posted April 26, 2004 01:01 PM
http://cafeastrology.com/articles/synastrysuninhouses.html Where does your Sun fall in another person's chart? When you overlay your Sun onto the chart of your partner, you can gain plenty of insight into how you affect that person, and what areas of their life you take particular interest in.
The basic idea is this: If your Sun is at, say, 3 degrees of Leo, what house would your Sun occupy in your partner's chart?
Your Sun in your partner's 1st House: You can't help but notice each other! Generally, this overlay generates approval between the two--more specifically, your approval and affection for your partner is welcomed by your partner, offering a pleasant feeling of being able to be open and free in your presence. You give each other an ego boost, and this overlay tends to offer relationships a feeling of camaraderie and general agreement.
Your Sun in your partner's 2nd House: This position does not indicate a feeling of being true peers as the first or eleventh houses, for example, bestow. Because the second house is associated with the phrase "I want", there is a general sense that there is something concrete to be gained through the couple's association with this overlay. Your partner may feel that he/she is an object rather than a person, or a means to an end. Possessiveness should be avoided, as this can lead to either person feeling stifled. In a sexual relationship, there is likely to be considerable desire, but, again, be sure to avoid treating each other as if you own them.
Your Sun in your partner's 3rd House: This placement is particularly helpful when you are in close contact with each other on a day-to-day basis, as you tend to feel comfortable with each other's way of dealing with everyday life. Your partnership is generally easygoing.
Your Sun in your partner's 4th House: This position promotes a powerful connection. A very basic sense of shared identity is felt between you and your partner. You have a strong desire to protect and defend your partner, and there is a feeling that you will always be in each other's corner.
Your Sun in your partner's 5th House: This is generally considered to be an excellent position for romance and fun. You bring out your partner's creativity and sense of fun. Often this pair has a strong interest in making children together, although difficult aspects of the Sun to the partner's planets can point to children as being a source of conflict in the relationship; or, if children are not the issue, your partner may feel stifled by your overpowering need to be the only one who gives him/her pleasure. Jealousies and possessiveness can result, and it generally works both ways, though you may display these things more than your partner. You view your partner as a vehicle through which you can have fun, and the success of this relationship will depend much on how your partner responds to this fact.
Your Sun in your partner's 6th House: This overlay is an interesting, multi-faceted one. For some reason, your partner's day-to-day affairs become your business. In some way, you help organize your partner's life, or vice versa, and want to know the little things that make up their day. Sometimes it is a conscious thing, and you take pleasure in it. Other times, it is hard to explain why you become so involved in your partner's everyday life. This relationship can be an imbalanced, unequal partnership. The danger with this position is that the Sun can become bossy or prying if it's not kept in check. Avoid dictating your partner's every move, even if your partner seems to want it. Eventually, the imbalance in your relationship can be a source of resentment. At your best, you show your affection for your partner by doing little things for them or giving them sound advice. At your worst, you end up criticizing the little things that they do. How this position is handled can often be shown by the aspects that the Sun makes to the partner's planets. Difficult aspects can point to a relationship that is imbalanced, eventually turning into a burden. However, flowing aspects can suggest a relationship in which one or the other takes on a helpful role.
Your Sun in your partner's 7th House: This overlay is a magnetic one. This is one of the more powerful overlays in synastry, resulting in a very natural union between two people. The main caution here, however, is that the union is so powerful that individual identities can feel as if lost--where you and your partner start and finish may be quite blurred. What starts out as a powerful and natural union might deteriorate into a union comprised of resentment and competitiveness.
Your Sun in your partner's 8th House: There is a deep fascination with your partner, and either you simply feel unsettled in his/her presence and part ways, or you feel inexplicably drawn to him/her. There is nothing superficial about this union, when it does occur, and you should be prepared for a deep and sometimes disturbing interaction.
Your Sun in your partner's 9th House: You see in your partner a person with whom you seek agreement and affirmation for your own belief systems. This is a somewhat intellectual partnership, one built on shared visions and ideals.
