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Topic: Libra rising needs a shove off the fence
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Vulcansmoon Knowflake Posts: 9 From: Registered: Jul 2003
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posted July 15, 2003 01:56 PM
Hi everyone, its so good to see familiar names again. I used to be Katiebull, but lost my password, so here I am. I had to leave for awhile, as is my habit, to think about things and see where I stand. Anyway, I do have a situation at the moment, and Im not sure what to do.I am married, and the marriage has never been good. We are more like roommates than anything, and not friendly ones at that. In March, I met someone online, and thought nothing of it. There is alot of drama and intrigue to this story, but space prohibits telling it here. We end up talking on the phone. Weeks later, he confesses that he's falling in love with me. Now, months later, he has inherited a house, and wants me to move in with him. There are many many rational reasons why I shouldnt do this. I would just like an astrological profile of this situation, of us, because I could use some advice, big time. Thank you for your help. I truly appreciate it. me:5/8/68 5:45pm sussex, nj him: 12/7/1979 11:17 pm memphis, tn (yes, a huge age difference and geographic distance, besides everything else) husband: 9/24/69 (I have a strong "brother" vibe to him, I cant even descibe how real it is, since I dont even have any siblings) IP: Logged |
Aphrodite Moderator Posts: 3280 From: San Francisco, CA, United States Registered: Feb 2002
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posted July 15, 2003 01:59 PM
Funny thing, I was thinking about you yesterday.IP: Logged |
N_wEvil unregistered
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posted July 15, 2003 02:52 PM
Hi Katie, We're glad you popped up again IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 16464 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Nov 2000
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posted July 15, 2003 05:53 PM
Welcome back! You can always retrieve lost Passwords by trying to make a Post and clicking on the link below it. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Oxychick Moderator Posts: 2486 From: neither here nor there Registered: Jul 2002
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posted July 15, 2003 08:16 PM
Hi Katie,I remember you too...very glad to see you back. Sorry, I'm less than a beginner with astrology-maybe someone can help you there. But I will offer you the friendly wanring to be careful of moving too fast..especially with someone you barely know. I love Libra risings. I was in love with one for years and still think about him every day. Lots of luck to you. IP: Logged |
RubyRedRam unregistered
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posted July 16, 2003 01:41 AM
Welcome back Katie!!!This may be a sign that even though you may need to move carefully with the new guy, you should make a move from the current one. It is your life and you are in control! grasp onto it and don't waste one second!! All the best of luck to you! IP: Logged |
Vulcansmoon Knowflake Posts: 9 From: Registered: Jul 2003
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posted July 16, 2003 04:50 AM
Wow, I didn't think anyone would remember me! Thanks for all of your comforting, welcoming energies!And I think that I need to break away from the people Im near right now, because Ive recently come to realize how poisonous they have been to me most of my life. And this Sag has given me the opportunity to do so. We seem to click on so many levels, we dont even need to speak most of the time. But as much as my head tells me that I shouldnt go, and stay in the stable, secure life im in now, my heart says I would be doing myself and others a disservice by not leaving and opening up this life Im supposed to lead. Ive been arguing with myself for weeks now, and Im tiring myself out! IP: Logged |
Oxychick Moderator Posts: 2486 From: neither here nor there Registered: Jul 2002
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posted July 16, 2003 06:07 AM
Hey Katie Every once in a while I find I have to get rid of the negative influences in my life; sometimes that means the people who bring me down. And I recently went through that again. But I just want you to know that you can get away from these people on your own, and you don't necessarily need to depend on someone else to do it. Sounds positive that you've identified some negative things and realize you don;t want to be around them. Just stay strong and keep reminding yourself that you deserve to be happy. IP: Logged |
moondust Knowflake Posts: 102 From: Lafayette, LA U.S. Registered: Sep 2002
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posted July 17, 2003 02:15 AM
I speak from experience, but then again i'm not in your shoes. You are the only one that knows what the answers are. I can only tell you that it's not safe or rational to leave one relationship and jump into another. When you break off from a serious commitment, let alone a marriage, you need solo time: time to be you and figure out who you are; time to reclaim your identity and get to know yourself again. When people get married, regardless of how self aware you are, we lose sight of who we are and what we want. You sound a little confused, maybe you need to spend some time alone and not be influenced by what others are doing or saying, but what you are feeling. Anything from the outside seems good when you are in an unsatisfactory relationship. IP: Logged |
Lunargirl Knowflake Posts: 1513 From: south of utopia Registered: Mar 2003
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posted July 18, 2003 02:17 AM
