posted November 09, 2004 03:23 PM         

Internet Romances

Humans are a race in search of the heart - the soul connection.

Reality begins and ends in the heart. We search most of our lives for our soul mate.

People often go to chat rooms because they are lonely and seek this connection. They have internet romances and fantasies of escaping with the person they chat with - about leaving their current lifestyles and living together. Rarely does this happen and if it does - it often doesn't last. One must look at their karma to know where their destiny lies. We are here to experience what we perceive as karma - often to the loss of someone we love.

Karma is not real - though it is a good excuse for what we do. To evolve is to break free and follow your heart - maintaining the integrity of your physical destiny.

If you cannot - you become trapped in the web.

Many people have email affairs through they can play out sexual and emotional fantasies. It is about healing and finding someone with the same issues who wishes to connect and share. A bond is created. But is it just therapy? Everything we do is either therapy or busy work - until we come into spiritual awareness.

Is the Internet affair a way to fill in lonely moments? It is so easy for lonely misunderstood people to find happiness with someone in cyberspace who seems to care and understand. Keep it in perspective especially if you are emotionally needy - and most people are.

How do you know if you are having an Internet affair - as it is not physical? Signs: You can't wait to get to your computer each day. You IM for hours. But how much of what you share is truth or is it fiction? You won't now until you speak to the person many times - the meet them and get to know each other.

Someone who will not give your their phone number - is not available or not who they pretend to be. Don't ever make excuses for anyone.

It either works or it doesn't.

Meeting in the physical can be fun but is often disappointing as the 'spark' that was on the email - the issues gratified in cyberspace - are not present.

True soul mates meet by synchronicity - when both souls attract each other for one or more reasons. It is all created 'out of the box' - not in 3D.

Please be careful about people you meet online. Be totally aware of the parameters of the relationship. Do not be fooled by fantasies created by you and another person as to what you want vs. what is real in both your lives - especially if both of you need and want love.

The desire for the perfect partner - the soul mate - the person who is there for you all the time - will always be part of who we are as we seek reunion with our twin aspect - as is above so is below.

For those ruled by the heart - the fantasy will happen over and over again online - with more than one partner. This is what is meant by repeating lessons until one gets them right.

Please be careful where you place your heart. Do not become addicted to the illusion.

To know if you are addicted to the Internet - as with all addictions - stop and think, "How long can you go without being online?"

posted November 09, 2004 04:13 PM         

with my moon in the 3rd house, and my aquarian influences, i gravitate toward meeting people using the internet. i've met some nice people that way: several good, though intermittent friends (one guy i like to go walking with and eat vietnamese food with, another i like to go thrifting with), 1 or 2 really close friends (both in austin, who i absolutely adore - we share similarly obscure tastes in movies), and the guy i'm dating now (he wrote me in march of last year through the onion, and i knew right off the bat i liked the way he expressed himself - kind of straight-forward and earthy with a clever edge).

of course, i have met lots of weirdos. i have some stories i could tell ya! some of the men i've met seem to be looking for insta-girlfriend, and that turns me off. that's a big drawback to using the internet to meet people, to me. but since i've been lucky with a few, i won't knock it entirely.

posted November 09, 2004 06:27 PM         

It started with my website. He found his way to it "by chance" and ended up sticking around. After a time I asked him if he was interested in being a moderator on my site's message board, and he accepted. At the time, the moderators and I were very friendly, having daily chats in the staff chatroom. When he became a mod, he joined us in our chats. The chatroom was very active and a lot of mods were in there frequently, but there were times when it was just the two of us in there chatting. As we started to get to know each other we felt a real kinship with each other so we started chatting on IM. We connected more and more, finding we had so much in common: shared interests, shared values, shared passions, similar personal histories, etc. Beyond the tangible reasons for our feelings of kinship though, we started feeling an inexplicable emotional connection which grew more powerful by the day. Because past experience made me cautious I tried to resist, but it was too late; we were falling in love. We began speaking on the phone. After three months of daily phone calls that lasted for hours at a time we met. The second we met in person it was as if we had known each other all our lives. (Of course, what I really believe is we picked up where we left off in another life.) Both our families and friends were shocked at how quickly and easily and naturally we fell into step with each other. Everyone said it was as if we'd been together forever. We got married five months after meeting in person. We've been married a year and a half now and I can tell you without a doubt that we are true soulmates. We balance each other, teach each other, support each other, and challenge each other. The love we have is something I'd always hoped to find but never completely believed was possible, but it is. We've been blessed.

posted November 09, 2004 07:29 PM         

I have met one boyfriend off the internet and lots of friends. One of my dearest friends in DC, she's one of my first "internet friends" I ever made when I got online in 1997. I met her in person in 2001 when I married my ex-husband and we lived in Maryland. It was so great! I finally got to hang out and go shopping with her every weekend. It was just like online, but now in person Interestingly she's a triple Scorpio, lol. Very intense personality! But she's great, I love her to bits.