Your Sun in your partner's 10th House: You take great interest in your partner's place in society--whether that be his/her job or general status. Sometimes this indicates that you perceive your partner to be in a position of authority or status, and you naturally tend to follow him/her along, deferring to that "authority". Some tensions can occur with this position, simply because there isn't a feeling of equality in this relationship.
Your Sun in your partner's 11th House: You get the strong feeling that your partner is someone with whom you can share common pleasures and goals. Your partner is your buddy and comrade, and you fully appreciate spending fun leisure times together. This position offers a wonderful theme of tolerance and acceptance. Neither one of you is judging the other. Problems can occur if your partner is looking for a tighter bond with you.
Your Sun in your partner's 12th House: This overlay can be a confusing one. There is a general sense of mistrust that stems from misunderstanding. In some cases, you might be very fascinated with your partner, as if he/she marches to the beat of a different drummer. However, you may not "get" what he/she is all about, ultimately, and you should avoid finding irrational reasons to mistrust your partner as a result of this.
Look to Venus in each person's chart to see how each approaches, views, and handles love and relationship. Compare the natives' Venus signs, noting the similarities and differences. Then, determine if Venus makes an aspect to the other's planets, luminaries, or angles (such as the Ascendant). When Venus in one chart aspects planets and points in another, the Venus person tends to get idealized and romanticized. The person with the contacted planet tends to expect a lot from Venus.
Venus in Synastry:
Venus-Sun interaspects: These are helpful aspects in any relationship. They create a sense of harmony and offer some common interests to the partnership. The Venus person feels more loving and beautiful with the Sun person. The Sun finds Venus quite charming and intriguing. There is a mutual attraction here that, on its own, is not as insistent or sexual as other indicators (such as Venus-Mars or Venus-Pluto). The more difficult aspects (opposition, square, and quincunx) can point to some problems and discord. The value system of the Venus native in this case is at odds with the Sun native's general outlook and life path.
Venus-Moon interaspects: smooth out many of the more difficult aspects in a relationship. Although these relationships are not immune to ups and downs and disagreements, the presence of this aspect in synastry creates an overall sense of harmony and compatibility. The attraction here has less to do with sexuality than it does with familiarity. These people have a strong need to set up house together and spend as much time with each other as possible. It is an aspect that almost demands physical presence -- these people feel the need to be around each other, even if they are not interacting.
Venus-Mercury interaspects: are helpful for creating some common interests between the individuals. These people may enjoy happy exchanges and pleasurable, shared activities. Generally, there is a lot of "talk" in the relationship. Hard aspects (opposition, square, and quincunx) point to misunderstandings that disrupt the flow of the relationship.
Venus-Venus interaspects: the conjunction, sextile, and trine point to compatibility in relationship values and styles. The quincunx creates a stimulating attraction. The opposition and square both point to attraction, but the attraction can be a frustrating one.
Venus-Mars interaspects: these are classic aspects, although they can be rather troublesome. Any aspect between these planets in synastry points to sexual and romantic attraction. However, the square, opposition, and quincunx can cause friction at the same time. There is considerable attraction, but over time, this sexual energy can become disruptive when left unchecked. Remember that the more difficult aspects have great value in that they stimulate people. Arguments often augment the sexual act in some way. The square tends to be the most troublesome one -- sexual attraction exists and is powerful, but sex is often delayed as the couple tends to engage in arguments that take time to work out before they do what they really want to do. Here, sex is probably the root of the arguments, even if this is not immediately apparent. These couples may try to resolve this conflict by attempting to consciously let down their defenses, turn off their egos, and just have sex. This way, they may find that they have much less to argue about. The reason for this is that the square gives tremendous physical attraction and tension that is very often disguised and mischanneled.
Venus-Jupiter interaspects: are generally quite helpful in any relationship. The presence of flowing aspects between these planets in synastry can help smooth out a relationship. See the discussion of Jupiter in Synastry below for more details.
When Venus contacts the outer planets--Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto--you will find very dynamic interactions that evolve over time. When a relationship lasts long enough to let these energies play out completely, increased understanding and connection is possible.
