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posted July 29, 2004 11:03 AM         

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Hi,

After several months of mutual flirting, I decided to talk to this aquarius guy because his interest on me seemed very obvious. But this guy tells me that no, he is not interested and his behaviour never was different to me as with other people. I didnīt want to talk about all the specific situations when he was obviously interested on me, I just accepted his "no" and we ended as friends.
But I wonder now, how can he say that he never showed interest when he actually did? I am not a dreamer and I talked to him because I was so sure about his interest on me. I just would like to know what happened??

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posted July 29, 2004 01:30 PM         

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Off the top of my head, I think his reaction could have been for two reasons. Either because:::

1) You are a female, therefore potentially emotional or clingy (not saying you are).

2) He's interested in you like a scientist who discovers a new kind of ameba under his microscope.

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posted July 29, 2004 01:38 PM         

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Oops!
Well, I am not clingy at all and probably yes, he has been analyzing me all this time.

But then, what do I do? Just remain friends? Then, there is not a chance that he loves me somehow? I really like him.

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posted July 29, 2004 03:33 PM         

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If you want to know if he "loves" you - ignore him.

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posted July 30, 2004 12:49 PM         

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Start dating other people, and see what happens. This is not manipulation, because you will be having fun and forgetting about him, and if the pull is really that strong he will make his feelings known since he will have to decide.

Life happens that way, boy meets girl, girl likes boy, boy gets scared, girl either yells at boy, or girl goes off and has fun with another boy. In the end if the girl goes off and has fun, she is happy, the other boy is happy, and the first boy has time to sort out his feelings without leading her on.

Trust me Aquas can really lead a woman on, they are the biggest teases, and it can seem real.

But it's because they respect the romance first, and love to tangle verbally, he could do that for years. Let him have his fun, thinking about you, but don't forget to get out and be happy.

and yes when there is a problem with a boy or man the best solution is to ignore him for a while. Really ignore him, not just pretend to.

Natasha
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posted August 14, 2004 05:37 AM         

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If you love someone set him free.. if he comes back hes yours, if he doesnt, he never was...

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posted August 14, 2004 09:18 AM         

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... and if he just sits on the couch watching TV and eating chips with his feet on the table, and doesn't seem to realize that he's been set free, you're either married to him, or he's your son!

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posted August 14, 2004 09:20 AM         

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And I agree with Stherni- leave and have fun and give him the chance to figure out what he really feels for you. And everyone'll be happy, too!

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posted August 14, 2004 12:43 PM         

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LOL Alchemiest!!!

Agreed. Show no emotion toward him. Not any different when he interacts with you than anyone else would have on you.

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posted August 14, 2004 07:26 PM         

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Alchemiest-

LOL! I am a waterbearer married to a waterbearer and I wonder some days if he is my husband or a larger, messier child that I have adopted!

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posted August 15, 2004 10:22 AM         

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...and yet, I knew an Aqua man who wore his heart on his sleeve, and fell in love quite easily. He was devoted to the women and open and honest. The women usually dumped him because he was so overly enthusiastic about the relationships. He was almost overly attentive.

I don't know the rest of his chart, but as this conversation entailed only sun signs, I had to add this.

Good Luck.

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posted August 15, 2004 03:14 PM         

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Hi everybody!
Well, this guy has changed job and we will not see each other very often. I will not try to contact him since the last time we saw each other he said hi to everybody and treated me like the invisible woman; he couldnīt see me to my eyes like if he was shy and he is not. Well, I hope that next time he sees me he realizes if he really likes me and ask me out...if he doesnīt, well, better I forget him

But I will be patient as long as I can He is worth the wait.

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posted August 15, 2004 07:39 PM         

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awwww sweetie, just cause he seemed aloof doesn't mean he's not interested- even if he said he wasn't. I'm a Gemini, and from an 'Air Sign' perspective, we sometimes lie about stuff like that. We can sometimes be very shy about letting people we are attracted to know that we're attracted to them. I think it's an insecurity thing. We're scared of rejection. For instance, I was immensely attracted to a certain someone for the LONGEST time, but I was so unsure of what his reaction would be if I told him that I ended up pushing him away and treating him really coldly every time we met. And he hadn't done anything to deserve that! Needless to say, it didn't work out. Kind of sad, really, because one of his friends recently told me that he was interested in me, but after I brushed him off, he figured I really didn't even like him as a friend, so he backed off. LOL, us Air folk are a confusing lot!

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posted August 15, 2004 07:40 PM         

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I guess there's just something about them that is unforgettable. Hang in there- if you are meant to be in each other's lives again, you will be.

