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pocco
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From: Bangalore, Karnataka, India
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posted January 27, 2004 02:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocco     Edit/Delete Message
You all know that just afew months back I broke up with my scorpio guy. Since then we rarely meet or even communicate. But on January 1 I met my ex-boyfriend who is a Taurean after two years. I broke up with him because I felt that we didn't communicate much and meeting was impossible because he moved into a different state.

Initially I planned to meet him as a friend since he came down to India after a long time. But as the day went by we talked and I realised that he had never stopped loving me. During our conversation I told him about this Scorp and he accepted everything with open hands. He just me put on top of the world. There was nothing like it and at the end of the day he proposed me for marriage. I don't know what came over me and I accepted his proposal instantly. Soon I found him talking to my parents about the wedding. My family is very happy to know about this and they have all liked him very much. His parents have also given their approval. And the wedding is scheduled to be sometime this year end or early next year. He has gone back to the US but he has been in constant touch with me.

Now my ex-scorp happened to call me up yesterday for a casual talk. Somehow I felt that he wanted to get back. He knows nothing about the wedding. Although our conversation lasted for a short while, I've been upset since then. I don't know why but I've been thinking about him constantly. The more I try to shift my thoughts away from him the more I find myself thinking about him. I know this Taurean can really keep me happy and I don't want to get back to that Scorp again even if there had been no Taureans for me.

How can I get rid of this scorp's thoughts. Please help.

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lllog
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posted January 27, 2004 09:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lllog     Edit/Delete Message
First of all, be honest with your self about how you feel. If it turns out that you really would rather be with the scorpio, then call off the wedding and follow your heart. If you realize that its the taurus that you really care for, then deal with it accordingly. It may be that the scorpio is more exciting, but is he long lasting.

Excitment has a way of waring off after a while, while steady love lasts forever, but you must be honest with yourself above all other things.

You do the math.

Best of luck, however you choose.
Lanny

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sthenri
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posted January 27, 2004 10:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Pocco, look at your forecast at astro.com to find out how the planets are affecting your mood right now. You can enter your birthdata for free and go to Free charts and look for personal forecast. This will help. Taureans do not always communicate it's true, but they love to talk on the phone, so don't hesitate to run up your phone bill or reverse the charges to him.

Natasha
Taurus
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astro junkie
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posted January 27, 2004 11:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
Pocco -
If it was me talking to the Scorpio again, the first thing out of my mouth, with pure happiness and excitement would have been, "I'm getting married!!!"

Why didn't you ever mention it?

.gloria

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need to believe
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posted January 27, 2004 12:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for need to believe     Edit/Delete Message
Dear Pocco,
I think what's missing out of this whole narrative is your own feelings. True you are confused, but that's because you are not focusing on what really means to you. Why did you break up with your ex- in the first place? Do you think he will keep communicating with you after marriage? Maybe he's just being nice right now because he wants to woo you. What made him suddenly come back to you AND propose marriage? Was he in a relationship that didn't work out so he decided to come back to you? I don't know. But I don't think you should rush into this. Also, it would be helpful to do what Natasha says and check which planet your moon is in.
In the end a good marriage is more important than a great wedding.
Love and light to you.

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pocco
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posted January 28, 2004 02:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocco     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks so much.

I know I have sounded very confusing. But I am very sure that the Taurus can keep me really happy. I feel that he had never stopped loving me even though we were separate. He did try calling me up when we had separated but it was me who refused to speak to him. At that time I thought i had the Scorp beside me. And moreover the Scorp was so possessive about me that he wouldn't tolerate me talking to any guy except my own brother. Somehow now I feel that after five whole years of mental pressure with the scorp I am free to do my will at last. The Taurus however acknowledges that he has learnt his lesson. He told me that even though he tried getting into a couple of relationships, he couldn't do so since he had never stopped loving me. Now he just doesn't miss a chance to communicate. All he keeps saying is that "I'll do everything for you but all you have to do is just be with me".

As far as the scorp is concerned I know very well that it'll turn out to be the same even if I get back to him.

