posted September 10, 2004 03:00 PM         

Basically, I figured out I am not the kind of girl who can recover from one-nighters, although I love the excitement. Maybe it is because of my Sagittarius sun, Taurus moon/ Scorpio venus . . .

Anyhow, he left for the summer a few days after that and we have had a very distant email friendship since then. He traveled around a bit and recently, he came back into town and called to get together last week. So, yesterday, I met him for coffee and something very strange happened . . .I realized he was very different from what I though he was. For instance, he talked a lot about spiritual studies and spiritual books that he read. He asked if I had read one, and I had not so I didn't fib, but I know about the book very well and I know some quotes from it. For the rest of the time, he would spew out these quotes, "It's all relative and objective, ya know, whatever you decide to think is your choice. You make your own choices . . ." etc, etc. It got to the point where I recognized the quotes directly and wondered if he had any interpretations or ideas of his own. Then, he went on a self-righteous rant after I picked up a bottle in the park we were at and threw it in the trash. He said, "I'm glad you did that because when I was up at a concert in Truckee, all these 'boarder-dudes' were hanging around and I started to pick up trash and they were all giving me looks." I thought this was particularly amusing since I've always though of him as a "boarder-dude." In the meantime of this rant, he walked by two pieces of paper lying in the grass . . .and didn't even flinch.

Then, he proceeded to tell me about his last trip to the library where the girl at the computer next to him was watching a WWF video clip. Apparently, he scoffed at her and then he thought, "Who the hell am I to disregard her interests just because they're different from mine?" (I had to bring up that it is WWE, not WWF anymore)

Anyway, it continued, this ranting about what a great guy he is, and I suddenly started to really notice his actions, which speak volumes. He acted like some great humanitarian, and made fun of a weird guy walking a rat-dog in a bumble-bee outfit. He talked of a respect for nature, but said he thought the kayak park they put in the river, which took a serious rearranging of the river to build, was great. He said he studied lucid dreaming, but used it to "base-jump" off a cliff because he always wanted to do that.

That last one was probably a reflection of the freedom-loving Aquarian. But, it seemed like he was a very deep, very aware person when I met him. And I fell hard. But, now I feel like he's somewhat transparent. I tried to get a feel for where I stand with him, and his answers were vague and evasive.

I guess he just doesn't have the feelings. This really hurt as I was very infatuated for a long time. But, the disappointment about the person he portrays versus his actions is the thing I'd like to know about. Are Aquarians usually two-faced?

posted September 10, 2004 03:40 PM         

Sagittarians are all about truth as we see it and don't like to be lied to, manipulated or misled (who does?). One similarity that us Sagittarians and Aquarians have in common is spontaneity and enthusiasm - tons of it. One thing that makes our two signs so similar is that there can be a tendancy towards a teeny bit of superficiality (or seeming that way), but it's just that both signs get so caught up and fired up, we move around from subject to subject. Both signs love to toss around ideas and both get fired up talking about these ideas. Bad thing, is that sometimes that's all it is - just talk. Both signs are unable to tolerate boredom and sameness day after day.

If you can - try to get to know this person better as a friend. The friendship theme with Aquarians, you will read in many many (did I mention many?) previous threads. This sign thrives on friendship and considers everyone to be their friend or their soon-to-be-friend. You might notice an aloofness or distance an Aquarius can suddenly put between the two of you. This is their way of handling emotions that sometimes are unfamiliar to them - it doesn't mean he/she doesn't care - it's just that this sign is more familiar in a world of thoughts and ideas. They will connect with you better when talking about a project, a plan or ANYTHING. The key thing to understand is that Aquarius loves to talk and toss around ideas. Yes, it can feel like they lead you on one minute and they are off in another direction the next. Give him the distance he needs and keep feeding him ideas and stimulating subjects to talk about. You will have his attention, believe me. He will also be checking you out very closely and will pay attention to everything you say and do.

posted September 10, 2004 03:47 PM         

First off, I share all those aspects with this man. Aqua sun/ Leo moon/ Cappy venus. Yup, we are a tricky breed. I know I went through a phase where I was trying to figure out who I was, travelling around, looking for something, and picking up a lot of ideas about the planet, politics, love, etc. It was a difficult time for me, I was experiencing so many new things, I couldn't decide who I was, and often got caught in traps of being who I though was a good person, but still it all seemed fake at the end of the day. It kind of sucks to see a lot of similarities between who I was once, and how you have described this man.

But you are right, his Leo moon probably has a lot to do with why he felt it nessecary to ''show off'' all he had seen and done to you. Aquas are so scatterbrained most of the time, that trying to devote ones-S-elf to one cause, or way of being a member of the planet, can get overwhelming, and we tend to know a little about a lot. Meaning we have all these bits of things we want desperately to devote ourselves to, but how to actually go about it when we keep getting distracted by everything else there is to do and see? But that Leo moon will make him an unshakable barrel of pride, even when it seems hypocritical to something else he's said or done.

As far as the seeming vague and distant, that IS to do with his Aqua sun, Aquarians are not so good with the emotions thing, they get in the way of all the other shiny objects we follow daily, but also we are somewhat detatched, even though we come across as being friendly and helpful.

But also pay attention to his Cappy venus. Capricorn, being an earth sign, and ruled by Saturn, is a somewhat materialistic sign. Also a sign of conflict, it's position here in Venus shows his great potential to follow a path to happiness, only if he can be ambitious enough to get there. (The Aqua sun may hinder this a bit, ''ooh look, a rainbow!! What was I just doing?'') What I'm getting at is he is a good man, he's just trying to find who he can be, but getting ''lazy'' and letting his gregarious Leo moon make him look like a bit of an a$$, and being hindered by his Aqua sun, when he really does believe what he's saying, he's just not totally balanced himself out yet.

Does any of this make any sense? BTW, can I ask his age, just to see if it's perhaps something that will pass, or if he's gotten stuck in this pattern after years of trying to better himself?

Hope that helps. And yes, I too have fallen head over heels for an Aqua man I met and spent one night with. He turned out to be the biggest a$$ ever, a huge fake. So it may be an Aqua thing, but I tend to see it more in men than women.

posted September 10, 2004 04:25 PM         

I met him when I was 18 and so the one-nighter was a HUGE mistake. For one, I was a little young, still being in highschool. Things went way too fast and it seems like all this time I have been spending just trying to get over that one night. I still think he is a great guy, and maybe he was more stable internally when we met as opposed to now. I'm just confused because I feel like I read too much into it when he wasn't really "there."