Maybe you could help yourself decide by going on a vacation by yourself, or to a spa, by getting a massage, whatever you can afford in time and money.I frequently postpone major decisions until I can reconnect deeply with myself, usually by going for a massage, or reading Tarot. I think that most Taureans want love and security -- you're torn between two extremes where you are not guaranteed both -- that is hard -- but if you leave your husband/security/marriage contract abruptly, unfairly, you will definitely put the old security at risk. The Sag may be swell, but are you really ready to go to him, as the saying goes, wearing nothing but the clothes you stand in? And with no expectations? Because if there's any sign to choose as a life catalyst, it's a Sag! He may be in your life to help you break out of your rut, but not necessarily to stay (of course I know nothing -- maybe this is a great next relationship). Fire and Earth frequently attract each other, but they are quite opposite types. Liz Greene has a few things to say about this combo (you can also find her stuff on Astro.com if you don't have any of her books). If you're attracted to a Fire sign, then maybe that's telling you that you need to access your own inner fire. Whatever you do, be aware of _how_ you do it. With honour -- whatever you think will be important in looking at your own behaviour down the line. If the Sag is really for you, end your marriage first, then go to him. Work it out on a more stable schedule that is less brutal to your husband than dumping him (I have a feeling he cares a lot more than you think he does), and better for any new relationship starting out, if it's not based on a freshly-abandoned marriage. These Bruce Springsteen "Born to Run" stories can sometimes work -- but you have to know yourself well, and never look forward with expectations, or back with regrets. Good luck, Lunargirl IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 16464 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Nov 2000
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posted July 18, 2003 04:10 AM
------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Vulcansmoon Knowflake Posts: 9 From: Registered: Jul 2003
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posted July 18, 2003 05:15 AM
I laughed out loud when I saw "Born to Run"-growing up in New Jersey, it's kinda like our state anthem. Anyway, thanks to all of you for your concern about this whole situation I'm going through.I would love nothing more than to go off by myself for some sort of sabbatical, but the people who are in my life now (read: husband, mother) won't allow that. I'm trying to find a way. And I don't believe that this Sag is "my destiny"...just a friendly door that will allow me to escape from the prison I'm in now, and if it develops into more, great. But if not, at least I'm out. And I have no doubt that my husband loves me, in his way. But his kind of "love" is smothering and insecure and childlike, and I know is based on the kind of money I can bring to him, and how clean I can keep the house, and being the designated driver at any and all events. I feel more like a personal assistant that pays him to stay here. And Im not even getting into what my mother does-I dont need a migraine right now. I appreciate all your comments and have taken each one to heart. And through the support that I find through you and my other online friends, I know I'll somehow come to the right decision. Kat IP: Logged |
Oxychick Moderator Posts: 2486 From: neither here nor there Registered: Jul 2002
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posted July 27, 2003 12:11 PM
Hey Katie...What's the 4-1-1? How are things? IP: Logged |
Katiebull Knowflake Posts: 97 From: Vernon, NJ, USA Registered: Oct 2002
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posted July 28, 2003 01:53 PM
It's me, I found my old password. Well, things with the husband are the same, just now I was talking to him for about 5 minutes, and he finally looks over at me, and says "Did you say something?" Oh well. Maybe my third marriage will be the charm.The Sag and I have had some turbulent times, stemming from our totally honest discussions (the only kind a Sag and a Bull can really have, you know). Things may be delayed for awhile, so I can go to school this fall, but he still wants me to come to TN to be with him. He said if it takes until next year, he would still wait for me, and doesn't want to be with anyone else in the meantime. Mars is going retrograde tomorrow, so we're just going to not push anything, and see how things develop. Thanks for thinking of me everyone. Oh and I just posted my new,updated pic on that site-had to get rid of that old one...lol. Take care everyone! Love and Kate
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sthenri Knowflake Posts: 1125 From: New England US Registered: May 2003
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posted August 04, 2003 12:17 AM
Kate I'm a Taurus and Libra and Taurus are not romantic fireflies.You are too much the same to ever be that romantic all the time. Don't kid yourself I know you want the drama, the passion, the whole Gone with the Wind Production but you don't need it. Get what you need out of your relationship with your husband first, not what you want. Sags are great at stirring the imagination and I have lots of Sags do this for me. Still Sag and Taurus is not very great for the long term either, and Taurus needs that long term lover. How empty will you feel without that daily dose of affection? Libras need mental stimulation. If you both vacation more together and have interesting hobbies together he will come around. If you spend less time together and make romantic time a priority with no interruptions or TV you can do it. Speaking as a Taurus Libra team, it's a team effort, romance is an illusion, and love and sex are what counts. Put some spark back into it yourself, you don't need anyone else to help you do that. Natasha IP: Logged | |