posted February 24, 2004 01:39 AM         

It's such a knee-jerk reaction these days, but it's so old and "pop psychology". Lots of women who've lived a little know what it's like to survive and are strong enough to admit they are "lonely". It's not and shouldn't be considered to be a weakness.

Cheza -
Can you please do me a favor? You are writing those dates with only numbers, and since over here the numbers are in a different order, I just want to make sure I'm seeing the dates accurately... can you write Sept, March you know...

Thanks...

.gloria

posted February 24, 2004 03:13 AM         

Things are so different in AUS as they are in the UK. I still get all confuzzled with changing farenheit and degrees.

Here is the information that you have requested.

The romantic man is September 4th, 1971

The Non committed but has my heart is December 31st, 1968

My birthdate is March 19, 1970

posted February 26, 2004 06:07 AM         

I have that cappy man hassling me like you would not believe. He will not leave me alone despite telling him to call me in two months as he has hurt me. I cant work him out. I am trying to figure out what exactly I have that he wants so that he can leave me in peace. I somehow dont think that he will leave me alone.

Then I have the romantic Virgo??? Work that one out!! I meet him this Sunday so will keep you posted.

Thanks again Gloria.

posted February 26, 2004 08:17 AM         

Astro-junckie, I didn't mean this for woman only, its true for men as well. I also didn't indicate that it was a weakness, its not, its just human nature.

Cheza, you didn't say that you had a child, that does make a difference of course. It shouldn't but it does. There are men out there who would welcome both of you into their life, you just haven't run across one yet.

If you would like a transit reading for the next several months, post your entire birthdata (date, time & place), or email it to me at LLLOG@yahoo.com.

Lanny

posted February 26, 2004 07:16 PM         

And would you believe it, after politely telling this cappy to call me in two months, he again calls me last night. I am trying very hard to keep a level head here but gawd is he confuzzling!!!!

Are all cappys like this one???

posted February 28, 2004 02:57 PM         

Sorry I didn't get on this sooner... I had a major exam this week and finally behind me...

A quick glance and I can see both why the Cap has you confused yet mesmerized, and why the romantic one is the better of the two for you.

TRUST ME... the Cap is buying your time. I'll say it once and I say it again. Cap's do well ONLY if they're made to work like heck for the one they want.

Only with this guy, he'll run out of steam relatively quickly. If he's not been working like heck from the get go, lose him fast, or you'll only have yourself to blame. Be good to your heart.

If he's been working like heck from the get-go, keep him there for at least a year, and "put out" very cautiously. My bet is he won't be around anymore.

You MUST be careful with your Venus in Aries!!!! I cannot stress this enough. It makes your number one priority:

...evaluating and RE-evaluating what and how you are investing in a relationship...

with love & support,

posted February 29, 2004 02:52 AM         

Thankyou for your input. I really appreciate it and have taken it onboard.

I met up with Mr Romantic today. We got on like a house on fire. However there is one slight problem, He is attracted to me but I am NOT attracted to him

Such is life....................

I think I am somehow destined to be lonely. Mr Cappy still hassles me and I have been ignoring his calls etc.

Will keep you posted, Thankyou once again Gloria, you are the best.

Warm fuzzies,

posted February 29, 2004 11:30 AM         

The Cap will not commit, so he made his decision, don't worry about it. If the Virgo won't commit then there is a problem but you don't know that yet. Communicate to the Virgo what you need exactly because Virgos are not so great at communicating sometimes. They can be quiet and easily spooked away.

Be affectionate with the Virgo, but ask for marriage if that' what you want, and do not think about the Cap-Focus.

posted February 29, 2004 11:35 AM         

And he will find someone if you don't talk to him, Caps don't like to be alone much, they like a sure thing. He would juggle both of you though, if he could, so your feelings are in the right place. Aries and Virgo have better luck together.

Virgos are shy though for an Aries, and you may feel put down and put out and think about going back to Mr. Cap. However, once Mr. Cap figures out you are looking elsewhere and trust me you can't hide your feelings, he will be cold and punishing. You don't want that. Continue on the course you are on , and stick it out. You may be surprised, but the Virgo will always be a friend to count on and that's what you Venus in Aries really needs. Not a lover but a friend.

Venus in Aries is in detriment and Venus is about friendship. Venus in Aries needs to let the friendships in and not commit as much right off the batt in love. Do not confuse affection with love. Take as much affection as you want but do not commit right away.

I my case, the Virgo is a little spooked I think by my warm expansive nature, and that's okay. I will be around, but I will not be by myself. IF the virgo gets depressed or unhappy about it then I did the best I could.

posted February 29, 2004 01:26 PM         

That's really good news...

