posted June 26, 2003 11:40 AM         

I love him with all my heart but I just don't understand him. One day I believe he loves me, the next day, I wonder if he even likes me! Sometimes I feel that can reach him and other times it's like he builds a wall around himself which I can't penatrate. Why? I know there must be an explanation for this. Are we not compatable, should I not be with him? I can't believe I could feel this way about someone who doesn't feel the same way about me.

Help friends

posted July 25, 2003 08:17 AM         

Thanks for taking the time to reply...

Drea - Thanks for you're input, you sound a lot like my parner...I pity your other half (LOL)!! It's a big help to have a Gemini explain what goes on in their head because my Darren never does, the only way I can get to grips with him and his many peronalities is when somone like yourself takes the time to explain it to me. Thank you.

Nikky - Yes Gemini is definitely the strange one LOL!! I know what you mean about not giving all at once. It's true if he knows where he stands with me, he then walks all over me because it empowers him in some way. So I've slowly, over a period of time learnt to hold back and try to keep him guessing a lot of the time. Break his heart? I'd like to break his neck most of the time but never his heart, I love him far too much to ever want to hurt him. thanks for your advise.

posted July 25, 2003 05:14 PM         

Yes my partner would like to club me with a bat. He's very confused everyday. In turn he has learned patience and understanding? No just basically patience. You can just go with the flo most of the time, which will hardly ever be the same.

Yes Gemini's love to learn, so maybe you can teach your partner to slow down, to talk, and most of all to listen. Make it fun with lots of pictures!

Im off on another adventure!

posted July 28, 2003 12:36 PM         

Princess - thanks for your advise. So you're with a man who 'wears many hats' too. I sympathise with you, I really do I've learnt many things through being with my Gemmy; to be adaptable, to be able to switch almost as quickly as he can and to be as mad as he is, as and when required. It's true what you say about teaching them things...it definitely holds their interest.

Drea - I too have learnt to be very patient and understanding. I've also learnt to just go with the flow and see what happens...makes life very interesting.

posted July 28, 2003 11:21 PM         

Thanks for the sympathy, it's deeply appreciated!! I don't know how to read charts (which is what I'm sure you're looking for), but I do think that you are a well matched pair just by seeing that you are a Sag (that explains your easily adapting attitude), and fire and air can be a great team. I am a fire sign as well and I know that air can fuel your fire and make you angry (as Geminis have the tendency to do) but other than that, I'm sure that your disputes probably don't last forever.

posted July 28, 2003 11:21 PM         

Thanks for the sympathy, it's deeply appreciated!! I don't know how to read charts (which is what I'm sure you're looking for), but I do think that you are a well matched pair just by seeing that you are a Sag (that explains your easily adapting attitude), and fire and air can be a great team. I am a fire sign as well and I know that air can fuel your fire and make you angry (as Geminis have the tendency to do) but other than that, I'm sure that your disputes probably don't last forever.

posted July 28, 2003 11:23 PM         

Thanks for the sympathy, it's deeply appreciated!! I don't know how to read charts (which is what I'm sure you're looking for), but I do think that you are a well matched pair just by seeing that you are a Sag (that explains your easily adapting attitude), and fire and air can be a great team. I am a fire sign as well and I know that air can fuel your fire and make you angry (as Geminis have the tendency to do) but other than that, I'm sure that your disputes probably don't last forever.

posted July 29, 2003 06:16 AM         

I've recently had a chart drawn up for the both of us, by Lanny...it was spookily accurate and put a lot of things in perspective for me. I happen to think we're well matched too, so do other people but there are times when we both clash. I think when it happens it's because we both want the limelight at the same time, if you see what I mean. We never quarrel for long though. We've both come through some quite rough times...I think the fact that we're still together says a lot really. Well I hope it does anyway

Tara

posted August 03, 2003 06:23 PM         

Glad he provided some food for thought, Tara! Lost track of you in your other thread in the Astrology Forum for awhile, good to know it's better understood by you...

Any couple dynamic can be unusual... but I bet you things will brighten up for the two of you if/when there's an improvement in your living situation.

Just curious, have you spent much time looking at your own chart? I dated Aries men for years, mainly because they helped teach me about how to be one, myself! And I've always noted that the better I understand myself, the better I'm able to see how my behaviour & presence (and intensity-- sigh) is likely to affect others... anyhow maybe that's just my pathway, but I always found my relationships improved when I was able to take a long soft look at myself, too. Easier said than done, though!

posted August 06, 2003 09:57 AM         

It's good to hear from you.

Do you know what...it's really strange but things are going so well between us at the moment. We're both really happy and enjoying being with each other. I'm surprised actually because having heard about Mars being in retrograde, I've been preparing myself for a tough time - hasn't happened yet though...keep your fingers crossed for me.

What you say about taking a soft look at yourself makes a lot of sense...I suppose over the last few weeks I have and I'm gradually starting to become aware of what makes me tick....think I've still got a long way to go, but it's a start anyway.

Hope to hear from you soon. Take care.

posted August 07, 2003 02:10 AM         

That's truly great news. But quite honestly, from your first post, I thought something like that was likely -- it was clear that you care very much, and were determined to learn and understand -- and with that winning attitude and love, something was bound to open up.

Have you shared any insights or discoveries with him? My Gem, while a total skeptic, is interested in all kinds of topics, and I've shared quite a lot with him, even emailed him descriptions of his character! He may laugh and not believe, but he hears the wisdom when it's presented logically, and accepts that part of it.

We also gave our relationship a big boost this year by setting up a "date" once a week, that we honour faithfully as private time (we decided it would be a weekday evening, because something always pops up on weekends to take us away from being private). Seems an odd thing to do as we live together, but it's made a huge difference to our relationship. Often that's when we talk about what's really going on in our lives -- other times we just catch up, or get really lazy and goof around, or... find other ways to enjoy the time. The date is constant, but the experience is always varied!

Drea made me laugh with her "make it fun with lots of pictures!" It's great to get the opinions of so many female Gems in this thread, by the way! Hi to all, and welcome new Knowflakes!

posted August 07, 2003 03:35 PM         

It's not for everyone, but Gemini moons can be loyal, loving, faithful and funny. As well as sexy. They are big family men and may turn out to want kids and dogs.

posted August 08, 2003 11:28 AM         

To be honest I wasn't convinced that things were going to improve between us - hence my search for answers and the discovery of Lindaland and all my new friends

You've all been such a big help to me. Thanks to everyone who offered their support, help and sympathy, I've gradually gained an insight into my Gemmy and have learnt so much about what makes him tick....things that he probably would never have told me himself. Because of these insights and because I've also learnt a hell of a lot about myself and who I am....it's just made such a difference to our relationship, and brought us closer together. I'm ecstatic at the moment as you can probably tell

To be honest I've been a bit crafty, I haven't told him about this site...well not yet anyway...I will though. My Gemmy is a bit of a sceptic too but is interested in also sorts of weird and wonderful things...I will tell him, I'm just waiting for a quiet moment when we're actually sitting down and talking...up to now we've just been here, there and everywhere, doing all sorts of things together.

What you say about your weekly date...sounds like a great idea and one which I'm gonna try...I'll let you know how it goes.

Speak to you soon

posted August 08, 2003 11:34 AM         

You have my sympathy you really do. I've been where you are, believe me and I don't envy you one bit but believe me if you can just learn to understand him and learn a bit a bout yourself, it will definitely stand you in good stead. Gemmy's are the hardest to understand and work out...but, they can also be the sweetest, which I suppose is all part of the attraction.

I feel sure things will work out for you.

Good luck