The boyfriend I had... wow... that was intense too. He was a Leo. He had a girlfriend of 5 years. We hung out a lot, but it was strictly platonic, but we had an incredible connection. One day over dinner, he just announced he'd dumped her. Long story short, we dated, because of our intense connection we were able to talk about all the things we really wanted and they were so different, so we broke up two months later. But we are still great friends, he married that girlfriend of his about 3 years ago too. We go to lunch when I'm in Sydney, he's really great.

I can't think of anyone else important that I've met...

Anyway, I think that article gives meeting people online a bad rap.

It's just like in real life, you have to use your common sense. If you met some guy at a bar who was not forthcoming and wouldn't give you his home phone number, he's vague about his address and isn't always available, you can assume he's probably involved or married and sleazing around.

It's not different online. You just have to use your common sense.

posted November 09, 2004 07:46 PM         

I've had a weird past with meeting people from online. That breakup I just went through, with Mr. Taurus, we had met first online. He had run across my online journal through some posts I did on a message board that dealt with the hardcore music scene where he lived, and was very intrigued. We spent 2 years talking online as just friends. When we finally met, we both realized we had both been very true with who we were with each other online, and that's why sparks flew. Our personalities matched then. It just went downhill the more time we spent together as a relationship, pretty much like any relationship does when there's smoke and mirrors or wrong expectations. *sigh*

I've met a lot of my friends over the years online. I used to be really involved in the hardcore music scene, and I would talk to people on message boards who were in bands and then later meet them when their band came through. A few of these friendships have been long-lasting and really fun, some just ended due to distance or lack of internet on the other half, and some didn't work out at all. I have also met a lot of my local hardcore friends that way too, and it seems to have solidified a sort of community between a lot of us, if we don't see each other in person for awhile we do have the Net. Although there's been drawbacks to that too, lots of drama at times!

So I guess for me it goes both ways, it's been very bad yet also very good.

posted November 09, 2004 08:24 PM         

I agree that the article was pretty negative. I thought the same thing when I read it. I also thought it had some great points. It resonated alot to me and the one I went through.

I guess we can all agree that while people have had successful meetings and relationships formed online, you should still be careful and try to keep a clear picture of who the person is and what is going on. Same way you would in 'real life'. Yet I think it is alot easier to get caught in an illusion/fantasy with an online romance.

Chrissy,
Yes, it seems that some people would be more inclined - or find it easier to have online relationships. I have Mercury in the 3rd, so dont ask me why I don't have more of them. lol (BTW, The Onion - love it!) Nice to know youve formed some great relationships this way. I definitely think it's possible. I've met a lot of people that I truly over the computer. (pixie, for example ....LibraSparkle, Sheaa....and many other great friends. Nice connections are definitely formed through a computer screen...)

Tigerlily, Awesome story , thanks for sharing. I'm a sucker for a love story too.

Aquarian Girl, I agree.

posted November 09, 2004 08:39 PM         

Wow! What a story. Funny how you kind of ended up hooking him up. lol Life is strange.

posted November 10, 2004 09:02 AM         

I have to say though, it does seem as if the person who wrote it may have been burned... and perhaps by their *own* misconceptions or falsehoods...

Anyways, I just wanted to say that my mate (the Gemini who met her Aqua man online) is in the loving company of him once again, this time, he has gone to America to see her. He is meeting her family, and they are arranging things for her move in March. He's going over for Christmas, too (when I get to see them all luved up, woo hoo :P ) so I see such a good thing came of their meeting each other. I think it's because they weren't really expecting too much from each other, it just flowed perfectly for them, you know?

All I can say about the article, after seeing the beautiful thing that has happened to Ms. Gemini and her Uranian consort is:

''One does not, by knowing all the physical laws as we know them today, immediately obtain an understanding of anything much.''

-- Richard Phillips Feynman

Thanks again,

Love, light, and understanding

posted November 10, 2004 01:45 PM         

The missing link:
http://www.crystalinks.com/internetaddiction.html

posted November 10, 2004 02:19 PM         

I guess it is the suspicious part of me that will always think that the people behind the chats usually have something to hide... or not.

In any case, when I meet someone in person, I assess a lot of him, not only his physical appearance, but also the way he moves, the way he smells (very important factor for me), the way he talks, his stare, they way he presents himself (I'm attracted to confident people). On-line dating is not going to be useful to me that way...

But more power to all those that found real love, however it is found is of no consequence.

posted November 10, 2004 02:35 PM         

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