posted September 27, 2004 08:27 AM         

In situations like these what generally works is: 'Let Go of him for a while'. I'm not asking you to break up with him. All I'm trying to say is that just be yourself for a while and let him be himself. I'm sure both of your will feel much better at the end of the day.

This may not be the right solution. Since I'm not there to really know the kind of situations both have you been. But that was the maximum effort I could make to make you feel better.

If you want to know about the kind of compatibility between the two of you, you can always visit www.astrology.com and find out more about yourseves.

Love and luck to you...

posted September 28, 2004 04:15 AM         

I'm sure you will get more responses on this, but do this. Try to focus your study on your respective Neptune's & Pluto's. This is usually where you will find all things having to do with losing your boundaries (Neptune), and with obsession/possesion (Pluto).

Not sure if you have gone to astro.com to get their FREE reports. There's a ton to do there.

Goes without saying, the way you describe this relationship, it doesn't sound healthy or something we would wish for someone we loved. You know? It may be exciting, perhaps you two have some type of astrological influence which enjoys the thrill, or the challenge, or the dominance, or the chaos.

But you're going to have to grow out of this, and the more you resist, the harder the lesson is going to come down on you. NO ONE is immune.

Don't take offense because that is not my intention. But I've done a lot of volunteer work for a domestic violence center, and I am also a survivor. Situations like yours usually escalate, if it hasn't already.

Better safe than sorry.

posted September 28, 2004 08:54 PM         

I agree there seem to be problems with being together, do you normally spend time at home? Pisces can be funny about their privacy, and innerwardly feel threatened with too much company, either way some time in a new place would help.

posted September 29, 2004 04:08 AM         

Ascendant Virgo 16
2nd house Libra 7
3rd house Scorpio 4
4th house Sagittarius 9
5th house Capricorn 18
6th house Aquarius 21

Sun In Capricorn 1
Moon In Capricorn 12
Mercury in Capricorn 4
Venus in Sagittarius 7
Mars in capricorn 25
Jupiter in Libra 3
Saturn in Libra 5
uranus in Scorpio 27
Neptune in sagittarius 22
Pluto in Libra 22
n node in Leo 14
Chiron in Taurus 15

posted September 29, 2004 05:31 AM         

His chart Sun in pisces 9
Moon in Sagittarius 15
Mercury in Aquarius 20
Venus in Aquarius 29
Mars in Pisces 16
Jupiter in Libra 8
Saturn in Libra 8
Uranus in Sag 0
Neptune in sagittarius 24
Pluto in Sagittarius 24
Ac in Leo 18
Ic Scorpio 0
Chiron in Taurus 16
Vertex in Capricorn 9
Nnode in Leo 10

My Chart
Sun in Libra 24
Moon in Aquarius 8
Mercury in Scorpio 18
Venus in Virgo 15
Mars in Sagittarius 4
Jupiter in Virgo 28
Saturn in Libra 3
Uranus in scorpio 24
Neptune in Sagittarius 20
Pluto in Libra 22
Ac in Libra 14
Ic in Capricorn 19
Chiron in Taurus 16
Vertex in Taurus 1
Nnode in Leo 17

Major Aspects
Sun opposing my Venus
Sun square mars
Sun trine mercury
sun trine venus
sun sextile neptune
sun conjunct Pluto
moon square venus
Moon trine jupiter
Moon trine saturn
Mercury square Mercury
Mercury sextile neptune
Mercury trine pluto
mercury trine mars
venus square mars
venus square uranus
Venus opposing mars
Mars square neptune
mars sextile jupiter
mars sextile saturn
jupiter conjunct saturn
Jupiter square neptune
Do you look at aspects to the chart rulers as holding an importance?

posted September 29, 2004 01:37 PM         

I notice the Sun opposite your Venus in synastry, I had a feeling from what you described there were squares or oppositions to Venus which also rules trust. Trust issues fall under Venus and Neptune and sometimes Mars. Hard aspects to Venus point to infighting, competition. Distrust of long term compatibility. You don't trust him all the time, and you don't know why, the feeling could be mutual. Competition, that is the desire to win, is more important sometimes than getting along. There will be arguments naturally because both of you value trust.

It's a matter of trusting what the other one feels/says, and accepting it. That's tough because at least one of you isn't as clear in communication, that's Neptune.

Communication leads to trust so the arguing doesn't help. Mars and Pluto in the composite point to some power plays, and I knew someone had a Leo ascendant. The composite feels more like a Leo ascendant too. The trust may stem from a feeling of a lack of power or significance in life. One of you needs to be heard, get ahead in life and there is some frustration always, that never goes away.

Time spent with children or getting in touch with more childlike activities helps. Alcohol allows self control to vanish, Leo wants to be in control. Make it a rule not to drink when you are together at least half the time, set limits, be strong. Strength is needed here. Sometimes we have to be very firm with others, and I would recommend being firm and not changing your mind in arguments. That way there is no argument.

When I fight with a Pisces it's always because I change my mind to seem more lenient, and then communication is unclear, my motives are suspect, and everything backfires.

Keep communication short, and to the point, even if you have to talk less. Make your communications stronger and shorter.

With Venus in Aqua, which rules Saturn as well as uranus, there is a natural desire to compete and rule over those you love. It's done with love, but there is push to be the victor in discussions. This is an excellent position for a CEO. Imagine you are negotiating a business deal and you can see the pride involved. It can be really difficult to keep your cool, excercise and meditation ought to be encouraged for both of you. Mainly for him, but he probably won't go without you.