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cheza
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From: Adelaide, South Australia
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posted April 16, 2004 12:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cheza     Edit/Delete Message
I give up with men, truly I do.....lol

I meet a cappy.....he takes off with a girl, but keeps in constant contact with me????

I meet another cappy.....he wont leave me alone despite me saying theres no hope for us

I meet a virgo..great vibes (I could have coped with him) but he got spooked so bye bye virgo lol

I meet a cancerian..I'm not interested..he wont get the hint nor will he leave me alone

I meet a Taurus (a religious one a that) we date,get on well,kiss, cuddle and then..he tells me he is scared as he is a protestant and he wants a protestant girl?? but we still chat??? so that one is over.

My ex, who is a cancerian...wont leave me alone either..wants me back, but no way am I going there again

then theres the libran who is sooo sweet and kind to me and adores me like you wouldnt believe..but I dont have even a spec of attraction for him

then there is the gemini, err have spoken lots and he seems nice, but gawd knows what will happen from here.

This little fish girl is just doing the rounds and really thinks the only sign that will calm the gentle waters is an Earth sign, any insight?? Or am I better off in the too hard basket?? lol having a free meal!
geeeezzzz "help!"

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trillian
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posted April 16, 2004 12:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for trillian     Edit/Delete Message
And you call these problems?

Sorry, just that I haven't been on a date in 7 weeks. But don't you give up, it's great to have so many men interested in you. You'll find your flower among the weeds.

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lioneye68
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posted April 16, 2004 03:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
You know what they say...Ya gotta kiss alot of frogs!

Earth signs are possessive. I often see Pisces with Gemini, for some odd reason. Must just click somehow. Both signs can be fidelity challenged, so it's kind of a good pairing in the sense that the kettle can't call the pot black.

Also, interestingly enough, Pisces/Capricorn is the most enduring marriage pairing, statistically speaking.

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Aphrodite
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posted April 16, 2004 03:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aphrodite     Edit/Delete Message
Do you have Venus in Pisces? Just sounds like it. I have this placement too. We tend to date everybody. I've made a point to stop doing that.

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Aphrodite
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posted April 16, 2004 03:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aphrodite     Edit/Delete Message
Nope, your Venus is in Aries. Opposite Uranus no less

An assertive Pisces, that you are

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astro junkie
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posted April 16, 2004 05:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
Everything sounds manageable Cheza - BUT - what's up with "religious Taurus guy kissing and cuddling" BEFORE telling you he wants a Protestant?

That's too weird to me. I'd be like F-YOU!

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sthenri
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posted April 16, 2004 08:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Your emotions are too engaged, pull back, pull back! That Venus in Aries makes you want to cuddle everyone, not date everyone.

You would be good with a Scorpio, or Gemini, someone who is a thinker. If a person is cuddling they can't think clearly especially being a Pisces the emotions cloud judgement so that's why it seems crazy.

It's a fact, once the body is engaged the mind cannot be wishless and desireless,
and so the want just increases and frustration increases too. Leave it alone, and it will come to you. Practice being hard to get!

And you will get the one you really want.
You really need a man to come after you, because Venus in Aries gets tired of pursuing.
A man with stamina and strength...

Look for endurance rather than charm,

Natasha
Venus in Aries/5th
Taurus Sun

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Radna
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posted April 17, 2004 12:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Radna     Edit/Delete Message
With my own life (I don't know that much about astrology) I have noticed that once you stop looking and focus on making sure your own life isn't out of line you find the perfect person.

If you really want a good, commited relationship then stop looking and focus (really focus) on getting your life the way you want it to be.

Light and Peace
Radna

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spiria
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posted April 17, 2004 01:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for spiria     Edit/Delete Message
trillian...7 weeks? let's see, multiply that by 10 or so and you'd get my number of weeks i haven't been on a date! it's been a year and a half nearly, spiritual experience indeed, but i feel myself getting restless and recently falling for someone...

haha cheza! not to laugh at your troubles at all, but seriously, at least you have your options, no? these variances and challenges are teaching you more about you and what you do/don't want and need. stay strong and true to you!! i am a pisces with a venus in aries too....ikes!

love and luck to you!

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cheza
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posted April 17, 2004 06:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cheza     Edit/Delete Message
Well guys in talking about all this celibacy, I actually refused to dateanyone for 3 years (finding myself and knowing that I am complete and happy within myself) now I have gone mad and thought meh......what the hell, so I am out in full force looking for someone decent, trouble is there are nice men out there that I have no attraction to and the ones that I am attracted to are ******'s (not nice pplz) so here I am thinking if I date about 5 men at once I am sure to find that someone special a lot faster!!! lol.....well it's worth a try and it might even work!!! Will keep you all posted.

