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Topic: my twin soul fell asleep...dumped by mr cancer
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purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted August 10, 2004 01:07 PM
 
Last night he called me and asked me to come over. we played scrabble. I went to give him a kiss and he pulled away. i said "you dont like me anymore, do you?" and he said "sarah, i love hanging out with you and i care about you, but I just dont want a relationship right now." so I was mad and i threw a muffin at him, and he laughed and gave me a big hug. I didnt even cry. I wasnt surprised, because we havent made out or anything in over 2 weeks, and he has been acting different. I asked him why, and if there was someone else, and he said "there is nobody else. I just feel like I need to get my life sorted out, i have so much on my plate, and I dont want to be a bad boyfriend to you. i need to be a good friend to you first of all. i dont want to hurt you in the end, and i know if we kept on doing what we were doing that it would end badly. i know the next person i'm with i am not going to marry." and I said "I care about you, but it will be hard to be your friend." he said "i feel like you are the only real friend that I have right now. we can confide in eachother and we always have a good time. i promise i will make an effort with you if you will try to be my friend too." I said "I'm afraid I will never hear from you again." and he said he will call me tomorrow. he gave me another hug. a REAL hug, I could feel his head against mine, maybe he was smelling my hair. Today I cried. last night it didnt seem real. I think we both handled it pretty well. we'll see if he calls me tonite like he said he would. i think we might be able to be friends because we have so much in common, but it will take some effort. we'll see. IP: Logged |
Navia
Knowflake Posts: 86
From: U.S.
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted August 10, 2004 01:21 PM
How do you know that he is your twin? I hope that you feel better today. IP: Logged |
purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted August 10, 2004 01:25 PM
hi navia, i guess i dont know for sure, but i know he is one of my soulmates. we had an instant connection. so much in common, I guess things were almost "too perfect". check out the thread called ladybugs in this forum.IP: Logged |
Navia
Knowflake Posts: 86
From: U.S.
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted August 10, 2004 01:47 PM
I read those, and I am sorry that you are hurt. It sounds like he was a soul mate, especially with the lady bug thing. What a perfect day to get a manicure and a pedicure!IP: Logged |
purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted August 10, 2004 02:55 PM
thanks navia. actually, I treated myself to a haircut. IP: Logged |
Navia
Knowflake Posts: 86
From: U.S.
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted August 10, 2004 03:25 PM
Great! I have found that I have more energy when I put my picture on a purple plate. Do you think that might make you feel better? IP: Logged |
ghanima81
Knowflake Posts: 262
From: Portsmouth,UK
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted August 10, 2004 05:06 PM
(((((BIG HUG))))Aw, darling. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. Good one on ya for treating yourself, it always takes away the initial sting... hopefully he calls, sweets. I'm sure you will be able to be friends, I'm friends with my soul mate, although more would be better, that's just not where we are right now... seems like you two have too much of a bond for it to be the end of the friendship, at least.... Ghani IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2072
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted August 10, 2004 05:46 PM
Purplezen, your Scorpio moon knew something was up, when he started acting crabby and you were right. You listened to your instincts and that's a good thing. At least you know what's going on with him, and it's better that he said no to you if he didn't feel like making love, wouldn't it have been much worse if he went on and was pretending?At least you got an honest answer,
as for being friends, I find all men who are emotionally involved will say this. He will call and ask how you are, and then tell you what he's doing with his life. He will not want to talk too long in depth about your life, or talk about future dating. Don't ask him about his romantic life, in other words. That's my experience, Natasha
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purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted August 10, 2004 07:03 PM
thanks for the kind words and support everyone. dont worry natasha, i have told mr cancer that i dont want to ever hear about his romantic life, lol. IP: Logged |
astro junkie
Moderator Posts: 3959
From:
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted August 10, 2004 07:54 PM
 "... Once my lover,
now my friend -What a cruel thing to pretend - What a cunning way to condescend Once my lover, now my friend ..." (Fiona Apple - "Shadow Boxer") IP: Logged |
purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted August 10, 2004 09:20 PM
hey astro junkie, yeah, I listened to that cd today. it's a great break-up song. IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2072
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted August 12, 2004 01:11 PM
When a Man loves a Woman...When he held me in his arms,
When he held me in his arms and said,
Baby, baby, baby, you are the only one for me. When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothin' else
He'd trade the world
For a good thing he's found
If she is bad, he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he puts her down When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way
It ought to be... So, this man says he loves me, he loves me.
He gives me everything, everything,
Everything that he has,
Tryin’ to hold on to my precious love,
Cryin’, baby, baby, baby, don’t you, don’t you
Treat me, treat me bad.
Ohhhh . . . yeah. When a man loves a woman
He can do her no wrong.
He could never hold another girl.
Oh, you tell me you love me, baby,
And gonna hold me tight.
Baby, baby, this is a man’s world.
No, no.
Oh, baby, a change is gonna come down
In this man’s world. When a Man loves a Woman....
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purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted August 13, 2004 01:14 PM
mr cancer called me last night. we talked for 2 hours. I am not getting my hopes up about getting back together, i know he wants to be alone right now, but atleast we can still salvage a friendship out of this. he wants to hang out with me this weekend. he told me he misses hanging out with me. good. IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
Moderator Posts: 920
From: USA
Registered: Nov 2001
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posted August 17, 2004 11:18 PM
So, purplezen, how'd it go? Did Mr. Cancer call again and follow through with the "hanging out" this past weekend...? I haven't read the other threads you're referring to yet, but will get to it now.You're a Virgo gal, right? I bet the Merc Rx is hitting you pretty hard if your life's anything like mine at the moment. Take a few moments to sit back and breathe, remembering life isn't always this crazy and communications are not to be relied upon during this chaotic hazy phase. Try to take it all in stride, and revel in the quietness you can enjoy when you have time alone. Keep us posted, dear Knowflake. We're here for you.   ------------------
-K
"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight IP: Logged |
purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted August 19, 2004 12:07 PM
thanks VAA, yes mr cancer has called me several times, and we have hung out several times. He took me to see a movie, he came over and played video games, and then yesterday we spent all day together. we went to the mall, then his house. It's better than nothing, but I still long for more in terms of him being my boyfriend. I know he is not ready for that though. I'm glad we are still good friends. He has told me that he just doesnt want a girlfriend at all, it has nothing to do with me. thanks for the kind words. IP: Logged |
Tîtania
Knowflake Posts: 29
From:
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted September 03, 2004 07:46 AM
i hope all goes well and that eventually you two can be together.
i am such a romantic and i wish everybody a happy ending in life! all you need is love, just liek the song basically says. you can be broke and out in the rain, but if you have your love to hold you tight, it's all that matters.i am putting good thoughts into you two being together again, for good =)
good luck purplezen IP: Logged |
purplezen
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: outer space
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted September 03, 2004 11:34 AM
thanks so much tatania  Me and him are really great friends now. we spend almost everyday together. I'm sure in time we will be together romantically again. thanks again. will keep you posted.  IP: Logged |
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