Sunny

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posted August 15, 2004 09:47 PM         

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Sunny, you have Leo Ascendant, like me, right?
That means Aquarius would fall on your descendant.... your seventh house. So that is significant in terms of how you would relate to an Aquarius. Not to mention simply that his Sun sign would be opposite ( therefore magnetizing between the sexes-one would assume and hope) to your Ascendant.

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posted August 16, 2004 06:13 PM         

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Pixie: Ooohh. Ok. I think I get what you are saying. Yeah, I'm a Leo asc so my 7th house is Aquarius. So because his sun is opposite my asc sign, we would be magnetized to each other? Is that a general rule or just because of those two signs in particular? Still learning so I don't know anything about that yet. Well, that totally explains the attraction then, doesn't it? I never fall for guys this hard and this quickly. Thanks!

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posted August 16, 2004 07:22 PM         

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Hi!
I am concerned about that strong attraction you talk about. I am Sun Virgo / Asc Scorpio /Venus Leo.
I am 35 years old and never felt so much attraction to one guy in just a split second...like if been hit by Cupid's arrow. Sometimes when we see through each other's eyes, it is really electrifying!

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posted August 17, 2004 09:28 PM         

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Doris,

It's sort of unnerving too, isn't it? I never thought that I'd fall for a guy that fast or that much. Intense.

Sunny

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posted August 17, 2004 10:16 PM         

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I have a question. Some of you were saying that Doris should date other people and if he loves her he'll let her know... but then what about this?: "Your broken hearted Uranian is not nearly as apt to come charging after you with the fire of possession in his eye as he is to shed a couple of quiet tears and say, "well I guess the best man won." He'll even resign himself to a life without you with insulting ease." page 409

I also thought this was interesting and sort of applied here. "He's capable of waiting until he's ninety to claim you, even if you feel that's a bit long to wait for consummation. The worst of it is that he'll never give a reason for the break. That's for him to know and you to find out. He'll perversely let you think that it was just a fantasy from the beginning, and hold back from the real truth that it was genuine for some hazy future day of forgiveness and reconcilliation. It can be pretty cruel, but that's the way he plays the game." (page 410)

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posted August 18, 2004 10:17 AM         

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Hi Sunny!
I am discourage about what you read in the book. I really have hope that this guy will make a move someday. Maybe aquarius guys would pretend that everything was a misunderstanding or an illusion, but all of them would act this way? If we are patient, why we don't have a chance?

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posted August 18, 2004 11:21 AM         

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Doris -

What is your Mars and what is his Mars?

Maybe you have such completely different styles of going about things, sometimes a compromise is not really possible without someone feeling resentful. Such as example, if you have an Aries Mars, and he has a Pisces Mars - that would drive me crazy.

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posted August 18, 2004 11:49 AM         

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Hi!
This is my profile:
Sun Virgo
Moon Taurus
Mercury Virgo
Venus Leo
Mars Leo

I donīt know his profile, I just know he was born on feb 4.

Well, I still think that when there is love, there is a chance. I know that virgo and aquarius are not very compatible, but I have done an effort through the years to become more flexible and tolerant with others and avoid the bad traits of virgo. But letīs see what happens... I just know that now that we donīt see each other often, when he sees me he gets very nervous...something very strong he feels for sure.

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posted August 19, 2004 02:31 PM         

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Doris,
I'm sorry, that wasn't meant to get you down. I threw that out there because I wanted to let you know that there is possibility that he was just saying that to buy himself some time and leeway to think things out. Also, if they do make people wait, then that means that the silence we are getting now is not necessarily an indication that they are not interested, like I would normally believe in this situation. I mean I find myself questioning it all the time. There was obvious sparks between us and a very strong connection, but then I can't help but wonder if it was all in my head, you know? So that passage actually comforted me a little bit, frustrating as the situation is.

What I don't get is, if we aren't going to try to pin them down or anything, then why would they want to make us wait, you know? I would let him have all the freedom that he wants within reason, but I guess there's no way for him to know that.

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posted August 19, 2004 06:22 PM         

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Hi Sunny!
The fact is that if we hadnīt read all that stuff about aquarius, probably we would never had understood that strange behaviour they have. Normal rules donīt apply here. Even the things my aquarius does are so strange and unexpected, they have sense. Even he is so self-confident and popular and able to speak in public and is the center of the crowd, lately when I am around, he freezes and canīt even look to my eyes. For me, this is a signal that I better be patient and wait for a while...well, maybe he is an aquarian and loves his freedom and is afraid of relationships, but, he might change his mind and realize that I am worth. I hope : ) Love can develop in every heart no matter the stars and planets alignment ))

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posted August 19, 2004 06:22 PM         

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There is a famous couple - she is a Virgo with Taurus Moon, he is an Aquarius -

Cameron Diaz & Justin Timberlake

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