posted April 08, 2004 08:33 AM         

juniperb

posted April 08, 2004 11:47 AM         

I must have a conection with the mind with that the emotions come...

After that (for me) the physical doesn't matter. Because of the first two the physical always fits. We just make it fit..but not in a forced way more...fluid...can't explain it but my problems have been where mentally there was not 'a meeting of the minds'

Amber
(Libra)

posted April 08, 2004 12:09 PM         

What about a spiritual connection? Can we add that too? Most important to me. Then it's intellectual, emotional, physcial...
Intelligent conversations turn me on, which then can lead to an emotional understanding, then manifest into physical attraction.

posted April 08, 2004 12:09 PM         

For me, it'd be something like that - each the point of a triangle (let's pretend that I made an equilateral one), with no point continually as either the "top" or as part of the "base". It's probably true that in any long term relationship, one or the other will temporarily fall by the wayside (with one or both of the others ideally picking up the slack - temporarily).
I was tempted to put "physical" on a lesser footing than the others, but it's definitely something that you notice when it's not there.

posted April 08, 2004 12:12 PM         

Maybe my little lop-sided triangle should look like this, then:

posted April 08, 2004 01:16 PM         

For me, wow, well, I can say that for me personally, quite honestly, like some others have said, the physical comes totally last, since I also believe that when all of the other aspects are there, that element just naturally follows the other things.

What comes in order where the other things are concerned though?

I guess for me it's spiritual first, because that is the basis of all things, in my opinion it is anyway.

And then it's a really big tie between the intellectual and the emotional after that.

Spoken like a truly mentally based Aqua Sun combined with a truly emotionally based Pisces Moon here, hey? Lol

Those two elements are really close, but maybe if I had to pick, it might actually usually be the intellectual element which has an edge over the emotional factor though.

Lol, I guess Linda was right then, since didn't she say that you will ultimately follow the path of your Sun, correct? Lol

posted April 08, 2004 02:00 PM         

By spiritual I meant a soulful connection - I guess it could be interpreted as emotional as well. But one where you telepathically read each other's thoughts and feelings or know what the other is up to even though you're apart... or you feel as if you've known that person before in some faraway past connection.

That's all.

posted April 08, 2004 02:29 PM         

So, I agree with what Stella said, about having that 'we are connected without being in the same room' experience with each other...

and feeling that 'oh yes, I know what that part of you is all about because I have that part of me within myself too' aspect going on as well.

It's having a really big identification with the other person.

or as it was phrased in that Tom Cruise movie awhile back...

"you complete me."

I believe that the emotional is the closest level which we could use to interpret our spirituality when we are within physical form too, but in certain respects, the spiritual level experience and connection can be even higher or 'ethereal' than what it is like with only having an emotional experience or bond with your partner, I think.

Randall,

What I personally meant by intellectual level, was in having a similiar level of interest AND a lot of similiar viewpoints about the same concepts, such as spirituality, art and entertainment, politics, charities, etc...

For me personally, that means that I want someone who probes these and other matters as deeply as I do, lol, meaning like...

'I am a deep thinker, therefore I seek a deep thinker to think about things happily ever after with me.' Lol

Aphrodite,

What signs are you again?

Don't you have Aries somewhere in your makeup?

Maybe you need that firey physical thing going on before you can become really interested in someone then?

posted April 08, 2004 04:36 PM         

Yes, I do have Aries. Here are my placements:

Rising: Cancer
Sun: Aries
Moon: Capricorn
Mercury: Aries
Venus: Pisces
Mars: Aries
Jupiter: Cancer
Saturn: Virgo
Uranus: Scorpio
Neptune: Sagittarius
Pluto: Libra

I prefer to be at least attracted to someone first before engaging in emotions and intellect. I have dated someone based on their intellect first, but the chemistry just wasn't what I liked. I think libido health and physique get discounted too much. If someone doesn't take care of themselves properly, it usually shows up there first.

Cheers,

posted April 08, 2004 04:49 PM         

Emotional:No marriage can survive without emotions

Intellectual:I like to talk about intellectual issues,thus she must be intellectual and it can make us see how each other's mind operate.

Physical:I I am not all that hung up about physicality in a relationship,cos there are other ways to show love,BUT there needs to be physicality in a relationship to build it stronger.

posted April 08, 2004 04:54 PM         

If we're talking about Freinds , I couldn't agree more, Juni
It's more important that you see the world in a simular fashion with a freind, unless you just want to have a pity-party together, or pick up guys.

Emotional can't possibly come first because you don't expose that side unless the other factors "click" and you feel safe enough.

posted April 10, 2004 03:48 PM         

physical
emotional
intellectual

posted April 10, 2004 04:57 PM         

For me it's
:: physical
:: emotional
:: intellectual