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Topic: Seriously Been Hurt?
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Obsessive Princess
Knowflake Posts: 2
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Registered: Feb 2005
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posted March 19, 2005 03:07 AM
 
Just so everyone knows,yes,this is my first post here but I've been a lurker for awhile.
I've seriously been hurt recently by my SO. Not physically. I mean by finding out that he was cheating and lying,so forth. It's the first time I've been hurt this way and my SO was my first everything. First kiss,first "I love you..."
I'm so extremely ....unhappy.
And disappointed. How come no one told me love was this disappointing?
Anyway,I guess my point in posting was to ask anyone if they've any suggestions as to how to get over it? What should I do?
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14stars
Knowflake Posts: 44
From: between the line
Registered: Jan 2005
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posted March 19, 2005 05:21 AM
don't worry, we all had taste it before.
let say ,loving feeling is one thing that is so special ,because ......it is actully to give ,without expect anything back.to take love from love one is not a real love.
I am sorry that you are sad now .but no one can learn about love until they are hurt.
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GemStar
Knowflake Posts: 368
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted March 19, 2005 12:33 PM
 We all have been there with love...painful yes at times but life is all the more beautiful because of Love. I am sorry you are hurting...I have found that it never hurts as much as the 'first' loss...and you gain strength and wisdom along the way...just trust and believe all things/experiences in life have it's purpose...and take care of yourself in the meantime. It WILL get better for you! And you are building better YOU along the way... IP: Logged |
Obsessive Princess
Knowflake Posts: 2
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Registered: Feb 2005
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posted March 20, 2005 08:37 PM
Thanks.
~You will gain strength and wisdom along the way~ That really does help.  IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 3124
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted March 23, 2005 10:52 PM
There is a great site, and book called Concious loving consciousloving.com/
if you check out the message board there is an entire section on getting over just that.I can only say forgiveness is essential, but not right away, it takes a long time and involves a lot of steps, first one is forgiving yourself for feeling guilty, it's not your fault, then asking for his reasoning-what was wrong with the relationship? Then when you figure that out, if he's willing to tell you, eventually, forgive him. But it could take a long time to get that kind of mature answer from him, in the meantime, it's not your fault. You could be Jennifer Lopez and there could still be trouble in Paradise-it wasn't meant to hurt you, it was a self destructive act. Take Care
Natasha
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