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dawn25
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posted August 18, 2003 11:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for dawn25     Edit/Delete Message
Does anyone have advice on how to keep an Aries male interested? I am an Aries too and it seems that we are always pulling away from eachother but when we do come together its the most passionate experience I've ever felt. However, we can't get past the game playing and its driving me crazy. I know that we love the chase and all that but do I have to keep playing hard to get to win him over??

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Oxychick
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posted August 18, 2003 11:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Oxychick     Edit/Delete Message
Always keep them guessing and never let things get dull. Aries men like a good chase and they love the experience of the initial stages of a relationship. Tall order, huh?

Good luck.

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Aphrodite
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posted August 18, 2003 12:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aphrodite     Edit/Delete Message
there's the same twinkle in my eye about how do i stay interested in anyONE. heh, and i'm an aries

just be yourself, if it's meant to be then it will happen.

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DayDreamer
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posted August 18, 2003 09:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DayDreamer     Edit/Delete Message
Try to take things a bit slower. Don't be too forceful. I have a number of Aries gf's who try to initiate their relationships with fullforce only to be disappointed at the end.
You just have to be patient.

Try not to give too much of yourself at the beginning cuz things could get boring. Aries guys they like to initiate everything too. And they love surprises.

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Lunargirl
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posted August 18, 2003 10:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lunargirl     Edit/Delete Message
"Be yourself" is the best advice!

I was born without that extra "bat-my-eyes" bone some seem to people have -- all right I can fake it with the best of them now, but I had to learn! I'm a Ram too, and have dated some luverly Ram men, but eventually found that pattern you mention to be a drag. It's nobody's fault, really -- it's just that most Aries women expect that their man will treat them as special, and the 'pull-away-so-I-can-chase-all-over-again' thing both contradicts that need, plus it gets boring, particularly for the woman. Aries men seem to be up for that more, in my opinionated opinion.

With Ram men and me, things worked best when there was variety and some space in the relationship. It was High Romance -- kind of like truckers and their wives -- every homecoming is a renewal, and while they're apart, getting on with doing things their own way, they can miss the other person and have wonderful phonecalls, etc.

I found that I did have to keep playing hard to get to keep my last Ram guy years ago, depite having a very special vibe between us that we both acknowledged. We both thought it would lead to marriage and children. But I'm no good at pretending, or maybe I'm just impatient, or maybe it slowly started to hurt too much that who I am didn't seem to be enough for him (pride? Hmm. Really it's all about needs). I ran out of interest for the games and what had turned into (what to me seemed) needless hurt. Mind you, this guy had serious Moon/Saturn conflicts, and he mistook suffering for love and so liked to create these conditions, plus he wasn't mature enough to accept responsibility for his choices, plus I wanted him to be what he was not, plus a few other expectations I'm not very proud of <shrug>, so our mutual little dysfunctional heaven had to go! Pop!

I'm sure you two are waaaaaaaay more together!

Astrologer Liz Greene says about Aries, that they have a tendency to act as if they can see some ideal man or woman somewhere just past your shoulder... I wonder what you'd say to that?

Definitely Ram-bling on,
cheers,
Lunargirl

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Oxychick
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posted September 01, 2003 08:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Oxychick     Edit/Delete Message
So how's it going with Mr. Aries?

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dawn25
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posted September 09, 2003 10:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for dawn25     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Oxychick..thanks for asking. Things are more confusing then ever. He is a great person but it seems that we are always competing and there are so many power struggles with us that we can never just be ourselves or maybe we are just being ourselves. He always seems to have his guard up and just doesn't let himself be vulnerable. Only certain moments he does but then he has to run away for a week and then I have to call and he's right back. I'm also caught in another dilemma, my ex who is a Taurus has just called me out of the blue and it seems as if we never parted. He just soothes my soul if that makes sense. It seems like there is no other place I'd rather be. But he's hurt me in the past and I'm afraid that he will do it again.

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