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posted December 20, 2004 07:30 PM         

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I am a slow, steady bull desperately in love with a fiery sagitarius - and I feel so confused! ANy help?

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posted December 20, 2004 08:08 PM         

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Ah, sagittarius. I have been there, lol.

My advice, be as easygoing about the relationship as he is, never show your jealousy to him, realize he date's... a lot don't be too available to him, remain a little mysterious, keep him guessing about what you're doing, and most importantly be athletic. Sagittarius loves to play sports and be athletic and will appreciate that in you. Good luck.

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posted December 20, 2004 10:10 PM         

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Ouch, we like Bulls(I'm a Sag)

He'll come to you, just smile and act as if you don't care. Saggies love the challenge!

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posted December 21, 2004 08:50 AM         

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Thanks guys ... I do hope to keep the mystery up ... but the suspense sometimes kills me. I am used to knowing where I am going and exactly where I stand and with him, I am never sure. How do I know if he really loves me and if I am the one for him?

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posted December 21, 2004 09:35 AM         

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Maya-v, it's very hard to give the most appropriate relationship advice. No matter what we say, you are the one FEELING and LIVING those experiences. Just stay confident that whatever happens, will happen for a reason and you cannot force love. You can give it. ONLY.
Good luck to you.

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posted December 21, 2004 09:38 AM         

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If he travels, good luck. You will have to travel with him, because he's not a homebody, even if he expects you to be one. Decide if you trust him, if you don't then resentments and guilt will sneak into the relationship and he will cheat just to spite you. Being jealous myself as a Bull, I have driven more than one man to cheat by my suspicions.

Bulls do not make great homebodies, this Sag sounds like he's got a wandering eye too right? Don't try and make him jealous, don't get caught up in games, just find what you need elsewhere. What you REALLY need, is someone to hold you at night. If you can truly be there for him in the future as a friend, great, but you are not his doormat, he may never appreciate your qualities, and you want him for the challenge.

Ask yourself what you get out of this relationship, are you waiting for the good stuff to start? Don't long for someone who's there, find someone who can fulfill you, resolve your longings finally.

Natasha

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posted December 21, 2004 09:41 AM         

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Thanks Yin ... what a truly Sag reply! I just love it when you guys dole out those pearls of wisdom ... they make so much sense and yet leave me cold sometimes! But, like my boyfriend, you're absolutely right. I need to let him go, and the most I can do is hope he will miss my warmth and sensuality and return to me ...
Thanks again.

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posted December 21, 2004 09:48 AM         

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You're right Natasha ... maybe its the thrill that keeps me waiting for him . But, I think more than that, its the honesty in him that makes me trust him so much. He admits to flirting sometimes, but I understand that is just the performer in him constantly looking for a new audience. He is a hypnotist and magician by profession and he takes seduction classes, so that explains a lot abt his need for applause. So when the jester in him comes out, I just sit back and enjoy the performance, because I realise thats what it all is really.

I have discovered this whole new aspect to me since I met him. I feel more powerful, as a woman and as a mother, I feel so independent and so alive around him. He has encouraged me to find happiness in myself and it worked, I do not depend on him to be the source of my happiness, just a great partner in this journey of self exploration.

He has been through a lot in life, which makes him so wise at such a young age, yet he is playful with a wicked sense of humor. I learn so much from him every day and at the end of the day, I accept all his caprice. After all, isnt that what relationships are all about - meeting someone totally different and enriching your life through them?

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