 AM
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah Aphrodite, guess I sad it without realising it hey?! Clever of you to spot that : )
Have a nice day : )IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
Moderator Posts: 3280
From: San Francisco, CA, United States
Registered: Feb 2002
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posted June 26, 2003 02:08 PM
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