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Topic: Compromising your feelings
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Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 77
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 25, 2004 09:58 AM
 
Question, Has anyone ever been in a position in a relationship where they compromised their feeling 2 go along cause they did not want to lose the other person. If so why and what was the result? IP: Logged |
miss_muffet
Knowflake Posts: 135
From:
Registered: Mar 2004
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posted October 25, 2004 10:07 AM
Relationships are always about compromises. There are compromises and then there are sacrifices. You can compromise forever, but I find that sacrifices are rare in an equally loving relationship.You are going to have to elaborate on "compromised feeling" part for me a little bit... Miss Muffet IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 77
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 25, 2004 10:32 AM
I understand your absolutely right????? This is how it goes I have been dating this guy for about almost five mnths now. Things had been going kind of up and down and at one point I was more into him then he was me, but things began to turn around I could see where he was becoming more and more into me not by mouth but by actions, he even told me that he was growing in this. He revealed that to me about a month in a half ago. We were doing okay I thought spending a nice amount of time together I was happy with what he was giving me of himself. About 2 weeks now I have been noticing a chnange in his consistincy to be with me. Last weekend he planned his whole weekend with out even including me at all and we had not spent time with each other since earlier that week. So I tell him this past weekend do you want me to give you total space 4 awhile cause not getting good feelings from you lately. He says he still wants to continue to see me, but I do not see a change in his attitude. So I just finally say I am out of this do whatever it is your trying to do giving you plenty of space now to do it.(Women intuition)He calles back on my vmail and says he wants to talk call him back ect. So I call him the next day we meet and we talk. Mind you last week when I noticed the change in his attitude I asked him is something or someone holding you back from me he says not someone but something,but would never said what. So talking to him yesterday I ask agian whats holding you back from me he says me. I am at a place right now where I do not want to be in a exclusive relationship yada yada but he knows that, that is what I want he knows that I am so crazy about him I had once got the impression that he was crazy for me too. He says he understands if I want to end this now but wanted suggest that maybe we can take the intimacy out of this if this is going to cause a probelm we will keep doing what weve been doing just minus that. Well we tried b 4 was not real successful in doing that, we both admitt really attracted to each other. So by the time we were ready to leave each other neith one of us wanted to go and really had not came to a real solution but I am the one with the complaints. So what I am saying I struggled with staying or leaving. I have made a decision and later text him and told him what that decision is, just wanted to hear if anyone had a similar story or ever been through something like this, like to hear about it. IP: Logged |
astro junkie
Moderator Posts: 5008
From:
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted October 25, 2004 10:59 AM
If compromising means not being able to express your love to him, that doesn't sound like a compromise ... not even a sacrifice ...IP: Logged |
miss_muffet
Knowflake Posts: 135
From:
Registered: Mar 2004
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posted October 25, 2004 11:11 AM
AJ is right. This doesn't sound like a compromise nor a sacrifice.It sounds like he needed to grow up. You can't help him do that right now. He will have to do this on his own way and time. I say, cut the cord, and let him go. If he comes back in time, keep him. Otherwise, adios. I know it sounds harsh but you have to think about you. If you are unhappy with the situation, there is only one way to go - change it. If he really cares about you, barring any outside influences, he will come back. If not, it's his loss, not yours. Good luck, Miss Muffet IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 77
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 25, 2004 11:23 AM
Exactly what I did. I told him Nope am not going to compromise my feeling want to be
THE women in your world not a women think it mayb to much gone hurt me. But better now for me to handle it this way. Deserve what I want I am a good girl and you know it not gone sale myself short this time. SO c u around(da gym maybe) Take care. It hurt but I have to look out for me, just will take it a day at a time to get past it... IP: Logged |
GingerB
Knowflake Posts: 26
From: Lucedale, MS USA
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted October 25, 2004 05:50 PM
Good going Mama Mia!
Better that, than to go thru what I've gotten myself into this go round!(((Be truely Happy!))) IP: Logged |
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