Sometimes suckers like us think a certain guy (with flaws and all) continue to hound us because we are so "special and unique". When in reality, they have a difficult time finding more suckers like us they can lead by the nose for sustained periods of time.

It's all about supply and demand. You supply and he'll continue to demand. Stop supplying, his demand will stop.

This should also be a good indicator of how suckers like us must be very outnumbered by women who don't put up with the crrap.

That should give you an indication of how lazy he is to spend all that time looking for another "rare" sucker.

Don't try to explain ANYTHING to him. Let it go 100%. Don't try to enlighten him or change him. He's got you pegged, and its in that place where his total illusion of you will die out.

If you are not attracted to the other guy, its understandable that you may not want to get too involved and hurt his feelings. That one is going to be more work for you if you do not reach some kind of comfort zone between you. But just know you are becoming a stronger better person and don't look back. Keep moving forward. It's not a question of how loving you are at this point. It's a question of how gullible you are.

.gloria

posted February 29, 2004 07:30 PM         

Thankyou for you reply. I appreciate your comments and experiances as they help me greatly.

Mr Cappy has got someone else BUT he still calls me. Thank goodness he doesn't turn up at my house and its only the phone calls.

I firmly agree with your points on friendship, and that the cappy prefers to juggle both women at once as he appears to be doing so at the moment.

The Virgo is head over heels about me, there is no denying that. But I have no attraction to him at all, which is sad as he is a lovely man that I feel would treat me well. We get along very very well.

Thanks again Natasha,

posted February 29, 2004 08:08 PM         

If you DON'T make us proud, I will be SOOOO mad at you...

He says "he would like to remain friends due to your unselfish and non argumentitive nature" - - - ???????????????????????

AHHHHH!!!! I want to scream at the top of my lungs child!!!

If that's not controlling in nature, I don't know what is!!! PLEEEEEZ... don't you see through that? A friend would NEVER in a billion-trillon years say that to you.

Hey Cheza - I want to remain friends with you because you agree with everything I say here, you don't give me any bunk, and you make me feel like I'm all that...

Does that sound like I'm your FRIEND???

A friend says, "Cheza - I like you because you are patient enough to post your truest feelings and take the time to understand mine. I value your opinions and your input and thank you..."

Are you a dog that has to be reminded where her place is? "Unselfish & Non-argumentative", like tossing scraps of leftovers to you and guising it as a complement? That f'ing piece of $*%#@! is talking out of both sides of his AZZ...

Don't get me started... don't let me near him... and don't get me started...

Perhaps you need to nip this in the bud. A year from now he'll still be calling once in a while just to see what will happen. Are you secretly glad he's calling you so that if one day down the line you need him, you'll....

OH NO!!!! Don't you dare girl!!!!!

Do you think you'll have the strength to nip this in the bud once and for all? Change your phone number. If I were you, I'd pay the frickin $18 to change my phone number. That's what I would do if I were you WITHOUT HESITATION.

And right before then, I'd answer the phone and tell him, (WITHOUT saying you are sorry about ANYTHING)... "Hello 'a-hole'... I'd appreciate it you stop calling. I have nothing to say to you and I'm in love with someone special. Not you. So STOP CALLING!" And hang up the phone.

You don't have to sound like a bittch , and DON'T sound like you are out of control. Say it calmly and confidently. Like you really DO have someone special in your life. Don't say any more, or any less. Just that. Don't breathe, hiss or sigh. Don't cry or be oversweet. Just be neutral. Get the words out without fanfare and be done with it...

GOOD RIDDENS!!!!!!!!!

If you don't, I'm gonna find out where you live and I'm gonna spank you!!

He's a big big big big

posted February 29, 2004 08:41 PM         

Thanks again. I was quite humoured by your reply. But I did muster up the strength to call him and request that he not to call me anymore.Lets see how that goes. Oh and I did make comment that he isn't man enough for a woman like me! hehe. That went down like a tonne of bricks as with the "I don't wish to be your friend as you are a coward" comment I also made.

posted March 24, 2004 02:42 AM         

I felt like punching him in the face, he made me soooooo mad. I got really angry at him and when he left (5 minutes after he arrrived UNEXPECTEDLY) I burst into tears. He still has my heart and it really hurts me a lot.

I am trying so hard here to be strong but he has just put me back to square one again and upset me greatly. I love him but I hate him so much.

posted March 24, 2004 03:19 PM         

You need to find that person inside you who is allowed to say NO! Tell him he is not welcome. Read again what I wrote earlier. Dont you think I already knew he was going to pull something like this?

.gloria