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Topic: libra ex
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moonbaby
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted December 15, 2004 01:54 PM
 
i am having problems with my libra ex....to cut a long story short, we broke up after a 2 year long distance relationship. i wanted to keep in contact...he didnt. it hurt, but i backed off cos i got some good advice here that if i cant love him the way he wants then i should let him be. now hes sent me an email saying we should keep in touch sporadically. i sent an email regarding information that was important to him and he replied amicably. so i sent him xmas wishes and he flipped. he is basically really peed off, and I always knew there was this side to him....but in the whole 3 years of knowing him, it was never revealed its being 6 months since we split and i was really hoping that he would at least have got some bitterness towards me out especially as he asked me to stay sporadically in contact. i wasnt the easiest of girlfriend at the end but thats because i wasnt happy and i tried to let him know but he has this uncanny ability to pretend things arent happening. i am tired cos i keep seeing things from his point of view...and tired of the fact that he see things from HIS point of view i know i broke it off with him but i was in the relationship too.... i just want him to get to a stage where hes ok and i do not know how i should react to being contacted on his terms...because i am the dumpee.... so, i could really use some advice regarding libra exs please IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2664
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted December 15, 2004 09:42 PM
I wouldn't get caught up in his moods, I have a Libra ex too and he can flip sometimes, and go back to normal a week later. Don't take it personally that you are the "dumpee", he probably senses some anger from you. Libra men do see things from their own point of view, and the angrier he is the more he will talk down to you a bit. It makes him feel better.he wants to be your friend but he can't figure out how, and he doesn't feel that way everyday. Don't feel hurt if he can't commit, it's an air sign male trait, that commitment is a tough thing. I dont' know your sign, but remember Libra men are moody. If he continues to act like that, tell him to calm down, and offer him some supportive gesture, such as a bottle of wine, or a box of chocolate, an antidepressant, something. But don't feel like you are responsible for his bad moods. Better that he ended it, because ending it with a Libra man can even tougher. In the end, it had to end somehow, it doesn't really matter who started the end. Take Care,
Natasha
Taurus
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moonbaby
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted December 16, 2004 05:04 AM
thanks for the advice sthenri...much appreciatedi made a typo, hes the dumpee... does that make it worse...?
and its difficult cos hes over there and im here and all this business has been conducted via emails...he doesnt want any phone calls from me... IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2664
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted December 16, 2004 09:42 AM
He's just angry right now, but he will simmer down and call you up one day. Just keep your distance until he does, most likely he will want to be your friend again. But LIbras are perfectionists and you did not live up to his expectations, so that probably bugged you. You two would make better friends but he's getting used to the idea.My ex was the one I asked to leave, and he was bitter for a long time, but now we talk. He's a friend but if he starts to get moody, I leave. He knows that now. Remember Libra men, and most men, who are not assertive, never break up with a woman. They just needle her until she breaks up with him. So it's as much him as you, it wasn't meant to be and he knew it, but because of the lack of communication and because he doesn't have someone else yet, he's a little angry. When he finds someone else, he will be happy. Natasha
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moonbaby
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted December 16, 2004 10:13 AM
yea, he was never assertive and i knew things couldnt carry on the way they were going....it feels really good to have another perspective on the whole thing thanks again sthenri  IP: Logged |
vinita
Knowflake Posts: 89
From: mumbai,maharashtra,india
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted December 18, 2004 09:16 AM
i always seem to get attached with librans and believe me they are probably one of the most difficult male species....i totally symphatise...
well 1stly as u know...they have issues with deciding stuff...procrastination is their nemeisis...thus that time 2 decide that he actually wanted to keep in touch with u!
besides...to tell u the truth...their mind is a logic...analytic freak....for them everything has to be deduced to some equation....
so u+him=didnt work out!!
so
u-him=diff lives(only keep in touch when required)
basically before u can know him his equations have changed
so simple right now let him be on his trip the more u pursue him the more he'l ignore u...sad but true...they forget so much with insulting quickness...take it from me!!
besides...if he's been hurt before in love....that is the most other girls will not be given that chance again...
one more thing...
if he starts missing the physical part of yur relationship....he'll so totally call on u...and if u contact him then....it'll be wild~!!
so good luck
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moonbaby
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted December 18, 2004 02:06 PM
thanks for the nice words vinita ....yea, he has been hurt big time before so i know his defenses are way up high..but me so looking forward to being contacted for nookie....i will definitely reach out...hell, he dont need to ask me twice  IP: Logged |
puppyblew
Knowflake Posts: 237
From: usa
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted December 18, 2004 10:51 PM
vinita, boy do you ever know libra men.
i've been lurking on this post because i too, have a libra ex.i am trying to get back with him and his indecision is driving me nuts. i just want to be friends, but i'll call you at 3 in the morning because i wanted to. not because i like you per se, but because i wanted to. whatever... this has been going on for a week now, him not knowing what he wants. and boy, you should see how many differant things have come out of his mouth. one day it's i want to be friends to see... one day it's i want to be friends just because i want to make you happy but i don't think i can be with you.... then it's i'm not going to go out with anyone else, i'm thinking about you!... followed by always.. i'm not sure what i want right now. gaaa! it's enough to drive a taurus nuts!
but, i was and am his first and only love and my taurus patience is paying off. he has gone from i want to be alone for the rest of my life to lets hang out and see in less than 5 days. yes, persistance does pay off and i even saw his libra smile today. he almost hugged me too. yeah! let's hope he makes up his mind soon! yeah, moonbaby ~ there moods fluctuate so much... you are bound to get a "contact" someday. or else, just call him and act sad it ended. then after establishing contact for awhile, act indifferant and say you see him only as a "friend". it'll get him. they see things from every angle and it's easy to make them think they wanted to contact you from the very begining. he will want you back. in more ways than one....  IP: Logged |
sweetlibra
Knowflake Posts: 92
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Registered: Oct 2004
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posted December 19, 2004 04:38 AM
I dono why but i never liked Libra men 
I cant bear that much indecision (My indecision itself is driving me nuts..!)
May be coz i know how their mind works..!IP: Logged |
moonbaby
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: uk
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted December 19, 2004 09:57 AM
thanks puppyblew.....yep yep the notorious libra indecision, where i see the trick is to act the opposite of what YOU actually want.......its ker-razy cos its not even like its playing games, you are totally helping them figure out what THEY really want...which is usually what you dont want.... with my ex, there was a whole lot of vacillation before we hooked up and it was only cos i was like 'you know what, whatever'...i wanted him bad, so bad and he knew. then when i started to pull away, just to maintain my sanity, he pulled closer. i think its cos they love to be wanted more than anything...its the whole Paris-Aphrodite story. sweetlibra...im with you on that one...solely based on sun signs...nay to libra men for me cos i'm someone who would rather have heartbreak that i can start to get over than sheer indifference give me cappie or aquas any day  cancer/cap/sag IP: Logged | |
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