Venus-Saturn interaspects: can be difficult to deal with, but effort put forth to understand the interplays will result in enormous increases in understanding of the partners both individually and as a couple. There is often a strong need to be with each other. With the troublesome aspects (opposition and square), the sexual relationship may start out just fine, but later can become unpredictable, stunted, or sporadic. Spontaneity is lost, and this is generally due to power struggles in the day-to-day life of the couple. The Venus person often feels oppressed and restricted by the Saturn person. In fact, Venus may feel criticized and nagged, and Saturn may feel an unhealthy need to control and restrict the Venus native. This general conflict leads to problems in the bedroom.
Venus-Uranus interaspects: offer excitement and thrills. The problem with this aspect, which is most apparent when the aspect is a conjunction, square, opposition, or quincunx, is that there may be an overall dissatisfaction with each other. Although sex can be especially exciting--even ecstatic--with each other, the partners may easily become restless.
Venus-Neptune interaspects: are evolving and involving. They tend to play out over time in different ways. At first, the relationship is all-consuming. There is a feeling of soul connection. Slowly, realities surface themselves. Things do not seem as wonderful as they first appeared. Many couples with these aspects in Synastry can overcome these little letdowns, as long as they let the relationship play out long enough. Eventually, they may find that the feelings come full circle. The difference is that they will come to realize that while what they loved the other person for at the outset of the relationship may not have been based on reality, they have the huge potential to love each other for what they really are. The difficult aspects (opposition, square, and quincunx) can result in disappointment and bitterness.
Venus-Pluto interaspects: point to intense and magnetic attraction. These aspects figure strongly in relationships that are long-lasting and significant. Love with these people is intense and transforming. This interaspect demands physical presence. When the natives are apart from each other, jealousies can arise. The difficult aspects generally play out as an emotional rollercoaster ride, with extreme swings from loving intensely to antagonism.
Venus-Chiron interaspects: are powerful indeed. Look for the conjunction, trine, opposition, and quincunx in particular as an indicator of a need to commit to each other. These people feel a strong need to be together, set up house together, and go the distance with each other.
Jupiter in Synastry
When Jupiter in one person's chart forms aspects with a personal planet or Ascendant in their partner's chart, a special relationship is formed. The Jupiter person tends to give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Jupiter sees the good in the area of life and energy of the other's contacted planet. Jupiter doesn't tend to blind itself to the negative (that is Neptune's job!). It simply searches for the positive, and finds much to like about the person. You can think of the Jupiter taking on the role of loving father who naturally finds goodness in his child. This is not the kind of father who refuses to see the "bad", or who totally glorifies or idealizes his child. In fact, Jupiter is quite likely to see the negative, but he only wants to see his child grow, and easily excuses the less desirable traits, preferring to think that the good outweighs the bad. He is unthreatened by the child's behavior. The Jupiter person in synastry wants to help out, cheer up, and encourage the other person. Jupiter gets the most pleasure when he sees his loved one grow.
Therefore, if Jupiter contacts another person's Moon, the Jupiter person will find the Moon person's expression of his emotions, family values, and natural habits really quite wonderful and pleasing. Jupiter will encourage Moon to emote, to feel, and to seek security. Jupiter will have a strong need to protect the Moon person.
When Jupiter contacts Venus, a pleasing attraction occurs between the two individuals. In the final analysis, Jupiter will give the Venus person the benefit of the doubt at all times. Jupiter will forgive, and even forget. Under Jupiter's influence, the Venus person will feel free to express his or her relationship needs, desire for pleasure, and romantic inclinations. The two will have a grand time, full of natural humor and enjoyment. There is a strong desire for peace, and forgiveness comes very easy. If the aspect is troublesome, they may also encourage each other to over-indulge. This is when Jupiter becomes the indulgent father. The desire to see the other person enjoy life may be taken a little too far.
Jupiter aspects in synastry are generally very helpful. While other difficult aspects may exist in synastry, overall goodwill between the individuals will outlast the conflicts. At the very least, even if these two end up parting, they will do so on good terms, remaining special friends.
