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From: Bristol,CT,USA
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posted November 05, 2004 03:45 AM         

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Hello I am new here. I really need some advice on a relationship. I am a Libra sun Scorpio moon female and the man I'm in love with is an Aquarius sun Cancer moon. I met him a couple of years ago and ever since I knew we were soulmates.Well when we first met I was 17 and he was 21.We fell so deeply in love but one day his mother walked in and saw us asleep together in bed and flipped because I was underage.So he said we should stop seeing each other for awhile.I was heartbroken.He kissed me and said "wait for me" meaning when I turn 18 call me...months went by and I met a hilarious Cancer sun Scorpio moon and ended up moving in with him.One day we were walking and I saw the Aquarius man's sister and she said they had gotten an apartment together.She invited me and the Cancer to come over...so we did.The first time I saw the Aquarius again,Love hit me in the face.So everyday my Cancer boyfriend and I would go over there and hang out and the Aquarius would be smiling at me and telling me to meet him in the kitchen. I felt horrible. Im not the kind of person that "plays" people like that.Its just when I would look into his eyes I'd lose sense of Time,of everything...Then one night there was a party and everyone got really drunk including my Cancer boyfriend.(I didnt,I dont drink) So the Aquarius asked me to come out on the balcony with him to look at the stars.When I went out he grabbed me and looked deep into my eyes."I want you" he said. I hugged him for what seemed like Eternity and it started to snow.We were both crying and kissing.We knew we were each other.We just knew we were One.I looked up into his eyes and the bells from the Church across the street rang three times.I had never felt such powerful energy. Well I had tried to talk to my boyfriend the Cancer guy about it and he got furious and said if I left him what would he have to live for.I was afraid if I left he would kill himself...so I didnt.The Aquarius was now furious with me too,saying you cant help everyone...come move in with me.I was so torn I knew I wanted to be with him but i felt like i couldnt leave the Cancer man for what he might do to himself.Then one day the Aquarius man came up to me and said"someones stolen my money..I think it was Jon." I couldnt believe it. I knew the Cancer man wouldnt steal from him.Jon and I were standing outside waiting for a friend to pick us up and the Aquarius man looked at me and said"Do you need a ride home?" and I was very stupid and said no.I got home and tried to call him to tell him "hey theres no way jon would steal money from you" but he wouldnt pick up. I wrote him letters he never returned them.Finally I forced myself out of the relationship with the ultra possessive Cancer/Scorpio and moved back home to my mothers house.I have written the Aquarius letters since moving back home telling him how sorry I am and that I made the biggest mistake of my life but i have yet to talk to him now in 9 months. I feel that all my hope is lost and I never have had a happy day since the last time I saw him.He lives like 3 streets up from me but I dont have the courage to go there when I think he probably hates me. Im so lost. I feel like I met my other half,I was so close,and then lost him. Please if anyone has any advice or any wise words to help me through this I would be so grateful. Thank you for listening to me and sorry this post is so long. -love,Eliza

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posted November 05, 2004 04:25 AM         

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eliza ~

i feel as though your aquarian used you a little. he told you to wait for him and who knows what he did in that time. then, when you come back he makes you drop everything for him. that's not very fair is it? and who knows if he lied about the cancer stealing just so you'd feel bad and break up with him. it just seems as though something is not right. like the aquarious is very controlling? is this true?

i'd wait and see what this aqua boy wants from you. he said "i want you." did he mean sexually? did you have sex with him while underage? if you did and then he broke off the relationship with you because of his mother and now wants sex from you again because you are 18 that is pretty pathetic. that's just my opinion. i don't want to see you get hurt. you are worth more than just sex. wait and see if the aqua. wants to have a real relationship. it still bugs me that he could not call or talk to you while he told you to wait. like i said, be friends first. if he waits for you to have sex again while just being friends, you know he's a keeper. if he wants to just jump in the sack, sack him!

