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Topic: update on the cancer guy
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purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 548
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 31, 2004 01:58 PM
 
I'm sure I blew it...the other day in an email I told him I was going swimming and that he was welcome to join me if he wanted to...I haven't heard from him since. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Knowflake Posts: 2436
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 31, 2004 02:45 PM
His loss.IP: Logged |
pidaua
Knowflake Posts: 2109
From: Annapolis, Maryland USA
Registered: May 2002
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posted May 31, 2004 04:20 PM
Hi Purple, One thing I have noticed about Cancer men is that they sometimes get a bit overwhelmed. It is as though all the environmental stimulation causes them to periodically hide within their shell. Then in a few days - a week or a bit longer - they pop back out like nothing happened. I had a sweet cancer friend a while back. He was like that. We would talk and talk..then out of nowhere he would retreat. If you haven't heard from him, maybe you could drop him a quick e-mail "Hi ---, I hadn't heard from you in a bit and wanted to see if things are going well on your end. Drop me a line sometime when you get a chance - take care..." If he says he's having a hard time you can always respond with "I know a great place that makes killer chocolate Sundaes (yes, they LOVE food)" I am not sure how just inviting him for a swin would scare him- unless he may have issues with his body - or maybe he was worried he would "enjoy" the swim too much.  For some of us, swimming can be very intimate - my mars in Pisces reserves a swim date for someone that I am very close to. IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 1545
From: New England US
Registered: May 2003
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posted May 31, 2004 05:12 PM
Yep, too intimate for a Cancer, or Cancer moon,A swim could lead to other things...
I never invite a man for a swim unless I am making a proposal! Was it a lighthearted offer? How did he respond? Natasha
Cancer 8th house Moon
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purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 548
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 31, 2004 06:55 PM
Gee, I didn't think about a swim leading to intimacy before, but I guess I understand. My offer was innocent and light hearted. Via email I simply said "I'm going swimming today. You're welcome to join me if you want. just call and let me know. talk to you later..." He never responded at all. He used to email me everyday. It's been 5 days. I will wait another week than follow pidua's advice. Thanks everyone.  IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Knowflake Posts: 2436
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 31, 2004 08:41 PM
Maybe he is simply away from the computer (virus?) or unable to get back, or maybe your emails are being lost in his inbox.. (spam?)
Who knows.. you have alot of Scorpio placements, right? I understand the need to want to recoil and thinking someone is being dishonest and you are suspicious, but don't cut him out yet.. give it some time, I know it is frustrating. There might be a valid excuse.. or maybe he is tardy and inconsiderate, not realizing these are important 'tests' for you......
Hopefully he shows himself as someone honourable enough for your trust. Time will tell. Keep venting here if you need, I totally get it.IP: Logged |
purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 548
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 31, 2004 09:39 PM
Thanks pixel. I do have some scorpio in my chart, specifically venus and uranus. I'm not devastated over this, but disappointed. Here's my other info if you want to know:sun:virgo
moon: gemini
asc: leo
merc: libra
venus: scorp
mars: leo
jup: libra
saturn: libra
uranus: scorp
neptune: sag
pluto: libra
true node: leo
chiron: taurus I'm just so tired of cowards that hide whenever I show the least bit of interest 
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sthenri
Moderator Posts: 1545
From: New England US
Registered: May 2003
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posted May 31, 2004 10:47 PM
5 days is a long time since he was contacting you daily, I didn't mean to imply that you were too forward. Cancers can be in funny moods sometimes and forget to tell you.He may tell you that he was going through a transition this week and didn't want to bother you. Confronting issues probably bothers him. If bravery is what you are looking for, it's always tough. We all want our partner to show some bravery but Cancers are prudent and cautious by nature. The accountants of love, they don't give unless they are sure. Plus they brood a lot, he may be thinking it over, and now feels silly. If you see him in person it would help, at least then you would know if he was just indecisive.
I don't like the indecisive types either, but everyone is indecisive in love to me, since I have all these fixed planets and houses. I would accept the fact that he is brooding over you, and deciding what to do. It could take a while but at least he hasn't forgotten. Does he have Venus in Cancer? If so then he is indecisive. Natasha
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purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 548
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted June 01, 2004 06:01 PM
thanks natasha...I'm not sure what his venus sign is, I just know he is a cancer sun who reminds me of a sag.IP: Logged |
Sxygrl7
Knowflake Posts: 15
From: Sherman Oaks, CA U.S.A.
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted June 03, 2004 08:08 AM
The guy I am dating now is a cancer and my ex-boyfriend was a cancer. Also, the guy I am dating does have his venus in cancer as well. I actually made the first move when we met. It worked because we are still seeing eachother after almost a year. Yes, they are indecisive, sensitive and emotional. I would check back again casually later. Don't give up! I have a capricorn sun, sag moon and my venus is also in scorpio.IP: Logged |
purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 548
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted June 03, 2004 01:53 PM
thanks sxygrl17. IP: Logged |
Sxygrl7
Knowflake Posts: 15
From: Sherman Oaks, CA U.S.A.
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted June 03, 2004 09:27 PM
Your welcome. Good luck! IP: Logged |
Total Pieces
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: Los Angeles, CA
Registered: Dec 2001
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posted June 04, 2004 11:38 AM
Don't know too much about Cancers but I dated one for about 6 years (the only one so it's hard to compare) Moody..you bet ya but he wasn't one who would 'hide' I think something has happened or he hasn't gotten your emails...a little
"Hey what happen to you???" (LIGHT...if they are in one of their sensative moods the might take it as an attack). He'll tell you. It will all work out (I've been saying this a lot lately...) but it will  Love,
Amber
(Libra)
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purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 548
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted June 04, 2004 01:40 PM
Hey Amber, I don't really care anymore, lol. I guess that's my gemini moon (fickle!) in action. Thanks for the advice though. IP: Logged |
Total Pieces
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: Los Angeles, CA
Registered: Dec 2001
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posted June 04, 2004 01:54 PM
That's not fickle...thats movin' on! IP: Logged |
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