posted December 21, 2004 03:16 PM         

I too am a Taurus with a water moon,
we all get blue, the things I do are take a drive through a beautiful town. Stop and talk to strangers, buy some hot cocoa, put on your favourite perfume.

Do you draw or paint? You have the potential for artistic talent. Eventually a man will be drawn to you, and your sultry smile.

posted December 21, 2004 09:16 PM         

I know the feeling, I see his Mars in Capricorn and that's a little painful for your sensitive moon. Mars in Cap likes to be left alone once in a while, it's not the most sensitive placement either. I like all that fire, his Leo ascendant gives him a big heart, there's the attraction. I always get along with that placement too.

But his Mars is the way he sees himself as a man, and as a man he wants to do things like travel, be alone, to make himself feel better. You on the other hand like to reach out, and talk. I would recommend having a friend to talk to with another Fire Mars, it's a good way to connect to the masculine side of yourself.

So it's no accident that I responded to your post, I have a Sag Mars in the 1st house! I have a few fiery friends who who coincidentally are dating Capricorn Mars, or Capricorn Suns. Fire Mars finds it's inspiration through others, and relationships, but Capricorn mars needs to ruminate, meditate.

another thing about his chart is his Scorpio singleton. He will have strong Scorpio habits, solitude is one of them, he must be intense sometimes, and keep secrets. He likes mystery and intrigue, and he may feel he needs to keep you guessing to keep the romance alive. Scorpio is very sensitive too. Maybe that's the attraction, because Taurus is very attracted to it's opposite, but their is a push/pull.

If you want to read more about singletons, I recommend this link. With only one water placement, he is not as in touch with his feelings as you are, and may need to go someplace to experience them safely. He may also drink a little when he is doing this. I have noticed water singletons will drink when alone, but not always, it just makes them feel more connected to everyone.

Remember water is the element that makes us feel we belong to everyone. Without it, we do not have as much belonging sense. I have a strong sense of belonging, or at least I think everyone should have one. But not everyone thinks that way, some of us don't want to belong anywhere, some people want to be unique.

Be unique in yourself, and you will keep him happy, he may end up owning his own business, and most likely he is headstrong and ambitious. Whatever happens you will always be friends, and remember each other.

some say Love is being remembered.

Here's the link http://www.astrologyclub.org/articles/singletons/jupiter/jupiter.htm

posted December 21, 2004 09:27 PM         

So I recommend to other Taurus women, if you haven't tried it yet, don't try and date Geminis, they will make you so jealous.

posted December 22, 2004 09:51 AM         

I remember Linda saying that nothing in this world is a coincidence. So definitely, you responded to the call I gave out for a friend. I do have a very strong, very mature friend who has a sun in Scorpio. Actually, he is too much in touch with his feelings. But he is always there for me and I am thankful, even though I feel I am taking advantage of him!

And you are right, my sag does go out every chance he gets to get drunk with his buddies, I hate it but I never stop him, he is far too independent. He has a whole ton of friends who are all weak people but he loves them and I love them because of him.

And he already owned and sold his business, at the age of 20 - hows that for independent? His parents had problems so he mostly raised himself. And he is just 22 but he has already had three steady relationships. So all the things you say abt him are true. And based on what I do know abt him and what you told me, I have decided to really let him go, give him time to explore himself and to take him back with open arms and quiet acceptance whenever and if he decides to find his way back to me. That might be foolhardy, but what other choice do I have?

BTW, check back on my posting titled MY ROAMING ARCHER, I couldnt have said it better than that

Thanks a lot

posted December 22, 2004 09:55 AM         

"You're right Natasha ... maybe its the thrill that keeps me waiting for him . But, I think more than that, its the honesty in him that makes me trust him so much. He admits to flirting sometimes, but I understand that is just the performer in him constantly looking for a new audience. He is a hypnotist and magician by profession and he takes seduction classes, so that explains a lot abt his need for applause. So when the jester in him comes out, I just sit back and enjoy the performance, because I realise thats what it all is really.
I have discovered this whole new aspect to me since I met him. I feel more powerful, as a woman and as a mother, I feel so independent and so alive around him. He has encouraged me to find happiness in myself and it worked, I do not depend on him to be the source of my happiness, just a great partner in this journey of self exploration.

