posted February 18, 2004 03:28 PM         

I hope that's what you are asking,

I can't advise you on what to do with your friend, because at this point, he is a friend to you and not an intimate from what you have written. Is that what you want is the question you have to ask yourself. You can't do anything to make him change, nobody can, you will have to accept him as is. Can you do that? Better ask yourself before asking him what he will do so you can mentally prepare yourself.

Do not wound yourself emotionally anymore than you have to, because this is his need not yours. Some time apart is what I would recommend for the relationship.

You are wondering if you are just friends or not but only time can tell.

Big difference between

Friend

Intimate Friend

Boyfriend just doesn't say anything to anybody. If someone called me a girlfriend I wouldn't know how to classify the relationship. Some people need stronger boundaries than others.

A Virgo who says to me, oh we are not a "couple" is a much stronger intimate friend for me, than one that says we are "friends" no matter what kind of intimacy has taken place. For other people I think the acts matter, but for me it's a question of loyalty down the line. And I have strong 8th house/Scorpio signature in my chart.

Sometimes you have to get the love you need from the world too.

posted February 18, 2004 03:30 PM         

Confrontation does work but is it worth it?

posted February 19, 2004 09:37 AM         

"and i fear that his reply may lead me to take an action that would be bad for our relationship..."

Things are already bad for your relationship because of his actions and your lack of reaction. I'm sorry, but I completey agree with Pid, if you two can't talk this over, then your relationship is already seriously flawed.

Coupled with the fact that as you pointed out, he consciously took to seeking out new relationships...well, these things don't bode well.

Waiting 4 months??? You will wait forever, I think, unless you take the initiative to confront him with your concerns.

It's a contradiction for you to say "we are serious about our relationship," if he is seeking other women without your knowledge, and you are in effect sanctioning that--although you do hint that perhaps he wanted you to find his registration with the online dating service.

Some couples have 'open' relationships, and that's fine, I have no problem with that, and if that's what you two want, OK. But I don't get that feeling from your posts.

In any event, I wish you well, and hope you both come to a peaceful loving resolve.

posted February 19, 2004 12:53 PM         

I am being crystal clear to help you out in your feelings and emotions which are fogging your brain: No one who read your first post which is the truth: would think that he saw you as a serious girlfriend! Is your pride keeping you in this relationship? Pride is not love, and real love is letting people go so they can grow and change.

Growing and changing is not bad, but stopping that is. Pride is wrong, it's always wrong regarding those you love, a little admiration is fine but SCORPIOS SUFFER FROM PRIDE AFFLICTION.

You know how proud you are, but who are you to suffer? Do you inspire other women? Are you proud of not confronting him?

Take a look at yourself and ask yourself in your Scorpion way if you are truly happy with the way you feel and think right now?

Who are you to think you cannot suffer or be vulnerable? Do not be strong for him, because you are keeping him from growing. Chances are he DID want you to see that email. I have done similar stupid things. Nobody is perfect. What are you going to do about it? Say Something, SAY SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING.

Put it to music, repeat,

SAY SOMETHING
SAY SOMETHING
IF YOU WANT TO BE LOVED
SAY SOMETHING
IF YOU WANT TO LOVE YOURSELF
SAY SOMETHING
IF YOU WANT TO BE RESPECTED
SAY SOMETHING
IF YOU WANT TO RESPECT YOURSELF
STAND UP AND SAY SOMETHING,
say something
SAY SOMETHING
say something

REPEAT
repeat
REPEAT
repeat

for life,

posted February 19, 2004 01:30 PM         

All I can say is that you must have some serious Neptune or 12th House challenges. As far as THIS relationship goes, you are NOT living in reality.

You are both SO young. If he doesn't intend to marry you within the next year, if there is no engagement ring on your finger, then I guarantee that you are both young and will be on to other people.

That's it. Punto.

You will learn one day that as with ALL things in life, you have to let things breathe. NOTHING in life will be a 100% dependent on what YOU think, what YOU want, and what you do...

The sooner your Scorpio Moon learns to live with that fact, the better off you will be. Trust me. I have 3 planets in Scorp.

with love & support,

.gloria

posted February 20, 2004 11:00 AM         

Sorry. One thing I have noticed with the Scorp / Scorp relationship is the constant power struggle.

I had a good friend that was a Scorp married to a Scorp. He was mean - plain and simple. He got her to do things that just made me cringe. In the same respect, because of his need to control her, she would NOT clean house or even spend any time or effort making herself look nice. It was as if they constantly tried to push others buttons.

I can't go into things, because I have too much respect for her and even though we are no longer friends, I will never betray her trust. What I can say, is that she went from a vivacious - outspoken fun person, to a beat down, frumpy - sad case. I haven't seen her in 2 years, so I am not sure if she is even still with him - I hope not - I hope that Pluto helped her tear down the walls and start elsewhere.