posted March 26, 2004 06:20 PM         

So he was kind and gracious and funny, and all of that but a little reserved. At the end, I left him with a hug since he looked kind of lost and I didn't really expect to see him again since he was reserved at the end. I am getting used to this dating stuff. Okay.

Then he calls and tells me he is dating someone and felt bad that he didn't tell me this before. So I get really angry and tell him off without wanting to. Then he told me to call him again. i did and he acted irritated. Then he called me and was surprised that I was mad, we had lunch and we decided to be friends for now. Which works.

Then last week he called me up. Basically he is looking to leave the Cancer if I am attracted to him. I told him no way, i don't want that on my head. He then refused to listen and is now very hard headed about everything.

What do you think? I get angry, happy, upset, scared, it's hard to think. I don't know if I can be attracted to him. I get very attracted at times, but it's because he looks good. But so did the Capricorn. It's the inside that counts but he is asking me to make a decision so soon that affects his life and hers. He doesn't know what he is playing with since my Pluto/10th house has a lot of influence over others.

To confuse things more, he is wealthy from his parent's family and independent, but supporting the Cancer. So where would she go, or is it my problem?

I have challenges with giving affection (hugs) in a relationship, in other words I get bored easily and have a hard time maintaining romance. I get smothered easily at the same time need affection?

Here is our composite, the house is on th end, sun, mercury, moon and venus are all in the fifth house.
I leave it to you
Knowflakes:

Composite
Composite Horoscope
midpoint method
PLANETARY POSITIONS
planet sign degree house
Sun Gemini 07°42'04 05
Moon Gemini 07°41'43 05
Mercury Gemini 03°52'08 05
Venus Taurus 26°21'51 05
Mars Pisces 03°05'17 02
Jupiter Cancer 19°36'02 07
Saturn Aries 03°44'13 03
Uranus Virgo 18°05'54 08
Neptune Scorpio 21°29'06 10
Pluto Virgo 17°03'12 08
True Node Taurus 15°08'11 04

HOUSE POSITIONS (Placidus)
Ascendant Capricorn 16°58'44
2nd House Aquarius 26°26'33
3rd House Aries 00°40'27
Imum Coeli Taurus 00°29'57
5th House Taurus 26°17'01
6th House Gemini 20°08'04
Descendant Cancer 16°58'44
8th House Leo 26°26'33
9th House Libra 00°40'27
Medium Coeli Scorpio 00°29'57
11th House Scorpio 26°17'01
12th House Sagittarius 20°08'04

If you want to see our natal placements, let me know...

Thanks and Take Care
Natasha
Taurus

posted March 26, 2004 06:33 PM         

But, Natasha...aiche...being the "other woman" and playing a part in breaking another woman's heart, especially a crab....? I wouldn't want any part of that either.

posted March 26, 2004 08:54 PM         

He's basically asking you if he should leave HER for YOU?

posted March 26, 2004 10:58 PM         

So he is almost always single.
Even though he likes to see himself as a couple, she is never around? Maybe that's why he is unhappy? He has Venus and Mercury in Cancer. He's pretty domesticated.

But I don't know him well enough to commit on any intimate level. He has a Taurus moon and Mars, he's being really hard headed about the entire thing.

posted March 27, 2004 12:20 AM         

First off, he is very confused, he likes you, because you are new and exciting and you have something new to offer.

He prolly still likes her, but hasn't been with her for more than 9 months at the most i would say. She and he are at the stage where you start to learn all the things you don't like about the other. He wants a reason to dump her other than he doesn't like the way she does something he hadn't noticed before. He likes you because he doesn't notice all of those little things yet. But if you 2 are right for eachother, when that time comes he will be able to see past the things he doesn't like to what really matters.

Now I would say that if he does break up with her, be his freind for a while, talk to him and get close with him if possible. If you 2 do get together then keep it light for a while. There is nohting that a Gemini likes more than a challange or a mystery....

Learn his ins' and outs' before you let yourself get too deeply involved with him.....

Sorry if this is a little brutal, but i am a Gemini, and i know us well lol, we are so 2 sided we confused ourselves.

posted March 27, 2004 12:04 PM         

This is the best piece of Gemini advice I've ever read, because it can be applied to so many things.

posted March 27, 2004 10:10 PM         

Point out to the Gemini that if he is truly unhappy, he would leave this Cancer girl either way - whether you are going to be around for him or not. Tell him that you are not well informed enough to help make him a decision regarding this because HE has the history with her. And YOU don't know anything about that. (Ok, except for what he tells you but for what it's worth, I wouldn't pay too much attention to what a Gem says, moreso what they do or do not do). Given that their relationship really has nothing to do with you, the ball is in his court. He's gotta decided what to do whether he likes it or not. Don't promise to be around for him even if he does leave her. And big deal about him being attractive. Most likely he won't be in 50 yrs. and if you're serious about him, it'll take more than that to keep him around. I tend to actually keep the "attractive" ones at arm's length. Many times they just rely on their supposed charm and looks to get by in life (more likely to get away with things) and there are few things that I disrespect more than this. Show me someone who had to fight and struggle for everything she or he has attained and I am infinitely more inspired. Anyway, I'm going off on a tangent again!! As usual!!

posted March 28, 2004 10:26 AM         

Oh, and with the Merc/Venus placement in Cancer, I bet he is feeling emotionally abandoned...likely also realizes you offer a ton more stability and a whole lot less moodniness than she does, but doesn't know how to cut the ties of dependence with her, so she doesn't hate him, cause that would bother him almost more than actually leaving her, since he is so sensitive.

posted March 28, 2004 10:00 PM         

Our senses take over:>

I am used to this challenge, but it's good to hear it again. I like him but he does need to stand on his own two feet for a while. I don't really think he will leave her since she holds on to things, and he likes that. His pisces ascendant feels protected by her Cancer Sun. I think he is not into taking chances, or at least he is bitter.

Sometimes he comes off a little bitter about her, but he won't say why. I guess I like a good mystery, all I know is she is moody, quiet, away a lot, is dependent financially, and had a terrible childhood. Those are based on my observations not his. I wouldn't like to live with her either.

Yes he is living with her, I just don't see him living alone, with his Venus and Mercury in Cancer, Taurus moon/2nd house, mercury and Mars and Pisces ascendant. He likes stability.

You are correct Virgo Aries, he does not like moods, but does he have the confidence to go after what he wants instead of picking apart everything that's good? We all have to take chances in life. I can't do it for him.

There is a fine line between living your dream and picking it apart and destroying it. I would happily help him with his dream but I don't want any of mine destroyed or taken away from me.

But I will be his friend, that's all I can do for now.

Geminis are funny and sweet but can be suddenly unhappy and moody for no reason (especially with a lot of Cancer)-I have loved a Gemini before and we worked well together as a team, only I had to watch his moods. Geminis like attention, and a Taurus is sometimes slow to give it.

But I do have Mercury in Gemini/7th house conjunct my Sun and trine Uranus so we understand each other pretty well.