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Topic: Assessing Dating Compatibility
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Aphrodite
Knowflake Posts: 3869
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Registered: Feb 2002
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posted February 02, 2005 11:21 AM
 
Hi All  Has anyone here in their dating experience been able to sense what type of woman would be the right fit for the man they are on a date with? Has anyone been able to walk away peacefully knowing there are no hard wrong or right ways to relationships, and that some things just "are" as long as two people are comfortable with each other's needs and wants? Thanks  Aphrodite ------------------
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.
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GemStar
Knowflake Posts: 168
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted February 02, 2005 12:10 PM
Personally, I am not worried about what type of woman the man needs when I am on a date with him...he's asked me out and there I am!! He's liking something about me!!I feel that it is more important to KNOW what YOU need and want from a partner in this life. Who you are is who you are. The object is not to transform yourself into something you think he wants...that's when the trouble starts...illusions and delusions!  No one wants that!! We as women must be proud of who we are and what we have to offer a man. The essence of You is what makes a man fall in love...not the shell of someone trying to be whatever... Using astrology, I like to know in general how this man thinks or acts...this is helpful when communicating or trying to understand him. By all means, use the information...it is just EXTRA!! Bottom line...know what YOU WANT...specifically....in general, everyone wants the same things...it is the specifics for each individual that can increase the chance of longevity if these needs are met. (But, you have to know what they are first!!) Just my thoughts...  GemStar IP: Logged |
lioneye68
Knowflake Posts: 4215
From: Canada
Registered: Apr 2003
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posted February 02, 2005 01:56 PM
I think it breaks down quite simply -"this is a person who needs a mate who will put up with almost anything" - or - "this is a person who needs a mate who will have high expectations from him, so he can rise to meet them" Some people are looking to grow through relating, while others...simply aren't ready to grow, and resent any demands put on them to modify their behavior in any way. Even simpler than that, some people aren't emotionally mature enough to really have a "relationship", and others are. People of simular maturity levels should be together. (of course, the lower the level, the more likely it won't laster longer than a wham-bam"- and that's ok, as long as it's mutual.) IP: Logged |
26taurus
Moderator Posts: 5190
From: the stars
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted February 02, 2005 05:46 PM
I know what you mean Aphrodite. I've walked away from dates or relationships knowing what type of person they need. Even when they dont even realize who that is. I've done it often actually. Usually to the persons confusion. I'm just not going to waste my time with someone I know isnt right for me. I'd rather be alone. And for me it's usually easy enough to tell early on in the relationship. Some people just know if they are meant to be with a certain person or not. Other people just want to be with someone - anyone.IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2894
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted February 02, 2005 05:57 PM
Yes I agree with Gemstar because I can always be that man's friend, but in some cases I know that a man is looking for more than a friend and I am not attracted. In that case I can walk away, attraction has to do with so many factors that are not physical that I don't bother questioning myself. This has happened with a Cancer/Venus in Gemini, and I felt he would find someone.I have given up on the feeling sorry for the guy syndrome. If it's not working I don't think about that guy ever again, in a romantic light. Natasha
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26taurus
Moderator Posts: 5190
From: the stars
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted February 02, 2005 06:22 PM
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If it's not working I don't think about that guy ever again, in a romantic light.
I agree. It's amazing how when you "see the light" feelings can just go BOOM - gone! For me at least. IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2894
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted February 03, 2005 12:45 AM
Yes, it's the instinctive "Species" side of us. If the guy smells weird to me, I can't like him. I have forgiven myself for this, but that's me.Natasha
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Aphrodite
Knowflake Posts: 3869
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Registered: Feb 2002
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posted February 03, 2005 11:45 AM
Wow, thanks for the replies  IP: Logged |
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