posted August 18, 2003 10:43 PM
"Be yourself" is the best advice! I was born without that extra "bat-my-eyes" bone some seem to people have -- all right I can fake it with the best of them now, but I had to learn! I'm a Ram too, and have dated some luverly Ram men, but eventually found that pattern you mention to be a drag. It's nobody's fault, really -- it's just that most Aries women expect that their man will treat them as special, and the 'pull-away-so-I-can-chase-all-over-again' thing both contradicts that need, plus it gets boring, particularly for the woman. Aries men seem to be up for that more, in my opinionated opinion.
With Ram men and me, things worked best when there was variety and some space in the relationship. It was High Romance -- kind of like truckers and their wives -- every homecoming is a renewal, and while they're apart, getting on with doing things their own way, they can miss the other person and have wonderful phonecalls, etc.
I found that I did have to keep playing hard to get to keep my last Ram guy years ago, depite having a very special vibe between us that we both acknowledged. We both thought it would lead to marriage and children. But I'm no good at pretending, or maybe I'm just impatient, or maybe it slowly started to hurt too much that who I am didn't seem to be enough for him (pride? Hmm. Really it's all about needs). I ran out of interest for the games and what had turned into (what to me seemed) needless hurt. Mind you, this guy had serious Moon/Saturn conflicts, and he mistook suffering for love and so liked to create these conditions, plus he wasn't mature enough to accept responsibility for his choices, plus I wanted him to be what he was not, plus a few other expectations I'm not very proud of <shrug>, so our mutual little dysfunctional heaven had to go! Pop!
I'm sure you two are waaaaaaaay more together!
Astrologer Liz Greene says about Aries, that they have a tendency to act as if they can see some ideal man or woman somewhere just past your shoulder... I wonder what you'd say to that?
Definitely Ram-bling on,
cheers,
Lunargirl