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posted November 05, 2004 06:14 AM         

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Aqua/Cancer moon men are irresistible. But trust that everything happened for a reason, you couldn't leave the Cancer just yet. The Aqua needs to be alone right now for a reason. Accept that, and realize you can't change him. He is a good friend but chances are you will both be friends in the future, nothing more. Do not push the something more because it will make you feel more desperate.

To feel better, plan on saying something nice about your life when you meet him, he wants to see you happy, he doesn't want to hear how you are sorry, he will see that as clinging to the past.

Look at him as a friend, not someone you need, that's the nicest thing you can do for him.

Natasha
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posted November 05, 2004 12:03 PM         

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Thank you for your replies..It means so much to me.I havent talked to anyone about this until now its really painful to think about. But yes I think he did use me a little and then made it out to look like I was the one at fault.We never did have sex though..I told him I wanted to wait(which I am very thankful for or else this would be a lot harder to get through.)When I do see him again I will be his friend.I was wondering if you guys could tell me anything about the relationship by our birthdate information.If it looks like it would never work out then I want to overcome this so that I can move on to a normal, happier life.Well heres our info

Me: October 15 1985
Bristol, CT USA
2:50 pm

Him: February 14 1981
Bristol CT USA
11:23 am

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posted November 05, 2004 04:29 PM         

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It seems it has become consistently my style to never fall into the trap of splitting hairs like these. If you cannot decide which guy, it's neither ...

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posted November 06, 2004 09:12 PM         

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No its not that I cant decide...I decided already..I wish I had sooner though. I guess Im just going to be there for the Aquarius/Cancer when we meet again...

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posted November 06, 2004 09:42 PM         

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Well, his basic Aquarian core would be somewhat at odds with his Cancer moon... To me he sounds manipulative. I know you feel strongly for him and you say you've written letters telling him of your feelings... Is it possible he's involved with someone else now? The ball is in his court, you have to see if he wants to kick it back to you now. You say he only lives 3 streets away and you have nothing to lose, why don't you go around and see him and see what happens? Worst case scenario, you find out he isn't interested and you have closure because it seems that's what you need right now. Trust me, I know that is easier said than done, to go and face him, but if it gives you the closure you need then it's worth it.

He doesn't sound like a nice person, for the reasons others have mentioned. He's obviously got some selfish and manipulative tendencies, it's probably a blessing in disguise you haven't heard from him. Maybe you are right and he is your soulmate and maybe he needs to grow as a person and work on these things before he can come into your life and fill those big shoes, maybe thats why the universe has kept him from you all this time.

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posted November 06, 2004 11:35 PM         

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He is idealistic and has a challenge of idealizing his girlfriends and then when they get too close, he gets scared off. He prefers the romance. Cancer likes the ideal romance, Aqua tries to handle it as friendship, or as a helper. Notice he was trying to help you with the Cancer? Sort of like a therapist. Once he couldn't fix the situation he couldn't cope.

He likes to fix things, he would make a good therapist/counsellor, but not so good with his own life, ask his advice about your life but don't try to make him part of it. He can't be part of anyone's life, he is so far out of himself, uncomfortable with his moodiness, and impulses.

Lord Byron, the poet had this combination, he was incredibly romantic, BUT he was notoriously cruel towards women, who he neglected.

Real life is kind of boring for Aqua/Cancer men, they like exciting women with problems, especially married ones, on the verge of breakdowns. I know a very good therapist Aqua/Cancer. He would be attracted to strong Scorpio placements, and someone with commitment problems.

Natasha
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posted November 07, 2004 04:55 PM         

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Yeah, that's true.Everything you guys and girls have said has helped me these last couple days.I realise I have to keep going foward in my life,but I'll never forget.Lately I've been playing music a lot more than usual and that always soothes the soul.I just wonder though,when we meet again,if I should be willing to try again?I guess I'll just have to wait and see.

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posted November 07, 2004 09:09 PM         

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You sort of remind me of someone else who visits these parts, and, I could be totally wrong, but she reminded me of me at one time, which therefore, reminds me of you, which reminds me ...

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posted November 08, 2004 08:15 PM         

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You're funny.

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