posted June 09, 2004 06:41 PM         

Hello all, I'm new to this forum, but am a very old fan of Linda's (30 years), and have done all the free stuff I can do on Astro.com, which I've been subscribed to for years also. I'm asking here to see if anyone has any specific advice or comments.

Been hiding in a cave for just over two years, had a very painful breakup, but am ready to face the world again. I peeked into a dating site a couple of weeks ago, and was only just in the middle of creating a profile, checking it as I added stuff, no pic even, when all of a sudden there was an instant message on my screen, sent by a fellow who wanted to know more, since a part of my 1st mini-stab at a profile twigged for him - mine said "must be willing to listen as well as talk, two-way communcation necessary", and it turned out his said pretty much the exact same thing, "must be willing to listen before telling me I'm wrong, or I go hide in the cave". We've been talking since. I'm a one-man woman not at all interested in the "dating" scene, barely had my first peek, so talk about manifesting fast!

For the first week and a half it was positively eerie how two-peas-in-a-pod alike we are in terms of likes, dislikes, attitudes, etc., though now we've managed to get it down to a dull roar so we can handle the logistics of the distance between us, since we also know we won't REALLY get a feel for if there is a possible future until we actually meet, which can't be for weeks yet, and the way things were going, we were headed straight for retirement (his words, and I agreed). We've exchanged pics, which include everything from closeups of faces to our hippy days to our kids and parents, so we have a pretty good idea of what to expect in that way too. I've known a couple of other Aries women, but only one man, a high-school chum, who exhibited the negative aspects of the Aries male. I had figured out by this point in my life that the only signs I should even be looking at would be Aqua, Leo, or maybe Sag, though Sag scared me a bit because of the wanderlust. I now get to find out first-hand, as his moon's in Sag.

Here are our stats -
ME - 1952, Aries, Moon in Gem, Asc Scorpio
HIM - 1950, Aries, Moon in Sag, Asc Cancer

posted June 10, 2004 01:23 PM         

Sounds optimistic! I just last night found a place where I can learn something about the aspects etc in layman's terms, so I have yet to fully appreciate what you mean by Conjunction/opposition/trine". If you are "excited" for me though, the possibility must be quite good :-)

And thank you too, ATiger, so far what you say has been the case. It has been quite something to bump into someone who actually seems to think and see things as I do.

posted June 12, 2004 02:11 AM         

Pink, my first marriage was to a Cancer, but I don't recall what his other things were. It didn't turn out for a number of reasons, but that is not to say that we had no connection, and my dear brother, and two of my closest, oldest friends, are Cancers, and even though it might not be a good choice for a relationship as sun signs go, I very much resonate with them all, very closely, and love them to pieces, and they are all people who, if I was stranded on the side of a cliff, I would want at the top holding the rope. We have all helped and supported each other far beyond any other closeness I've felt with anyone else, for many years now, two of them for pretty much my whole life. They are life-long family to me, and me to them. I've also often thought that the right man for me would have to be a lot like my brother for it to really work, because of the depth into which he is capable of going in working through things, without being hindered by ego. I also checked out the new man's Aries Sun/Sag Moon combo, and got the distinct impression that perhaps I have actually stumbled upon a truly honest and honourable man, if he is anything like what I read. Not that there aren't any others out there, but so far, the only ones I have met have been friends, not lovers or mates.

Pixel, my sister is a Scorp, and it's an interesting relationship. We also have supported each other, though from more of a distance. We are again in the same city, after many years, and it is she with whom I have made all these upcoming plans. I have seen what you say already in action, in terms of something I said to 'new man' early on, in that "at least we will be able to understand each other". It was he who first said "Aries and Aries? Yikes!" And when I finally said "I can't stand it any more, what time and city (for some unknown reason I already knew the city - I looked back through chats and found no reference to it) were you born?" Without missing a beat, he told me it was either 9:45 or 10:15 am. For someone who was not wanted, or anticipated being born (in current-life terms), I thought that was a very quick response from a guy who had neither expressed an interest in astrology nor given it a thumbs-down, and given that he was the product of a rape situation. I would think that a situation like that would normally preclude knowledge of those kinds of details. Learn something every day..... We'll definitely be an active couple, if 'a couple' is what is in the cards for us to be.

One of the posts I read in here said something about "when you have everything in your life so full that you can't fit in a relationship, that's when he will show up". It couldn't be truer. I had no sooner gotten myself out of my cave and organized and arranged everything for my "new life" and booked myself solid for the next two months, than he popped onto my screen with no warning, no clue. Suddenly there he was, out of the blue, talking to me, on my screen, when I had no reason to think that anyone could even see me. No pic, only 1/4 of the way through building a profile simply for the exercise of self-understanding, thinking that none of these things gets put up on a site until it's approved by "head office", and bang, big window facing me, with a man on the other side, wanting to talk. It REALLY threw me for a loop.