posted October 03, 2003 11:14 AM         

Does anyone have experiences or observations regarding relationships (all types, not just romantic ones) between Aries and Libra?

I have a long-time friend from high school who is a Libra Sun, Libra rising and Aries Moon. Right now, we are not getting along. The locus is that she wants to have an ideal friendship where it is okay to be p****d off at each other and do mean things, yet still be friends. She also stated that in interpersonal communications, you must always be aware of the things you say and what impact they have on another person.

I said to her that I don't want either of us to be p****d off. I am very uncomfortable with this type of energy given free reign under a notion of "friend."

As for the interpersonal communication, I said to her my personal view was people can say whatever they want and we always have a choice as to how to react to these things. (I align along the lines of the book, The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz.) I also said that it's not always possible to know every story that goes on inside the mind of another individual, or what exactly it was that set them off.

She is under the impression that the speaker is responsible for another's reaction. I hold the opposite view, we are responsible for what we do and can only do our best when it comes to predicting another person's reaction. The responsibility for another's actions are out of our hands.

Anyhow, I have already decided to not continue this friendship. Yet, am very interested in reading observations regarding these signs.

Thank you!

Love

Aphrodite

posted October 03, 2003 02:05 PM         

You are right we have the right to control our reactions because we are not all here to react to another persons arguments but at the same time we can speak our mind without criticizing.

A friend is one who allows you to speak without making you feel you have to watch every word out of your mouth, then your creative self expression would end.

Your friend needs space, but she or he probably doesn't like anyone to get too close to change his or her mind about things.

I have a friend like that who is a triple Gemini and I leave him alone for extended periods of time and then he is back on track.

posted October 04, 2003 08:24 AM         

For years, I have been witness to a never-ending war between two karmic lovers, a Libra (female) and an Aries (male). Libra wavers in her affections. I believe she truly loves him, beyond all others, but has yet to be happy with herself and therefore pushes him away almost cyclically (their last parting was of the Aries' volition, and I think it's tearing Libra up inside). The two of them were capable of hurling the most insulting, disastrous words at each other and always forgiving in the end-seems to be something oppositions can do quite well. Libra will very often mistreat her lovers (and friends, at least when it becomes lovers vs. friends). Libra always expects them to come right back because it was only an expression of her anger. Sounds like your Libra friend.

posted October 06, 2003 10:38 PM         

She would get upset but everyone would point out that he couldn't hear her anyway so she accepted that. She baked and cooked a lot and he was pretty rigid about when he wanted dinner and the way he wanted things around the house. The toliet paper for example had to be put on the roll correctly and she let him have his way that way. But she did all the talking. I am sure the hearing aid turned down helped, but he always worked a lot and she devoted a lot of time to her sons.

When she died, he went a year later, they were both in their 80's. They loved eachother very much, but when they went they didn't have much money, she spent it all on furnishings for their place, she decorated everything with yellow ruffles, the walls, the cushions, it was spectacular. I know another older Libra that did this with Lilac and Purple, it was photographable. She even had an altar to her late husband done in Purple and Lilac with candles. You have to admit those Libras are elegant.

I think it can work but only if the Aries is very tolerant and the Libra has a lot to do with family, and friends. Aries need to do things, Libra likes relationships but more than one. Libras don't like to be alone and I think he was punishing her a little so that he wouldn't hear her when they were alone together. They were still the happiest couple I have seen in a while. He used to stare at her like she was a rainbow even though she was huge and say, she's just wonderful with that dazed look, especially when he was eating her cake or pie.

They were pretty cute but I always got sick from her cooking, I never told her though.
Personally I would turn my hearing aid down too, she would tell him when to smile, when to turn on the tv, I mean really bossy. She was over involved with her sons and they never really grew up, they borrowed money a lot too which irked the Aries. I think it can be good, two Libras can be too easy going especially with money. Unless one is born with money it's hard to hold on to it. The Libras I know are not rich but like to live moderately well and an Aries is hard worker.

posted October 06, 2003 11:32 PM         

It damaged our friendship a good bit. She and her family moved away about a year ago and she has called and told me she misses the only real friend she had ever had, me.

For me friendship is unconditional in both directions. I can completely understand your not wanting to continue the friendship. This must happen a lot with your friend?