Mercury in Synastry
Mercury cross-aspects and interactions deserve some attention in any study of the dynamics of a relationship. See our article, Mercury in Synastry for more information.
Mars is the God of War
Mars, in relationship astrology, is the planet of sexual expression and desire. It shows us our animal instincts. While Venus rules romantic attraction, Mars indicates a more animal need for sex and assertion. It is important to note that Mars in synastry does not point to the need to be together forever. But, if other indicators of love and relationship are already present in synastry, strong Mars connections will help (or hinder) the relationship, mostly in the bedroom.
When powerful interaspects of Mars occur, sex may not be as ecstatic and rich as those indicated by Venus, but it may be quite satisfying on a basic body level. When Mars figures strongly in Synastry, but the aspects involved are quite difficult, the couple may find a lot to argue about.
Even though Mars aspects may not bring together people in the first place, they have a lot of value. The conflict that they bring to a relationship can be difficult at times, but invigorating as well. If the individuals are growth-oriented, the basic truths that Mars interaspects bring will contribute to overall satisfaction. When Saturn is not involved, this couple will argue, and the growth that they pull from the conflict will likely spur them to have great sex together.
Mars-Sun interaspects generally highlight action and physical attraction. The difficult aspects can indicate a passionate relationship that is filled with conflict. Mars-Moon interaspects can be very sexy and sometimes volatile. Emotionalism and domestic arguments can figure strongly in such a relationship when the difficult aspects are involved. Mars-Mercury interaspects, when flowing, indicate passionate and stimulating conversations. When difficult, regular discussions quickly turn into arguments. The Mars native may show insensitivity to the Mercury native's point of view. Mars-Neptune aspects are generally indicative of sexual attraction, which can be disruptive and variable if the aspects are difficult. Mars-Pluto interaspects are similarly stimulating, though more intensely so. Difficult aspects can create battles of wills that threaten harmony.
One of the most difficult aspects to occur between two charts is Mars-Saturn when it is in conjunction, square, or opposition. Unless the partners involved are prepared to work on the relationship with a sincere desire for growth, the tensions, frustrations, and blockages can feel insurmountable. Read more about the challenges of Mars-Saturn in synastry.
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The Ascendant in Synastry
The Ascendant expresses our "body ego"--how we express ourselves through our body language and personal mannerisms. It also shows how we cope with the daily demands of life, our first reactions, and how we intitiate projects. Naturally, when the Ascendant of one person's chart contacts the planets (or Ascendant) of another, the reaction is immediate and, often, apparent. While it is common enough that there can be an attraction to the physical body, it is more than likely a reaction to the Ascendant person's whole body ego--the manner in which he/she comes across, or the "packaging".
Aspects in Synastry
In Synastry, conjunctions between partners' planets and points represent a point of powerful interaction. Depending on the planets involved, there can be a strong feeling of similarity and recognition. The opposition represents polarity and the power of attraction. This can result in a feeling of complementing each other, but it can also bring out feelings of competition and insecurity. Sextiles and trines (generally considered "flowing" aspects) often suggest an ease at blending the two planets' or points' energies. There is often a warm and pleasant understanding and flow. Squares often point to energies that need work in order to integrate them easily into the interaction. While lack of understanding and frustration can be the result, they can also create just the right amount of tension to produce excitement in a relationship. Growth-oriented individuals will find that these "discordant" energies can spur them to new heights of understanding.
While it is helpful to consider any one interchart aspect carefully, it is also illuminating to consider the signs involved in the interaction. For example, squares between planets occupying mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces) can point to problems that are expressed in fussiness, restlessness, nagging, and pickiness. Frequent annoyances and irritations, often that skirt the real conflict, are common. Between cadent signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn), conflicts are more likely to be stormy, direct, and overt--occasional big fights are typical. Between fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, and Aquarius), there can be frequent stand-offs. Of course, not all squares occur between planets in the same modality, but these examples serve as a general guideline.
Natasha
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