He has been through a lot in life, which makes him so wise at such a young age, yet he is playful with a wicked sense of humor. I learn so much from him every day and at the end of the day, I accept all his caprice. After all, isnt that what relationships are all about - meeting someone totally different and enriching your life through them?"

posted December 22, 2004 03:31 PM         

Please read this article. I think it may help you out.

The One:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/001239.html

posted December 22, 2004 04:36 PM         

Keep those replies coming, I treasure each one. You guys helped me start the healing process and your love and support makes it easier to deal with this.

posted December 22, 2004 07:25 PM         

Right now you are too hurt to see, but meditate on what you really want, want from a man, not just out of him but in the entire world of men, every race, creed, color, what is the thing that you most like about them and dislike? what made you attached to this man in the first place and every other man you first met? It was in the first significant moment. Think about that moment and how much it meant to you and isolate the things you did or said that made it that way.

There could be someone around you who feels that way towards you but cant' say it, and they show it in small ways.

This is not like your situation, because your Sag doesn't sound as weak as my ex boyfriend, but I did push away a Gemini with my jealousy and insecurities. But he would call me from a hotel and there was a woman's voce behind him! Of course I tried to act resigned, but how long can that last? Eventually the emotional attachment wanes, and you feel guilty about hurting him by not loving him anymore. He will be okay without you for now, even become more self sufficient, grow up, have his adventures and one day he will be tired of it all.

Your Sag needs to go out and really finish up what he needs to do in the world, because the more he puts into that, the sooner he will feel complete as a man, and find meaning in his life. You can't help him, let it run it's course. Meanwhile remember that he has to learn in order to support your emotions someday and right now he doesn't know enough about life.

If you want to read the huge long thread about me and the Gemini, I will find it for you, but mainly I was very, very jealous all the time, and had good reason to be. But it didn't help to find out he was sleeping with someone else, because I was devastated to hear every little detail. That's punishing yourself, so before you get to that point, let him go in the classy Taurus way.

The only reason the Gemini broke it off with me is because his therapist made him (his therapist is a Taurus too btw) otherwise he would have kept stringing me along with the other one. And I would have put up with it, possibly putting my health at risk and allowing myself to be a fool. I was angry at the weakminded Gemini, but let go.

If you can't see him for a while, write him a letter or email him some nice words asking for forgiveness, even if he doesn't need that, it's for you. This way you can feel unburdened of your guilt, and you can both feel free of anger to do what you need to do.

In the meantime, take a b vitamin complex for sadness, it keeps you calm too. Try the Amino Acid Relaxer, combination of amino acids and B vitmains, you can get that at any health food store, because you will need it for a while. Your Moon needs the support right now.

posted December 23, 2004 09:02 AM         

And the good news is - he came back! Through the mist, he found his way home to me! I am so happy. Yes, after we said our goodbyes, he called me, with some silly excuse and we broke down and admitted how much we love each other(though he still wont use the word need).

Things are not perfect and we still need to work on a lot of issues - his secretive and detached nature and my over zealous possessive clinginess. But whats important is he felt strongly enough abt me to give it a shot!

See, the problem was he lives like a thousand miles away from me and my constant calling was sending his phone bill through the roof! But he is also to blame, partly anyway, because he made me so restless with his games!

You were right again Natasha, he did come back and this time, I will guard my emotions. Its amazing, but its almost like I have a pyshic connection with him, the moment I felt I cant take it no more, he called. Its happened before, over the miles, we are able to read each other's thoughts and emotions. And that bond is what gives me hope for tomorrow. Its stronger than both of us and it has brought us back before and I think it will keep us together.

Again, I want to thank all my friends and my new family who prayed for me and sent their love and support my way. Your love makes me so much stronger and makes me believe in myself.