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Mama Mia
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posted August 30, 2004 11:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Hi guys, I have somewhat small delima here. Just want to see if someone has been here b 4 and knows what I am talking about. I have been dating this guy for 3 months now I am a fish girl he is Aqua. I am very aware of his up and down nature ect.ect. This past Friday he sends me a text message and says that he want to talk with me nuttn major just when ever. In a way I was shocked cause I am usually the one who needs to talk but he does have that communication thing going on. So I send him a message back and say I hope everything is okay and I available to talk at any point. You are welcome to call me tonight if you get a chance, or we can meet Tomorrow which would have been Saturday b 4 he goes to work. Nothing I have not heard a thing from him. We did talk briefly Saturday Via text, but I still have yet to know what is on his mind. I know that Aqua mencan be aloof and very detached,but he initiated this. I have attempted to show him that my ears are open for him no matter what the issue is. And I feel like he is pushing me away now. What makes a person do that. If you are not going to speak your mind then you should not bring it up. Bu the way it is now Monday and I have not heard a peep out of him. Has anyone out there been through this and understands what I am saying. Please speak to me if so.

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Swerve
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From: London
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posted August 30, 2004 01:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swerve     Edit/Delete Message
I am wondering if all the Air Signs are being affected like this. Is Mercury still retrograde? If so, is it affecting them more personally at this time?

I think us Pisces are feeling this energy in a different way, we are reaching out to people but finding they are like ghosts when we do. The frustration for us is that we cannot be sure why they have (non)reacted like this.

Maybe when it passes all the information will flood to us like a river bursting a dam.


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Mama Mia
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From: chicago
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posted August 30, 2004 01:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
You know what Swerve you might be right, cause I was reading somewhere and I could have sworn that they were saying that Mercury was in retro until the 2nd of Sept. And I think that it is pretty serious. Thanks 4 your feed back!

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LibraSparkle
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posted August 30, 2004 03:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraSparkle     Edit/Delete Message
On August 10th, 2004, Mercury turns retrograde again, sending communications, missed appointments, mail and the www into a general snarlup! This awkward period begins a few days before the actual turning point (as Mercury slows) and lasts for three weeks or so, until September 2.

It finally straightens out on Sept. 14, bringing things back to normal. Mercury turns retrograde three times a year, as a rule, but the effects of each period differ, according to the sign in which it happens. This year, again, Mercury turns retrograde four times. How confusing! (see box for Retrograde Periods in 2004).
http://www.astrologycom.com/mercret.html

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astro junkie
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posted August 30, 2004 09:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
Cool! Thanks for that.

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astro junkie
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posted August 30, 2004 09:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for astro junkie     Edit/Delete Message
Mama Mia -

Next time he tells you he has something important to tell you, just say, "Ok. Talk to you later."

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Mama Mia
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posted August 31, 2004 09:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Astro you are so right, figured that out...
Thanks!

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Gemini Nymph
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posted August 31, 2004 11:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini Nymph     Edit/Delete Message
Speaking as a Gem with Pisces moon and Aqua Mars, I don't think this Merc RX is the problem. All air signs, but mostly Gems and Aquas (Libras, being cardinal, deal with this better...sometimes ), are highly sensitive to "emotional encroachment" at the beginning of any type of relationship. We can be nice and open at first, but if we feel like someone's quickly getting too clingy, needy, expectant, demanding, manipulative, or just pushing us faster than we wish to go in the emotional arena, we can do a 180 and suddenly act aloof and disinterested. Why? That's how air signs defend our own need for space - if others won't generously and patiently give it to us, we reclaim it ourselves.

And yes, in the eyes of other signs, we can be very rude and cold when doing this, especially if the air person and/or their respective partner in question are inexperienced in relationships, immature or otherwise emotionally insecure. Gems are better at comunicating their need for space than Aquas, who tend to just go about their way with the underlying conviction that they don't need to explain themselves to anyone. And if confronted with emotional displays of what you "need" from them, they'll be thoroughly unimpresssed. You have to appraoch an Aqua cooly and rationally about these things, or you risk finding out what makes an Aqua a fixed sign par excellance (this is, they won't change for you, period - they only change if they think it's right for them).

Now you may feel like you haven't done anything to encroach on this Aqua's space, but that's not the point (however, being a Pisces, it might be good to reflect and see if you've miss some vital clue he's dropped along the way along the way, or if your Piscean expectations are getting the better of you and not letting you see reality for what it is). The point is that when an air sign starts pulling away, they feel they need their space, for whatever reason. And you need to let them have it.

Aquas in particular will go through "cycles" during the development of a relationship where they need to pull away and reassert themselves in different social outlets or pursue new social contacts. Since they're the air fixed sign, if you try to rein them in during this time, they will simply ignore you to the point you feel invisible in their presence.

Pisceans are notorius for "being in love with love"; Aquas hardly ever do relationships on that level. If you going to continue this relationship you're going to have to realize and accpet that he sees things very differently from his Aqua eyes and his priorities and needs are quite different too. He may have intiated it, but even so, want he was hoping to get out of this relationship may be very, very different than what you want, and I wouldn't be surprised if this episode of indifference is his way of telling you that. I'm not saying what he's doing is right - there's certainly better ways of handling these things - but it seems like the all too typical Aqua male M.O. to me.

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Mama Mia
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posted August 31, 2004 11:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Thankyou Gemini Nymph, That was very,very
insightful. I do understand the Aqua Man
somewhat and yes he likes his space and freedom to do whatever he likes whenever he likes. I can recall getting a little emotional on him about certain situations and I can see why he may have pulled back.
I promise you I am better now. And had a talk with his best friend of 15 yrs and he told me give him time and space and he will be yours cause he likes you alot. So I do understand just have to continue to give him his space. But you know sometimes the heart
wants what the heart wants...

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