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Topic: Does Mr. Aqua Just LOVE Aries Women?/Aquarius Love Firsthand
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ariestiger
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posted October 09, 2004 05:59 PM
 
What have Sarah Michelle Gellar, Reese Witherspoon, Debbie Reynolds and myself all got in common?
Answer: they're all Aries (and with the exception of Ms. Reynolds, all blonde) and Mr. Aqua LOVES them. I really think he must have a thing for Aries women.
But why? His Venus is in Capricorn, for a start. So according to astrology, he should in theory be going for someone entirely different to, probably the opposite of, myself...someone who is mature...is highly responsible...has a good steady job...is very traditional..etc.,etc. So why is he highly (it seems) attracted to someone with a fairly youthful attitude, who he claims is 30 going on 13?
We are incredibly different, by the way, he dresses in handmade dark navy pinstripe suits and crisp shirts, tweeds, or corduroys and rollnecks in natural colours, and loves opera. I love youthful fashions in eye-catching, strong colours, and write my own hippie-inspired songs.
He has got Saturn in Aries, so maybe this is an indication that he may learn about certain aspects of life "through me". At least that's the way I interpret it. Or maybe it's just the Aquarian way of loving someone for being themselves? I was reading somewhere, I can't remember where, about the qualities of love through the zodiac and the fact that on reaching Aquarius, it transforms itself into "agape" and the ability to love even to the extent of completely letting go of the other person, (if that is what the other person desires) without making much of a fuss. My husband thinks astrology is all rot, but this is EXACTLY how he thinks. (See my topic about "Time of Year" in the Astrology Forum). IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted October 09, 2004 06:41 PM
Aries & Aquarius' do get along, that's just the way it is. To pick out his Venus in Capricorn is not enough. There are so many many many other things to consider in a Chart in order to make a general opinion, and then each person may have a different opinion.Relationship come and go, we learn certain lessons and then move on. It seems to me, long-term successful relationships are the exception and not the norm. But be careful you do not get into comparing yourself to anyone. This is very toxic to your own spirit. Focus on the positive parts of yourself, maybe some hidden elements of yourself that have yet to be evolved. You may find you were intended to be with a totally different type of person. 
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it is better to light a candle than curse the darkness ...
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ariestiger
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posted October 09, 2004 07:19 PM
We are good friends, and I think we know each other quite well by now. He has also got a mushy Mars-in-Pisces side to him, which blends well with my Pisces Venus. With Jupiter's move into Libra, Mr Aqua seems to have become more relaxed and positive. At present a job offer of his is hanging in the balance, so we are waiting to see how it pans out.
Plus we have a good intellectual rapport (my planets in Gemini vs. his Sun in 3rd?), and he doesn't allow me to feel sorry for myself too long. His emotional detachment does help considerably. I have learned, when I'm pi**ed off about things, not to get into too much of a state, but to say, "I'm pi**sed off because: (xyz - briefly) - now, please give me a kiss" which he is wholeheartedly willing to do. (And oh, it makes such a difference...I guess it's the equivalent of giving a child an ice-lolly when it's upset!) He sees himself very much as the parent and me as the child/teenager. Occasionally I wish he'd see me as an equal, but that's just the way it is, there's no changing it. Then again - he does things for me like a parent would. He really, really, looks after me. He had very nurturing, giving parents, and I guess his Venus in Capricorn enables him to work at a relationship and not give up easily. I feel sometimes that I don't give enough in return, but in a funny sort of way, it seems as though just being myself is enough...Maybe it's just the fresh uncomplicatedness of the Aries woman he likes...IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted October 10, 2004 05:41 AM
AJ - I quote:
*you may find you were intended to be with a different kind of person*
Well, Mr Aqua lacks a little passion sometimes, but I am used to it now - let's say "resigned". And I think temperamentally we have rubbed off on each other quite well. His temper gets aroused more often, whereas I have learned to keep mine and to present myself better in certain social situations.
I do still rather "like" a certain person; I would like to be friends with him and I think he would like to be friends with me. However, I am married and I have no idea whether he is attached or not. So anything other than friendship would probably be inadvisable. This is the question: is being happy with the status quo, so long as it is fairly tolerable, better than seeking a new relationship if a certain aspect fails to satisfy?
I am currently having counselling and my counsellor seems to think we have quite a good relationship compared to most people. (She is another Aqua). One thing about Mr Aqua is that he does listen - and give feedback. And he is himself quite a good psychoanalyst (Scorpio Asc.?). IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted October 10, 2004 11:00 AM
The question about whether a relationship is worth being tolerant towards, vs. looking for something better, is a question I think the majority of us grapple with regularly. Guys have a way of dealing with that, they don't commit to the one they are with in case something better comes along.I'm glad that you are friends and can communicate well, that's always a good thing. God works in mysterious ways.  ------------------
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ghanima81
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From: Portsmouth,UK
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted October 11, 2004 07:34 AM
You said such an important word there and may not have realized it: friend.If you and your husband have a strong friendship, this is what is the most important thing to him. Aqua's are NOTORIOUS for the amount of value they place on friendship. If you do for him what a good friend would do, you care for him, don't lie to him, share your feelings and can hang out and discuss things without getting too terribly emotional, this will keep him very happy. It's the funniest thing in the world when I have a disagreement with my Libra man. I always end up feeling deeply hurt when he doesn't come through for me, or breaks a promise, and the words that always come out of my mouth are ''but he's supposed to be my friend''. Never fails. Anyways, he probably does enjoy the youthfulness and spontenaity (sp?) that you bring to the table. Aquas do accept anyone that they think is true to themselves, and anyone who is willing to ''think outside the box.'' He may seem slightly passionless or even reserved to you, but I can see that there is a certain balance that you are able to maintain. You bring different things to each other and therefore help each other grow. This is what good relationships are based on, and when you can recognize it, it's that much better. I don't know what to say re: this other person, the friend of yours, but I will say this; if anything were to happen there while you are still in a relationship with Mr. Aqua, it will be the worst possible hurt you could inflict on him, one that he may never be able to get over. Sometimes it does seem fun to have a flirt and a joke with someone new, who doesn't like to feel appreciated by someone else? But to actually act on it is a very different thing... And as an Aqua Sun/Cappy Venus girl, I can tell you that your man is going to make it work between you. He is a fixed sign, but will work things out always to keep his Ram-Goddess happy. Just thought I'd share that with you. Love and light,
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ariestiger
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From: UK
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted October 11, 2004 01:11 PM
Thank you, Ghanima. What you said is pretty much true. I think that if we were ever parted - I would miss his friendship above all else. We have a fairly similar sense of humour.
Actually, when we married, we had a non-traditional marriage ceremony and promised always to be each other's friend.
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