I'm a little scared to tell the scorp about the wedding because he's very revengeful. If he really wants to get back then he can actually go to any extent to achieve his goal. He will not stop at anything even if he has to pay dearly for it. So I really don't know how to go about it.

As far as my feelings are concerned, I'm quite clear about the fact that I am with the Taurean. But I really don't know how to handle the scorp anxiety.

As far as looking at my charts is concerned I'm still not perfect in doing so. Can one of you please help me out? This is the info about my Moon:

Moon in the 10th house
Moon in Virgo
Moon Conjunct Midheaven
Moon Sextile Mars

Also my Ascendant is in Scorpio.

I did check this out at astro.com but have been unable to figure out the exact thing.

Waiting eagerly for your help.

Thanks once again.

pocco

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posted January 28, 2004 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
Pocco -

Why do I get the feeling that there is a power gap going on? It doesn't seem as if the men in your life think of you as a woman who has the right to do as she pleases...

How are you going to make yourself or anyone else happy this way?

.gloria

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sthenri
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posted January 28, 2004 09:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Pocco, what is your birth date, place and time? With your 10th house moon you would feel more comfortable with a Taurus, one of my best friends has this and her moon is conjunct her midheaven too. Scorpios do get bossy don't they? It's best not to let him make contact. Establish a boundary. Contact him only and make sure you do so only if necessary, do not take his calls, that's it. He is making you feel guilty, but it's not your problem.

I will take a look and post what I see here,

Natasha
Taurus/7th house
Cancer Moon/8th house

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pocco
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posted January 29, 2004 02:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocco     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks a ton for helping me out.

Natasha:
My info is:

Birth place: Asansol, India
Time: 10:22 A.M.

Gloria:
You've guessed right. I really don't get much of a choice with either Especially with the Scorp. The Taurus is much better that way. But sometimes he did get stubborn too. But however he's trying his level best now.


Thanks once again.

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pocco
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posted January 29, 2004 07:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocco     Edit/Delete Message
I don't know why but I feel that I'm trying to convince myself all the time that the Taurean is far better than the scorpio. But things are moving so swiftly that its getting difficult to analyse the whole situation. For the time being the Taurean calls me up some eight times a day while I have no news about the Scorp.

I really don't know what am I groping for.

pocco

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sthenri
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posted January 29, 2004 10:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Pocco what is your birthdate?

Thank you, Natasha

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astro junkie
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posted January 29, 2004 11:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
Pocco -

A rule of life. When you have two lovers you cannot decide between...

IT'S NEITHER

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pocco
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posted January 29, 2004 10:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocco     Edit/Delete Message
Natasha:
Birth Date: 8th September, 1980.

Gloria:
I guess you are right. And that's where the confusion lies. When I think of the Scorpio, all I can think of are those bad moments because they were so many that thinking about the good times is like looking for a needle in a haystack. But when I'm with the Taurean or while talking to him, I'm so much at ease. I guess my troubles lie in the fact that I feel terribly guilty when I begin thinking about the Scorp when I know I have the Taurean. But one thing is definitely clear within me is that its a definite NO to the Scorp. Thats what my practical side tells me. Do I need to give myself some time before I can get out of this Scorp completely?

Thanks.
pocco

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astro junkie
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posted January 29, 2004 11:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
Pocco -

You have so many planets in Virgo...

Are you sure you're not overly intellectuallizing OR over-analyzing things?

Do you know how you really feel about any of this? Do you know how to get in touch with the sappy feelings?

Maybe you are attributing any deep feelings you DO feel to the Scorpio, and giving him all the credit for it.

Perhaps you are compartmentalizing parts of yourself and "storing" them in different people. OWN all parts of yourself before giving it away! Before giving away the glory that is yours and yours alone.

If you don't, you're not really loving anyone.

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pocco
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posted January 30, 2004 03:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocco     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Gloria.

Do you think if I really take a firm stand for myself, stick to the Taurean no matter what and barr all feelings for the Scorp will help me out? Whenever I think of the Scorp all I have within me is just bitterness.

pocco

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astro junkie
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posted January 30, 2004 07:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
Pocco -

Sometimes we think love has to hurt.

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