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Topic: For the highest good of each person
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BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 107
From: Pacific Northwest
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted December 16, 2004 06:34 PM
 
Not sure if this is the right place for this, but I'm posting this under soul unions because I believe every relationship is a soul union, regardless of the type of relationship...Here goes...this is kind of a deep question, but have to ask it anyways... At what point do you step back and let things just happen? I guess what I'm trying to ask, is: At what point do you stop considering all the possibilities within each relationship and its unique planetary aspects? I realize that these aspects only suggest the dynamics within a given relationship and the rest is up to the individuals involved. There are two such relationships I know of, one is between a friend of mine and I and the other is between my father and sister. Has anyone ever had a relationship where you have tried just about every angle to make it work and when you feel yourself wanting to let go of it (but don't want to necessarily lose the friendship/relationship)...do you find things to be considerably different (not necessarily in a bad OR good, just different) between the two of you? Any and all feedback and experiences appreciated. This is something running through my busy brain right now. IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2636
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted December 16, 2004 08:56 PM
No, I feel I must always make an effort of will to understand those people even if it means tuning into their problems, to not talk about them.So I can leave them alone, but I still have to know their state of mind. Otherwise I forget and look totally insensitive. My attitude is so placid, people think I have no problems, which isn't true. So I have to act interested at some point. Now I can be controlling if that's what you mean, but I am never too much.
If you think you are taking too much control, maybe you are overwhelmed, and need a break. There's nothing wrong with that, you may feel the love will end on their end, and it may not always be there. But the friendship/rememberance is always there.
I am closer to some who I send one card a year to, than a few others I know everyday. Natasha
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LeoSweetHeart
Knowflake Posts: 103
From: San Diego, CA USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted December 17, 2004 04:02 AM
Blue Topaz..sorry I'm a tad confused, are you asking if when someone starts to give up on a friendship, feeling its prob not going to work, if that materializes and makes the friends even more distant? If so, I've had that a few times. Like when you tell yourself negative things about the person and then all of a sudden you realized you subconsiously were already treating them like you wanted the friendship to be over?IP: Logged |
LeoSweetHeart
Knowflake Posts: 103
From: San Diego, CA USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted December 17, 2004 04:20 AM
oh nevermind, I was way off sorry, must of been mixing up my own problems haha. Yea that has def happened to me. Sometimes you click and sometimes you just don't and I find when I give the non-clickers more time to grow on me, they never really do. I'll of course care for someone more the longer I know them, but as far as relating that a hard thing to force. I hope that was a better response, sorry I'm tired..going to nighty night now.  Monica IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 191
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted December 17, 2004 10:48 AM
Blue I understand have been there, but I think that if I have done all that I can and things are not really getting better and I am feeling bad about it, it is time to turn it over to a higher being,time to just kind of sit back and see what will happen.
Soon as you do that, it has a way of working out for the best. IP: Logged | |
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