posted December 07, 2004 09:21 PM         

After all, it came from the horses mouth, at least he was honest with you.

That feeling you have is a protective one, and now that he knows how you feel, give him time. But you move much more quickly than him, he's a Pisces and they are protective of their thoughts.

posted December 08, 2004 01:04 AM         

"it's difficult to keep a distance... both of us are holding on to each other, though i can tell he is trying to pull away a bit now. I dont know why he gives so much if there is no chemistry..."

I may be able to shed some light on this for you, as I'm right now, on the other end of the "no chemistry" deal. He is such a nice guy and my head tells me that I should feel something more for him but he doesn't make my heart flutter.

So for ages, I've been talking myself out of going any further with him (we've been on six dates) and now I might just be confused.

Why do I hang around? Well, it's because he has so many qualities that I admire, I'm hoping the chemistry kicks in. However, I have only known him a few months, not years like you. It has happened once before for me where I grew to love somebody whom I was not attracted to in the first instance.

I would also like to say, I'm a similar age to you. I think the lesson for me is that because I wasn't physically attracted to him I was quick to discount him. Boy, that sucks big time because I would hate for someone to discount me on looks alone. So maybe he's mirroring a shadow side of myself.

Anyhow, I really enjoy his company and always have fun and a lot of things to talk about.

I'm just hanging back to see where things go. Don't give up faith in your potential relationship.....you may just need to grow on him first.

with love

posted December 08, 2004 04:06 AM         

Be patient, love takes time, and if you really are soulmates nothing will keep you apart for long. If not you're better off, who wants to be stuck in something that doesn't feel right?

Be grateful for the friendship and the good times. But as far as chemistry goes, is there any affection between you? Sometimes small sparks take time to grow? (is there a small spark?) I seem to think that if the relationship is right, the chemistry follows.

My ex and I had the most incredible chemistry ever, but it went up in a cloud of smoke when we started not getting along.....

I'll be hoping for you, lord knows we all need love in our lives..

Does make me feel better about having no love interest now, the is he or isn't hes are killers! All the while you sit there feeling like judgement is being passed.

posted December 08, 2004 05:00 PM         

I'm an Aries too, we just hate to wait. The impatience is a blessing and a curse. All the analyzing - any libra in your chart?

For your happiness, it all boils down to finding your center, getting the love you need from within yourself and the others you know love you.....

Untill you know you've met your soulmate, putting any man as the emotional center of your life is a big mistake that leads to sleepless nights and heartbreak.

I think my constant need is why I haven't met mine. The true joining comes out of strength. If you're that miserable when he's not around look deep inside to see why you don't love yourself enough to be alone, happily. I used to feel incomplete without a man, why I so quickly got into relationships that weren't right for me.

That could be scaring him off too. Noone wants the responsibility of being someone's sole source of happiness.... Many guys run for the hills when they feel someone's leaning too hard, Pisces is a hard one to tie down anyways.

Just keep doing the things you love best, revel in the satisfaction that brings you, and when you least expect it, you'll look up from your work and there'll be Prince Charming!! (At least that's what this typical Arian keeps trying to tell herself!!!)

posted December 11, 2004 06:48 AM         

you are kind of in a no-win situation. I really feel for you.

The thing is, it sounds as if you are trying to control the situation, rather than go with the flow. Yes, that would be an Aries trait (btw, I am Aries moon, Libra Asc - hehehe all that analysing, hey delirious....?)

It is true that if you find self-love, you will attract the love of others. But that doesn't help you with the way that you are feeling now.

You know, today I resolved that perhaps I'm not supposed to have a SO in my life. It's because I don't think I've found the "one" (interesting post, 26Taurus) and I'm not prepared to compromise on anything less.

I just have to have the faith in the Universe that I am exactly where I am meant to be.

Maybe BB, there's a reason why your romantic relationship is being delayed.

You know, I thought I met the "one" but he was sleeping and didn't recognise me. then I read this book: "Hot Chocolate for the Lover's Soul - 101 True Stories of Soul Mates" by Arielle Ford. It gave me inspiration to carry on, knowing that love will find me, when the time is right. Things don't always work out the way we think they will. There are numerous stories in this book where friends, like yourself, don't get together romantically at first. One is simply not ready. Then, something happens and everything falls into place.

I wish you peace and courage in working through this seemingly hopeless and frustrating period of your life.

with love