posted December 29, 2004 06:27 PM         

Little gifts are nice too, and perfume.
What is her mercury sign and house?

posted December 29, 2004 06:39 PM         

I wholeheartedly agree about the security issue. Let her know you care about her when she gets into one of her worrying moments. Don't judge or criticize her about it at ALL though. She might react defensively (a Cancer thing) because she will feel hurt and retreat into her crab-like shell. Just secure her emotionally, let her know you are there for her and care, and romancing definately helps, not just at the full moon time, but whenever. Then she'll relax again.

posted January 01, 2005 12:48 PM         

But if this is something to do with negative past relationship experiences, then be patience, be kind, and be reassuring. Water signs retain things, and have very good and very vivid emotional memories. When it's the memory of bad things they are clinging to, those memories can stir up a lot of psyche pain and anxiety. A water sun may be the last person you'd want to keep track of your past financial transactions, but they can remember the agony of a failed relationship like it was yesterday. Especially Cancers, who are often said to have the memories of elephant - they never forget.

I have a Pisces moon that never forgets too, and I know how difficult these negative memories can be, and how much anxiety they can cause. The best thing I have found to cope with the bad memories is to acquire good, reassuring memories to ward those bad ones off. If you wish to help your Cancer with this, then you can help her by giving her positive experiences to remember.

posted January 01, 2005 08:51 PM         

Many Cancerians are telling me they are depressed today, it's really blah outside, and I am painting canvases in pinks, oranges, and yellows, for as many as I can.

posted January 02, 2005 03:01 AM         

22 year old male.

Sun is in 19 Degrees Pisces.
Ascendant is in 10 Degrees Aquarius
Moon is in 02 Degrees Libra.
Mercury is in 25 Degrees Aquarius.
Venus is in 05 Degrees Aquarius.
Mars is in 17 Degrees Libra.
Jupiter is in 10 Degrees Scorpio.
Saturn is in 21 Degrees Libra.
Uranus is in 04 Degrees Sagittarius.
Neptune is in 26 Degrees Sagittarius.
Pluto is in 26 Degrees Libra.
N. Node is in 20 Degrees Cancer.

Moon square Neptune
Venus square Jupiter
Saturn square Nodes
Pluto square Nodes
Mars square Nodes
Jupiter square Ascendant.

Venus conjunct Ascendant
Chiron conjunct Imum Coeli
Mars conjunct Saturn
Jupiter conjunct Midheaven
Saturn conjunct Pluto

Sun trine North Node
Sun trine Midheaven
Moon trine Venus
Mercury trine Saturn
Mercury trine Pluto
North Node trine Midheaven

Sun sextile Chiron
Moon sextile Uranus
Mercury sextile Neptune
Venus sextile Uranus
Uranus sextile Ascendant
Neptune sextile Pluto
Chiron sextile North Node

Sun semisquare Venus
Jupiter semisquare Neptune
Saturn semisquare Uranus

Sun quincunx Saturn
Mars quincunx Chiron

Moon sesquare Chiron
Uranus sesquare North Node

Houses:

Aquarius on the First
Mercury in the First

Pisces on the Second
Sun in the Second

Aries on the Third
No planets in the Third

Taurus on the Fourth
Chiron in the Fourth

Gemini on the Fifth
No planets in the Fifth

Cancer on the Sixth
N. Node in the Sixth

Leo on the Seventh
No planets in the Seventh

Virgo on the Eighth
Moon in the Eighth

Libra on the Ninth
Mars in the Ninth
Jupiter in the Ninth
Saturn in the Ninth
Pluto in the Ninth

Scorpio on the Tenth
Uranus in the Tenth

Sagittarius on the Eleventh
Neptune in the Eleventh

Capricorn on the Twelfth
Venus in the Twelfth

and date/time/place of birth, March 11th 1982 4:11 AM Singapore

Her:

18 year old female

posted January 02, 2005 11:27 AM         

I see a few things that make you very secure, your Venus/Moon/Ascendant aspects, are a magnet for a Cancer who likes to feel secure. But she can't be that way all the time, she can't depend on the way she feels with you to last. She has to build up her own self esteem through like minded friends, without being afraid of losing you.

Her Capricorn moon opposite her sun leaves her with a lack of self esteem in the femininity department, her relationship with her father may be off, and she has trouble seeing herself as very sexy. She may be looking for stability in you, and that is why it seems she worries all the time.

She tells you all her fears and worries, thinking you can fix them, which is good for your self esteem because you are used to that. But you can't fix everything, and you will eventually feel you both have different needs in terms of friends which may drive you apart.

Be sure to do things together, and do not let her talk you out of it. She will have to open up to new experiences, and she fights this. Having female friends is a big plus, but mainly she will feel better once she is more extroverted, and you will have to push her in that direction.

If you feel insecure when she is on her own, she will feel it, so encourage her.

BTW I can tell by your chart that you are very secure in your looks, I have seen these aspects before, and you are probably quite attractive. This adds to her insecurity because deep down she does have that innner security, and you will have to make an extra effort to show her your own fears and weaknesses, so she knows you are not perfect underneath.

posted January 05, 2005 01:47 AM         

She broke up with me, saying that I was too perfect and she wanted to find happiness on her own. I told her I couldn't handle just being friends, but that I'd be instantly back if she changed her mind.

posted January 05, 2005 06:41 AM         

Don't be sad because when she says you are perfect she means she is looking to feel complete and happy and she doesn't want to hurt you. That means she cares in an imperfect way. Maybe she needs to take care of you once in a while. Women can be maternal, and need to be needed once in a while, if things are too perfect, she is saying you don't NEED her.

Try this site http://consciousloving.com/forums/index.php?

posted January 23, 2005 10:36 PM         

So I was sitting at home, and then my Cancer's best friend (a French Aries hahaha) tells me that Cancer's been in my anthropology class (I wasn't aware) and she was sitting and watching me from the back. So I thought to myself (yay for Aquarius ascendants) and I realised that that was a ridiculous situation, and I IMed Cancer and told her to come sit next to me if she wanted to.

She asked if I was angry at her and told me she thought I never wanted to see her again, and I set her at ease on both counts. Then she sat next to me in the front row (which is unbelievable for a girl as shy as she is) next lecture, and now we'll carry on sitting next to each other and talking from time to time.

I still want her very badly, but for now I think my plan is just to be irresistible and see how it goes.