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Mama Mia
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posted December 06, 2004 10:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
I have a question for anyone that can answer?
I am so emotional I mean extremely emotinal and I have been trying to get a hold on it, but I am having the hardest time in the world. I am dating a Aquarius and well any body that know an Aqua knows they definetly do not operate off emotion. It is kinda of driving us apart and I do not know what to do. I have no patience I want what I want right then and there. If I do not get this together I know that I am going to loose him. I even thought about just letting him go so that we don't end up in a bad place. A couple of my girlfriends said they at one time went through this, but they learned how to just be quiet and not react to everything that does not seem right. They are also Pisces women. I over analyze everthing. I do not want to end this I am crazy about this guy but I am having a hard time with my emotions. Any one ever been throught his and corrected it to atleast a better agree. Open to any sugesstions...

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sana
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posted December 06, 2004 10:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sana     Edit/Delete Message
hi...
get a hold on urself...force urself if u donot want to lose him..friendship according to me is the key word...be cool...maybe its all easy for me to say being an air sign myself...
i m not sure even i know what is the right thing n i cannot sugest anything but that stay yourself...at the end of the day u gotta be happy...
cheer up...
love
sana

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Mama Mia
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posted December 06, 2004 12:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Thankyou Sana that is so tru I do have to be
happy not even just at the end of the day.
And I do need to be cool grab a hold of myself. I am working hard on it. Friendship is the key too...

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hereisgone
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posted December 06, 2004 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hereisgone     Edit/Delete Message
I'm like you. When I want something, I want it now. I've never had much patience. When I found out the guy I liked was a Taurus, it forced me to be patient. It was hard, but I decided if I wanted him, I had no choice. I gave it my personal best (3 months). I just took a step back and analyzed the whole situation, how it had affected me, did I like the change, and could I do anything to change the situation. Just do what is in your heart. I'm sure everything will work out for you.

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Mama Mia
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posted December 06, 2004 02:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Thankyu hereisgone that is good advice, I am going to change somethngs around...

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ghanima81
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posted December 06, 2004 05:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ghanima81     Edit/Delete Message
Mama Mia,

Don't think that you have to 'change' anything, luv. All it takes with an Aqua is being there first and foremost as their friend. Let them have freedom, let them float away into the breeze each day, knowing that they will return to you as you are their true friend . Love for most Aquas is not the kind of romantic fairy tale love a lot of people expect or are content with. They need mental stimulation first and foremost. They need to be able to talk, to explore, to wander, and to dance around in the mind of their lover. Physical contact is not even always nessecary. Once a deep rooted friendship is there, there can be intimacy, deep and pure. But they always have to feel as though things are not leading down a path that will cage them in any way. Just being inside their bodies feels confining, imagine being locked into a room or a building or an emotion filled box; this can suffocate Aqua men. I'm not sure exactly what you want NOW, what it is that you are hoping will come so soon, but if you want to fix it, if you want to be sure it will work out between you two, just tell him you are his friend. And mean it. And understand that when he is laughing, he may be crying inside, when he is looking forlorn, he may be happier than anything where it counts.... we Aqua's are a conundrum... If you can stick it out, you can have a truly beautiful and interesting adventure together.

Hope that helps a little.

Good luck.

Ghani

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Mama Mia
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posted December 06, 2004 05:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Thankyou ghanima81 that did help alot and I know this, it is just that I am impatient and emotional and he has patience and shows lil emotion I get confused sometimes. But I printed this out and everytime that I get uptight I will go back and read this... Thankyou

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hooked
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posted December 06, 2004 07:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hooked     Edit/Delete Message
Hmmm..

Tell an aquarius male to do something, and you've gotta know they're going to do the exact opposite. If you think you will ever change this about him, you should move on NOW. That's who he is, and unless you have many air placements in your chart it will be very difficult for you to be happy in the long run. Don't even THINK that you can or should keep your mouth shut to make this relationship work. You will be resentful and leave one day, and it won't even phase him.

Something you could do at this point would be to send or drop off an upbeat/cute card with a note. Something short and along the lines of "Geez, I'm really quite emotional right now! I'm gonna take a day or two to relax...Maybe we can go to (favorite place) this weekend. Take care..." It lets him know that you are aware of your behavior and its NOT ok to dump it freely on others. Also reminds him that you are a fun person who gets emotional and then gets over it! He is most likely with you because he finds you intriguing and hard to figure out with all your moods. However, make sure that the fun times outnumber the moody ones.

Let me know if I'm understanding you right. I've been with an aquarius sun, venus & mercury, saggie moon for over 2 years.

hooked
cancer rising
pisces sun
scorpio moon
venus & mercury in aquarius

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sthenri
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posted December 06, 2004 07:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
That's good advice about the card,

very good one. A card or a box of chocolates if he has some pisces influence. If his venus in capricorn maybe some ginseng. Suma helps keep you calm, it's also called Brazilian ginseng.

I am the queen of emotion right now! So I know what you mean. Time alone is good, as in meditating, or working on a project. for some reason giving, works for me, as in the card idea, or something creative.

Aquas, I have only known one very well, and he has Venus in Capricorn. a really nice card, handmade would be nice.
I know an Aqua with Venus in Pisces and he tends more to chocolate and wine, but he's harder to give to since he reacts more.

When I do not ask Why? When I feel emotional is when I feel bad. You can hide your emotion away, but if it's because you have a question, that starts with Why?
Then I would talk about it with him, he will be happy to be asked being an air sign.

Good Luck, for some reason Aqua Moons, Ascendants, or Aqua Mars have no problem being emotional!

Natasha

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Mama Mia
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posted December 07, 2004 10:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
OK, Hooked I do know that Aqua's do exactly the opposite of what you want them to do.
I definetly understand that and will work it to my advantage. I have discussed with him last night and other times about me being emotional and he acts like he really understands and we pick up from where we left off and keep going. I have tried on numerous occasitions to sperate he says I don't want to be cancelled out and I don't want to cancel you out. As far as me keeping my mouth closed I could never do that totally that is not who I am, but I can control my emotions to a degree, bought a book on how to manage your emotions I realize that I am not doing that my emotions are managing me and by being with him I am just now understnading it. I do have quite alot of air in my chart My moon merc and venus is in Aqua. Hooked we have a lot of the same energies as you and your guy. He is Aqua sun Sag moon and Aqua in merc. So you guys have been together for 2 yrs and you have a water sign moon wow. I have an air moon and feel tension sometimes.


Tasha he does have venus in cap and most of my emotion is not being patient wanting what I want right then and there. If I have a why question then I will ask. He is the type of guy that if he sense something is wrong or he see's that I am becoming to emotional its time to take it to the round table. Ghanima81 described his personality to a tee. Space and time is the best remedy for this and I can and will do it. Thanks ladies for all your good advice it does help and I appreciate.

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