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posted November 02, 2004 12:52 AM         

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Ugh! I'm seriously bored. We're long distance again, I go to visit him sometimes. So it's been phone and net conversations and lately they've just become more and more borrrinnng, he hardly talks! Which makes NO sense to me especially since his Mercury is in GEMINI. Shouldn't he be babbling away?! He does have 2 oppositions to Merc - Asc and Uranus.

I really have no idea, besides his Mercury, to figure out why he has been boring me to death. Should I look at my Venus? Do I look at his Mercury? When reading the composite stuff on astro.com, I don't see anything that says conversations will be lacking. The composite actually makes it seem like if we can get over ego problems, we can take over the world. Anyone know what I should be looking at? He's driving me crazy, I'm a babbly virgo.

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posted November 02, 2004 04:28 AM         

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Hey VTT..

Maybe he is just having a rough few days? Not everyone likes to chat on the phone...esp guys...

MK

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posted November 02, 2004 09:36 AM         

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He sound unemotional right now, maybe he just isn't as open and expressive as you would like? Can you live with that, or is there a way you can express that to him, that you need a warmer version of himself?

Maybe you can send him his birthchart and interpretations, and you could both talk about it?
Or there could be something on his mind he doesn't want to share, for fear of being vulnerable

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posted November 03, 2004 02:26 AM         

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hmmmmmm...... i'm a taurus with a gem. mercury and i can't shut up!

maybe it does have to do with something emotional. the bull tends to shut up pretty quickly when something is bothering them. but ofcourse i can hear his response now:

"nothing's wrong babe."

and then total silence for 5 minutes. haha....

it will take some times if it is something emotional because he will have to bring it up on his own, and that may be awhile.

in the mean time, why not try to "spice" up the convo. if you know what i mean. he may be bored too! or else delay your response and when he asks what's up say you are talking to someone else. that should arouse his taurean possesive/selfcentered qualities and get him talking!

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posted November 03, 2004 03:57 AM         

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Are you able to start a new hobby or a special study on something you like? An activity that is not all right brain like painting, but something which requires some inventive thought on your part.

Even if it's putting model airplanes together. That type of thing. Something which will require your full attention.

Then you can mention to him that you are really into this "project" and you'll speak to him later. So it's not another person in your life, but simply something else which is not based on a relationship.

Leave it at that and see his reaction. Remember that you are into your project MORE than you are into a relationship with him. This will make him happy and comfortable.

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posted November 03, 2004 08:37 PM         

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Granted, I'm the last person from whom to seek advice about taureans but I think Motherk's got something there. Perhaps HE's bored with the manner of conversation, i.e. via phone and net. I mean, he's Taurean - that would be great for someone more cerebral and less sensual and liked having space, like a Gem or an Aqua. But Taureans often need to experience relationships more in person, where they can see, touch, *sense* the other person more fully. Without that, he may not be getting the right stimulation to keep him interested or enthused about the present state of communications.

With a Mercury Gem, it might be a little hard for him to translate these needs into words. Perhaps, when you two have some one on one time in person to talk about stuff you could approach this and ask him to help you understand want he needs from you along these lines. I don't think tackling it while he's long distance would be a good idea though - I find taureans are too likely to jump to the wrong conclusions due to their sensitive nature and it's better to have them in the room and let them address their fears upfrontly with you, rather than letting them wallow in their anxieties several miles away.

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posted November 03, 2004 09:15 PM         

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Well put, yes Taurus is not good on the phone.

Natasha

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posted November 14, 2004 03:09 AM         

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i talk on the phone in order to see someone later, in person. otherwise its purely mechanical...

i am a taurus, yeah

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posted November 14, 2004 04:08 AM         

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I'll vouch for that. I rarely answer my cell phone when it rings. I know, it's kind of rude. I'll let the person leave a message and then call them back later ......sometimes days later.

I just really dont like talking on the phone. Gemini Nymph got it right.

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posted November 14, 2004 11:38 AM         

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I don't either - (Taurus Rising 29.48 degrees.)

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posted November 14, 2004 01:00 PM         

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maybe he is bored with you too. Gemini Mercury loves to talk but even they (or anyone in that matter) could not find enough words if the person they are talking to doesn`t evoke interest/curiousity in them. I think you both are bored with each other at that point.

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posted November 16, 2004 11:21 AM         

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Hey - Do you guys ever try to solve problems verbally in a stream of conscious way?

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posted November 18, 2004 01:07 PM         

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Haha it makes me laugh in a sad way to come back here and read this now that things didn't work out. I think my Libran mercury overrides my Taurean influences because I love the phone. He was all right on the phone for awhile, but yeah I think he got bored too.

*sigh sigh sigh* *runs out of this thread screaming*

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