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astro junkie
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posted April 25, 2004 02:42 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
... somone mentioned eHarmony for meeting people, but did anyone actually sign up? You take a psychology test that will have you pulling out every single hair in your body for 2 hours.

... then they compare you to other people and bodies to show where you stand.

... then they tell you what percentage of the human race on this planet we call Earth, is like me.

Well, I'm too wild for them, although I'm quite conservative. Supposedly I'm similar to 2% of other women. In other words... I'M A FREAK!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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ghanima81
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posted April 25, 2004 05:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ghanima81     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Don't take any of that bollocks seriously. Any type of ''test'' that's results will compare you to any other human by putting you into some kind of systematic category is a load of crap if you ask me. As are most self help books and any other kind of ''therapy'' that tries to generalize information and make people think it applies to them. Everybody is different, you cannot possibly be expected to be the same as Joe Schmo from Idaho. The world would suck if it were like that.

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posted April 25, 2004 01:25 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Gloria,

Could you please provide the link to this test when you have a chance to?

I'd love to see how my results turn out as well.

Thanks so much!

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astro junkie
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posted April 25, 2004 01:35 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's the f'ing eHarmony.com. At first I'm like, hey this is fun. But then if you are told there are only 2% of other women like you, and only 2% of men looking for someone like you, what's the point of hanging around.

I signed up months ago and received only one email response, probably from another freak!

I'm being a bit facetious, cuz it's been no secret to me that I'm EXTREMELY unique. But to have it shown and proved to you statistically is another matter one needs to digest. Not to mention, it decreases your chances of finding your "true love" in this lifetime, as in BEFORE I DIE PLEASE!!

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juniperb
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posted April 25, 2004 02:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
.gloria, being the odd duck I am, I was curious about the site so I went off and filled out the questionaire..... I`m not downplaying your frustration with 2 % but it beats my big fat zero . Somebody does want & can match your special Elf !!

All in all it just tells me we here at Lindaland are a cut above the rest

Unable To Match You At This Time
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eHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive testing of married individuals. One of the requirements for it to work successfully is for participants to fall into a rigorously defined "profile."

Unfortunately, you do not fit within this profile. eHarmony's matching system is not suitable for about 20% of potential participants, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from the matching part of the eHarmony site. But there are many more benefits to using eHarmony.

This means that our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. We'd rather provide no matches than bad matches, because bad matches lead to bad marriages.

We hope that you understand our regret in our inability to provide our matching service for you at this time. We urge you to participate in our other services such as the eHarmony Community, or taking advantage of getting to know yourself better through your free personality profile. Click here to access your free personality profile.

If you are receiving this message as a subscriber please contact userservices@eharmony.com for a refund of your subscription.

Thank you for visiting eHarmony.

How ya like them apples, I`m unmatchable. Wouldn`t my ex gloat over that tidbit.

juniperb


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juniperb
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posted April 25, 2004 02:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So the I clicked on my personality profile and darn it fits....

Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.

You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."


You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.


Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.


You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.


You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.


You have a basic need to be supportive of others.


Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.


You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.

Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.


In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.


Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.


You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.


You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.

Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.

Listen sincerely.


Patiently draw out personal interests.


Start with a personal comment to "break the ice."


Show sincere interest as a person.


Take time to be certain that you reach an agreement.


Present ideas softly, nonthreateningly.


Take time during explanations.


Be responsive toward ideas and commitments.


Keep the conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation.


Support ideas for change with facts, figures and logic.


Find areas of common interest and involvement.

Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.

You are very sincere in actions and words.


You are excellent at listening to your partner.


You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.


You tend to bring feelings of security and stability to a relationship.


You are very supportive of other people.


You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.


You are a dependable and caring partner.


You are generally good at cooling down tense situations in a relationship.


You like to gather facts and think things over before offering a strong opinion.


You are generally very patient with people.

You may want:

A feeling of security.


Facts and data before making decisions relating to others.


Clear responsibility and clear lines of who makes decisions.


Others to present their ideas and information in a logical order.


Respect among peers and friends for your quiet manner.


Activities that may involve friends.


An environment relatively free of conflict.


Identification with your social group.


To feel important, but not be the leader.


