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pidaua
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From: Sierra Vista, Arizona
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posted March 10, 2005 12:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
This may sound very odd...even weird...but I think it belongs in this forum more than the others.

My fiance had a girlfriend that he got pregnant when he was 16 years old. His Daughter was born 3/12/91...in September 1998 she was hurt in an ice skating accident and fell into a coma. She died two weeks later.


Before I met Mr. Taurus, and I mean, the night before we were to go out. I had this dream about losing my ID and I was wondering around a hotel..long story short, I needed to earn money to buy a new one.

A young girl..maybe 7 or 8 years old came to me with a horse. She was beautiful, golden hair, tan skin and very sweet. She told me that she had a horse that I could ride and that I would win.

I did win that race and walked the horse to a stable, where my grandmother (who had passed away in 2001) had given me advice about someone taking care of me, coming into my life.

AS it turned out, Mr Taurus had lost his ID that very night and was looking around his friends hotel for it. He got really quiet when I talked about the young girl, and when he was ready he told me about his daughter. She loved horses and from what I gather, was an avid rider.

Last September, before her the anniversary of her death, she came to my dreams again. She wanted her father to be happy and not to worry about her. We walked around THIS house..and she pointed to the roses..touched them and held them. I took it to mean she loved flowers.

Last week I had this urge...crazy urge to plant..I needed and I mean..it was a passionate NEED to prune the rose bushes and plant pansies. I also planted two very beautiful and aromatic jasmine bushes. For some reason she reminds me of jasmine ( I love that scent as well).

Mr. T has been sad..I can feel it and he confirmed it. This time of year is hard because her birthday is coming up. For some reason I am feeling more of a need to replant my garden..the plants started to wilt because the dirt didn't have enough nutrients. Again..it was this urge...like she is watching- wanting to see the blooms. I replanted a jasmine bush from the backyard to another planter out front..now there are two.

What I don't understand...and maybe someone can help..is why she feels at ease to contact me? Sometimes I share this with Mr. T, sometimes I am afraid because I don't want to him to feel I am intruding on his memories..because I never met her, but I feel like I know her.

Has anyone else had this occur?

I am going to post this on Astral Realms too...I think Ra can give me a bit of insight..but has anyone else had this kind of experience?

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sunshine9
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From: NC, USA
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posted March 10, 2005 12:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sunshine9     Edit/Delete Message
OMG, Pidaua.. that sounds very moving..! So you actually saw her the first time (ie. not in a dream?) Had you seen any photos of her? Your experience sounds amazing! It also sounds like she's contacting you to show her acceptance of you in his life; she's very comfortable with you, and wants her father to move on with you & be happy (as she said). Perhaps some part of him had been worried (or was it you?), that this move might seem disloyal to her memory, and she's trying to reassure you both by coming to you and welcoming you in his life.

Does he believe in this sort of thing? If he doesn't yet, that might also explain her contacting you, so that you can convey it to him when he's ready. In her sweet way, she's also drawing you both even closer, by virtue of your having shared this experience. I think you really should share all of this with him, when he's ready.

Best,
Sunshine

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pidaua
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From: Sierra Vista, Arizona
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posted March 10, 2005 01:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Sunshine,

No, I still haven't seen a picture of her. He still hasn't unpacked all of his belongings from being stationed in Korea. He is in the Army. We met a year ago and it was like two souls meeting again for the first time in a long time.

He was going to show me her pics, but then was sent to MO for 3 months for training. He will be back on the 22nd of this month. I moved in with him Sept 1st. Even though we are states apart right now..I can feel his pain..his sadness.

He wants to be home so much and he only has two weeks left. I know this is hard for him, because he likes being home and he loves being with me- so not only does he miss me and is homesick, but with the anniversary of her b-day things are hard on him.

He is pretty open minded to many things- being a Taoist he has come to terms with the pain in his life. I do think though, that this would bother him on a certain level. I am more in his head that he is in mine and sometimes he feels a bit out of sorts about it.

Being a Taurus, I don't think he wants to let go of that memory (which I don't think he has to) but by me telling him she wants him to be happy, he may feel like I am pushing him to let go...

Losing someone we love is so hard and I have never lost a full grown child (I did have a miscarriage when I was young because of a foolish ex boyfriend getting drunk and getting us into a car accident) but I have never had to experience memories with a child and then losing them.

Our friends have a daughter close to his daughters age before she passed on. Last time we were together in MO, another lady made a comment about him spending a lot of time and attention on her..making it sound sort of icky. I knew it was because 1) he is very good with kids and 2) she reminded him of his own. When I told him what the lady had said he got angry, thinking "I" was worried..LOL..it wasn't me..I was just passing it on...

Anyway, I know that I would be destroyed if I lost my little nephews, so I can only imagine his pain and torture.

But, I just wish I knew how to help him heal his hurt.

Thank you for responding..it means alot.

By the way, welcome to the board..I think in Astrology you said you were new!!

I look forward to reading more from you


~Pidaua

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pixelpixie
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posted March 10, 2005 01:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Hi pid, I posted over in astral realms....

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running_bull
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posted March 10, 2005 03:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for running_bull     Edit/Delete Message
that is a wonderful occurrence Pidaua. I don't know why it happens, but I remember hearing once that spirits sometimes need a helper. Maybe she is watching over her father and you through (true) love and caring for him help manifest whatever she has given.

does that make sense?

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geminstone
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posted March 10, 2005 07:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for geminstone     Edit/Delete Message
Wow pidaua... I agree, whole heartedly, with running_bull. As I read your post, it is what was felt. I believe, as well, that those that are left to live, also need helpers. Many times, moreso.... felt to me that you are there as the helper to both....A Blessing, indeed...


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pidaua
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From: Sierra Vista, Arizona
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posted March 10, 2005 01:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you all..Pixie I replied to you in Astral Realms..thank you again..


Yes, I do think she needs a helper, as he does as well. He has never had anyone to share this with..never lived with another or been engaged, had someone close to him that he was in love with while he mourned for her.

I see it as a two part deal, like what GemStar and Running_Bull said. His daughter wants to reach out, to let him know that she is okay..to stop worrying, to stop mourning, but not to forget.


The big thing about this whole ordeal is his own guilt. He was in Germany, just recently stationed there, when she got hurt. Being in the Army, they would NOT let him leave- he couldn't even say goodbye. I think that is what tortures him the most, that he feels he let her down. But I don't see her holding that against him at all..that is his demon.

He needs to accept the pain, to move on, because in reality I don't think he has. I think he wants to believe he is passed it, but when he mourns for two weeks in March and two weeks in September, that tells me there is more that he is holding on to than he will admit.

He and I have both had terrible pain in our pasts. In October, there is a week where I am off kilter...this last October was a doozie..but like he told me "You have to get passed this, what is done is done and you are with me now and no one is going to hurt you". So I picked myself up (metaphorically) and decided it was time to free myself from that painful memory..we'll see how the next October is, but I think it will be a lot less stressful.


Yes..I do think we have this connection..and we are both each other's helpers. March 12th is her birthday..so we'll see how things progress.

For myself..I am going to keep working on that garden. LOL....my Lemon Balm plants burned up..

For the record..when a plant says 'Sun or Partial Shade" make sure it has more shade that sun..or it will wilt up. My Zuccinni looked like little green noodles LOL

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