Oh and Gloria, my thoughts exactly about the so called religious Taurus, a little while ago it would have really hurt me to have a comment like that thrown at me, but now its "you are way too easily replaced jerk, oh and thanks for the free meal" lol...seriously though I am having a ball just have to find the right one.

Warm fuzzies
Cheza xo

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astro junkie
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posted April 17, 2004 03:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
As you may or may not know, cuz I've mentioned it at LL a few times, I've practiced celibacy several times throughout my life. I've had more celibate times than sexually active times in my life...

The most time I went for was SIX YEARS!!

When I'd come out of something like that, it's not like your brain or body starts to throw out hints here and there so I can say, OH, I need to start thinking about finding a mate.

For me it's like, OH - I need to hook up NOW!

It's NOT a gradual sexual awakening for me. And then my Merc/Mars/Neptune in Scorpio just TAKES OVER and then I'm in bed.

That pattern had me really bored with myself the last couple of years. Here I was all spiritual and cleansed during celibacy, only to fall into bed having a great time, but months down the line, nothing to show for it.

Now with my newfound desire for marriage (albeit not 100% traditional), I'm confronted with the exact same PURE sexual FRUSTRATION. -- I've never been good at long courting processes because I've never been intent on "marriage" as the final outcome.

Do you see what I mean?

It's that old-fashioned side of all of us which no matter how much we try to push down and declare ourselves "modern thinkers", it's going to manifest itself in various ways. It will play out in the public arean SOMEHOW.

There is no 100% right way of doing something because we are all different. But there ARE certain characteristics which are universal. For example, not everyone wakes up after being celibate for 6 years and gets HIT ON THE HEAD with "SEX NOW!!" But all of us DO want to be loved unconditionally for the rest of our lives. Spirituality DOES address these needs in beautiful ways, but unless we are to be celibate forever, we'll all fall back to earth and enjoy a nice alchohol-induced roll in the hay once in a while.

We are so quick to forgive others, and we really need to be sure to forgive OURSELVES.
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lalalinda
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posted April 17, 2004 06:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Cheza,
Sorry, I'm still laughing. You have Venus opposite Uranus? Well sweetie theres your problem you just attract strange/unconventional (uranus) people. At least you've got them coming your way.

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cheza
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posted April 18, 2004 01:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cheza     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Lalalinda!

Got to admit I have a bit of a laugh at my nutty life too at times. Most of these men are nice but hell are they wierd in their ways!

I think thought everyone is a little strange at times.......I seem to attract "hangeroners" sad thing is that with all of these men barr 2 there has been no sexual intimacy.....and they say men want sex? Maybe they are just fantasizing? Hell no!! I am way to picky, I think.

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aoide
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posted April 18, 2004 02:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aoide     Edit/Delete Message
You know cheza I think i can undertand what you are feeling. somthing like where to look & what to look at... I really agree with natasha, "once the body is engaged the mind cannot be wishless and desireless." True. it sometime pays to just shut your door. get back with some neutral friends, and maybe just too busy to notice men. Radna, I took your advice. I was getting sucked into this pool of 'can't leave him' 'can't leave him' yet was feeling uncomfortable. then one day the nastiest thing happened. and i cried for a long time....and sulked that are no good men for me. but one bright morning i just got & said... well i have myself... I'm sure the right person will find me. for the time being, shut the door, keep the phone & focus & own life.... focus on self. respect myself & i will get someone who respects me. and u are so lucky that you are laughing at things. so just take it lightheartedly....

have fun...

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astro junkie
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posted April 18, 2004 06:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
You know what? I always wonder why between a man and a woman, it's always the woman who feels "ripped off" if they have sex just for sex. Men never feel that way.

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cheza
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posted April 18, 2004 07:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cheza     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Gloria,

I think women feel ripped off sexually because we are more inclined to become EMOTIONALLY involved.Meaning, In any relationship, a woman bases the importance on how things are going emotionally where as for men its a financial thing.

Men are more financially motivated than we are (Nooo I am not saying they use us for money either)

When it comes to intimacy, Men feel that they have to show us how they feel through sex because thats what their "testosterone" tells them to do (they think its the way we like it), where as with women its "the emotional" because we have to care and nurture (we think thats the way they like it)

Its all about balance...so when you think about men just wanting you for sex think again. It IS and ALWAYS will be the woman who decides whether any intimacy is going to happen hours before the two meet.