To feel safe and secure in social situations.


Whats not to love The long drawn out test was worth the personality profile!

juniperb

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If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot

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astro junkie
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posted April 25, 2004 04:37 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
HA! That's f'ing HILARIOUS Juni!! You one-up'ed me!!

In the profile at one point it makes you sound like someone who other people walk around like egg shells. You don't come across that way to me here.

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juniperb
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posted April 25, 2004 04:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
.gloria, we`re just too good to be true!

Ya, the eggshells. I don`t get it either

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If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot

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sthenri
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posted April 26, 2004 01:04 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's not a great site to boost self esteem:<

Anyone that tells you are unlike others and do NOT belong to the human race is wrong. We all need to belong, and we are all connected to every other woman and man on this planet.

We have all lived before so out outer shell is meaningless. Anyone can connect once they have looked deeper.

We are are connected back millions of years ago, from Eve, the first woman!

We all belong, we just have our own lives.

or as that man said in that movie, we are all different, but we are all fruit.

Natasha
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juniperb
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posted April 26, 2004 02:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for the cheer up Natasha

Now I`m really curious. Another Aqua didn`t get a match either. What signs do you think would be most 'acceptable' middle of the road to get mucho matchs?

I have a feeling those who get it right arn`t being truthful either. I gave them all my warts ...

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astro junkie
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posted April 26, 2004 05:48 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm so glad you brought that up Juni -

Those people who match are "shopping"...

*wink*

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Randall
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posted April 26, 2004 10:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I passed with flying colors; however, every single person they matched to me, I had ZERO chemistry with. Forgive my skepticism for their so-called "twenty-nine points of compatability." A lady matched by them to Adam (on Average Joe Adam Returns) was in the first group of girls sent home.

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posted April 26, 2004 11:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Twenty nine points of compatability and I couldn`t get one

I must be from boogerville or something equally as taboo .

So, it`s a meat market ey .gloria. Sucks to be them don`t it! liars liars, pants on fire

juniperb

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astro junkie
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posted April 26, 2004 11:02 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Randall - why do you agree with anything we say? You're crossing boundaries. Now that you're being agreeable, that makes us think we have free rein to do what we want! Cuz as far as all THAT goes, I would have received all 30 of the "29 points" due to the skills I have which WEREN'T on the test.

*A Libra wink*

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LeylaLeFay
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posted April 28, 2004 04:59 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh wow how COOL! Only 2%! That validates how unique/special you are! Think about it- would you want some guy who could be matched up with almost anybody? No- you'd want someone who was a perfect fit for YOU not some homogonious, generic, bland person. You're a rare person and things that are rare are often valuable, like diamonds.

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teaselbaby
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posted April 28, 2004 06:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teaselbaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just tried this and they couldn't match me with anybody either. At least I'm in good company. My personality profile fit me as well, for the most part. It reminds me of a site called astral pursuit ~ http://www.astralpursuit.net . They used to allow you to do synastry comparisons for free, but now they expect you to pay a fee.

Angie

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ghanima81
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posted April 28, 2004 07:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ghanima81     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just tried it for a laugh. It didn't say anywhere about what percentage of other women I was like, but it found me one match. I feel kind of bad though, because I didn't do it to find a mate, I have one, and now some guy named John keeps trying to contact me! Oops.... I'd be interested to see what he says to me, but I'm certainly not paying for it!!

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juniperb
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posted April 28, 2004 09:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I`m certainly not going to tell my Cancer about my unmatchable status.... Or maybe I will so he`ll know how special he is

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posted April 28, 2004 09:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
ghanima81, there was a place to request that no one contact you. LOL I clicked it but what a waste of energy ey

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If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot

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gloomy sag
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posted April 30, 2004 12:10 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ugh, I guess I'm unmatchable
Horseshit!

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astro junkie
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posted May 02, 2004 08:42 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
We need to start a Web site to match delinquents like us. Or at least "pretends" to...

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gloomy sag
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posted May 02, 2004 09:42 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bah, men want 'normal' women, AJ.

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astro junkie
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posted May 02, 2004 11:49 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Really? What the heck to they do with these "normal" women, anyways?

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