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Topic: Calling Natasha or Ghani...
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 04, 2005 08:21 PM
 
I've talked to both of you about my relationship with Virgoboy... so I wondered if either of you might have some time to answer a question for me.Lately (for the last few months) I've been noticing this really irrepressible drive to be with this guy forever and to start RIGHT NOW. In the past I have jumped straight into relationships, but this is really different. From the beginning he's been holding our reins, making us take things slowly, waiting for everything to be right before we make any big decisions, but we both feel pretty strongly that when the time comes to make "that" big decision, we will be doing it together. With other guys I've dated, when I thought of spending the rest of my life with them (these were long term relationships, so of course the thought occurred to me) I could picture these fantastic weddings, beautiful children, happily ever after... With this guy, I don't give a crap about the wedding, the happily ever after (the children, I still want). I don't care about any of this "romantic" fantasy stuff with him, I just want him. Every day. We're not perfect, but perfect for each other. I've written some things before about our differences, and these are just parts of who we are... frustrating, yes, but I don't expect them to disappear, and I'm content with that. But, this drive... what's going on with me? Natasha, you've talked about progressions before, could this have something to do with it? Like I said, I've noticed it building up for a few months, but it's gotten really strong in the past few weeks. I've never felt such a need to be with anyone like this. I've felt intense longing, but this is a little bit different. Like I feel like my life is on hold until we start doing it together. This is such a strange feeling for me because with him it feels so real. I feel like I'm gonna go out of my mind if I have to wait toooo much longer for something to happen. I've never been obsessed with the idea of settling down, but my settling down/getting married instincts are kicking up a major fuss. What gives? I hate unloading all this stuff on you guys, but I've always found it far more helpful to make my "confessions" here than with my friends, who all know him. The boy is making me crazy... in a very good way. I'm in love with him, but the in love thing is nothing compared to the love thing I feel for him. In all my previous relationships I've always wondered if there was something out there that might be better for me, and I've been called "commitment-phobic" more times than I care to count. But with him, I'm not looking outside for anything. He doesn't meet every need I have and I still want to stay. It's really blowing my mind. I don't know what kind of spell he has over me and my tendency to stray (at least mentally) but whatever it is, it's got me in a deathgrip! I don't even feel like my old self anymore... the old me would never be so sure! Here's our info: me--12/16/76, tampa, FL, 7:34 am, him--9/10/76, lima, OH, 1:30 pm. I just want to know what's gotten into me. I am not understanding these impulses at all! Your input will be greatly appreciated. When/if ever you have the time!
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sweetlibra
Knowflake Posts: 226
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Registered: Oct 2004
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posted February 05, 2005 08:12 AM
God..! I totally relate with you future_uncertain 
*waiting eagerly for Natasha/Ghani's reply*IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 05, 2005 08:37 AM
It's nice to have your company while waiting!  IP: Logged |
ghanima81
Knowflake Posts: 1033
From: MAINE! :)
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted February 05, 2005 09:30 AM
Gonna pull some stuff from my files from when I worked on your charts a bit. I have all that stuff at my house (i'm not there right now), but I'll see what I can figure with what I have here.. more on the way tomorrow. Be right with ya, bubs!! Ghani IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 2931
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted February 05, 2005 11:50 AM
Future, I have a lot going on this weekend, but I will make some time possibly by Monday.Everyone wants a commitment sometimes, it's not that unusual, but I will look at your progressions and give you an idea. It's also normal not to want the fantasy stuff as that comes from society not from our own minds and experiences. Virgos are very good at commitment when it comes. Take Care,
Natasha
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 05, 2005 04:51 PM
Yes, Natasha... Virgos are good at commitment. (I think that's where I learned it!) Both of you, take your time... it seems that everyone is crazy busy these days! Whenever you get around to it is groovy with me... I don't want to bog down anyone's to do list.Take care, guys, and have a great rest-of-the-weekend! IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 05, 2005 10:57 PM
hi-jacking my own thread here to see if i've figured out the smilie thing... don't mind me!...nope-- not yet! IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 05, 2005 11:00 PM
trying again...  **yay** IP: Logged |
26taurus
Moderator Posts: 5545
From: the stars
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted February 05, 2005 11:01 PM
LOL!IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 10, 2005 12:48 PM
I feel so sad... like I want something I can never have. It's not even something I can necessarily identify, but I know it's something I need. Logically it looks like I have everything I should need. When I say what I want, I'm told that I'm already being given those things. I really hate this. The problem must be on my part because it's happened so many times before and the common denominator is always... me. I'm the one with the problem, but I don't know precisely what that problem is, therefore I can't fix it. I feel like I'm too old to carry on like this; it seems so childish to me. I tried to ignore it and focus on all the good things, but he sees it in my face and it saddens him, too. Other than this, I am a very healthy and normal person... a bit eccentric, sometimes, maybe, but pretty normal. I don't want to be swallowed up in this sadness, and I don't want him to be,either. I'm walking a fine line between bliss and misery, and to me the solution seems so simple, yet so far away. It's breaking our hearts. I'm in a fog.  IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 10, 2005 03:19 PM
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She gets the same kind of lump in her throat every time she remembers the morning he shyly brought her a bunch of violets when she was aching inside from something very personal and sad she didn't even know he was aware of...but he was. He handed her the violets so softly, without a single word. What other man she ever knew would have done that? (No one. Not in quite the same way.)
(from Linda Goodman's Love Signs, Virgo Man/Sagittarius Woman) ... then there was a quiet knock at the door... a small miracle... IP: Logged |
GemStar
Knowflake Posts: 203
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted February 10, 2005 08:35 PM
Hello future_uncertain...I noticed you are in the middle of a Pluto transit to your natal Sun. Hmmm....could be why you are changing!!??!!Read up on transiting Pluto conjunct natal Sun...maybe that will help you gain some insight! Good Luck!
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 10, 2005 09:38 PM
Thanks, GemStar... I'll check that out. I'll write back and let ya know what I found out!
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 10, 2005 09:57 PM
I'm still checking it out. I looked at my transits and it says I have 4 pluto conjunctions: sun 0', mars 5', neptune 9', and asc 4'. Is this bad? And are the orbs on mars and neptune too wide to consider? Thanks for bringing this up... I've never looked at my transits before-- kind of new at that.  IP: Logged |
GemStar
Knowflake Posts: 203
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted February 11, 2005 08:56 AM
Hey future....I am just learning about transits myself and have found them to be soooooo helpful!!The one I would look at most closely is your Pluto-Sun conjunction transit. The others are a bit out of orb I think. Because this is such a HUGE transit, really see if you can connect with the lessons that are affecting You at this time...I bet you will be floored! Google the transit as well...there is a ton of info on the web! Good Luck! IP: Logged |
Mystic Dreamz
Knowflake Posts: 71
From: New York, New York
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted February 11, 2005 10:46 AM
Men suckIP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 11, 2005 05:10 PM
Hi, GemStar! I did a lot of research last night, and since it was my first time with transits, I got way off track checking out my chart, friends' charts, familiy members', etc... but I did find a lot of things that rang true for me. I'm still researching, though. I'm so glad you mentioned this.Talk to ya later,
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 487
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted February 11, 2005 05:15 PM
awwwww... Mystic Dreamz-- I didn't say men suck, but relationships can certainly be confusing. (Don't let me fool you into thinking that I've never had the same sentiments, though, myself...!) Are you having man problems? You sound a bit disgusted with the male population! Hope everything's alright.
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