Think about how many times before dates you have chosen what lingerie you will be wearing for the night!!!!And whether it was the pretty lacy number or the good old cotton faithfuls!!!!! Makes one think huh!

Warm fuzzies,
Cheza

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astro junkie
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posted April 19, 2004 05:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
UH! I remember the good old days *lays cane on her lap* when I used to rummage through my trunk for that little naughty I would wear underneath it all...

Hmmmmmm....

You've got a point there. But it's not been that "to the hilt" with Libra guy yet, believe it or not. There's just a lot of love-dovey. Gotta save the best for last.

But what I brought up about woman feeling more ripped off does seem to hold true, and no matter what you think he's in the relationship for. When it's over, you feel ripped off for some reason. You think it's emotional and they think different.

But I'm wondering if we don't think of what we put into it as an investment of sorts in itself.

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ghanima81
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posted April 19, 2004 07:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ghanima81     Edit/Delete Message
I agree with the ''ripped off'' feeling some women do feel at the end of a relationship. I see it happen to a lot of my friends, I can't say I've ever let it happen to me, it's usually the other way around. (I'm a bit of a heartbreaker, I blame my mother for singing that 80's song ''Maneater'' to me when I was a kid lol)But women do tend to put a bit more emotionally into a relationship than men do. Not all men, some good ones do sometimes get the pleasure of being with one of us godesses, but the majority of them do seem to be quite cold and quiet after the ''deed is done'', when women seem to be clinging on after having given them such an intimate part of herself.

And LOL about the planning ahead with the panties, that and you make sure to shave your legs, and wear matching socks.(maybe that's just me, my socks never match. Aquarius here.)

And how you remained celibate for six years is absolutely astounding to me. I would have died. But if it was a conscious decision, then more power to you. My best friend was without doing of deeds for about two years after she and her fiance broke up, and I don't know how she did it. Sometimes it doesn't have to be emotional, when you want a piece, it's not that hard to get it. Women totally control what's going to happen sexually, which is why we don't have such a strong desire to be at it 24/7. Men have to take it when they can get it.... I'm not trying to sound sexist at all, it's just easier for us, in my personal opinion.

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astro junkie
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posted April 19, 2004 08:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
I can be on or off

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sthenri
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posted April 19, 2004 10:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
I just want to make sure I have my night cream on before I fall asleep and the blinds are drawn. Otherwise I wake up cranky and feeling bad. I don't care what happened, I just care about how I feel when I wake up.

Geminis are the worst at getting up, drawing the blinds, that kind of things, usually they are snoring away and I have to do all that. So that explains why I like neat people, I can sleep!

I get emotionally involved always but I have learned the art of loving and letting go, because I cling, but I'm an unhappy clinger.

We all have go through changes and I can't do that If I have too much invested in another. But I never go looking for a piece! Simply because I do not like to plan anything...I like to feel like.

What planning?
Spontaneous Love!

Natasha

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trillian
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posted April 19, 2004 01:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for trillian     Edit/Delete Message
My observation is that men know the difference between sex and love.

We women often let the water get muddy, and become much more emotionally involved faster.

Natasha, I have Sun, Merc, and Venus all in Aries, and I often like the chase! Not for too long though...

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sthenri
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posted April 19, 2004 03:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Trillian, I know nothing for too long right? Or it gets old and stale. I like to chase but I just don't like it to be planned, and organized, like a stakeout. I don't want to stalk my lover, just be playful. If it turns out I am being too serious I like my new lover to say so, I don't want to be the fool:>

I also do not like to be stalked, chased or pursued in a methodical, organized way. Such a flowers every day for a month, same kind. it feels like I'm about to die, I don't know. I like something spontaneous! Men usually question my motives about that and squint at me suspicously. Especially the Scorpio types.

Natasha

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trillian
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posted April 19, 2004 03:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for trillian     Edit/Delete Message
Natasha, I read so many of your posts, and I have to admit, you absolutely fascinate me!
You are a true original (which is not to say there aren't a lot of originals here at LL).
You always seem ageless to me, both a young and old soul...and you defy conventions. It's all good.


And yeah, nothing for too long...and yet, when I don't fall easy, but when I do, I fall hard. Three planets in Cappy, including a moon/jupiter conjunction in the 5th. *sigh* And that sometimes causes me to hold on longer than I should, I suppose.

spiria, I too have had long periods of (forced!) celibacy! And I don't like it...but I am picky...

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sthenri
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posted April 19, 2004 04:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks, although I can be the Queen Royal Pain the you know what some days! And God forbid you get on my bad side because then I have to explain why. I try to contain myself:>

Yes I like the Aries flavor,

Natasha
Taurus

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