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Topic: cappy or scorp ?? SOS SOS
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everlost
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: australia
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 02:39 AM
 
ok so i need a helping hand..im a scorpio girl torn btween 2 lovers..dont think less of me :] there are reasons why im in this position,would take forever to explain!!but i am having a rediculous time making a decision..i would say that could be my libra influence.anyhow..im in love with a scorpio male who i have been with for a few years.and a capricorn male i have known for a few months. when i make my decision,im gonna lose one.
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so heres the low down,.me n mr scorpio> he loves me dearly,would never cheat on me,doesnt even look at other girls,he is gentle and kind and would do almost anything for me ,he wants to marry me and start a family and..hes gorgeous!! BUT he is wayy to jealous,doesnt like me hanging out anywhere near other males,doesnt like me going out,doesnt like the clothes i wear,has a big problem with most things about me ie career,friends etc.he also doesnt talk much..we have different views and ideas on life,he is soooo quiet and anti social while i can be intro and extroverted!now me n mr cappy havent known each other all that long..there are definite fireworks..he is almost what i consider perfect for me,and he says the same,we have similar views on life, he smiles and laughs and we can talk and go out,we have fun together,thou he is younger,comes from another country..miles away thou says wants to live with me.he has also been a bit of a womaniser but says that will change if we live together,and i know how much hes into me as he tellls me all the time and i KNOW he never lies..hates it..even if the truth hurts,he tells me how it is.and...hes gorgeous!!..but i have no idea where the relationship would go..there are no guarentees here,where asi know mr scorpio would love me forever!!!! below ive put some of our charts now im not really trying to decide between two guys..but more like 2 different ways of life..
please help if you can,,,im sick with trying to make this desicion..pretty please with a cherry on top
xoxoxo
MR SCORP>>>SunScorpio26°53'2307direct MoonVirgo23°14'5504direct MercuryScorpio10°33'3506stationary (D) VenusCapricorn13°52'0408direct MarsAries25°36'1111retrograde JupiterAquarius06°24'2709direct SaturnCancer03°45'5602retrograde UranusLibra25°27'5005direct NeptuneSagittarius06°46'4807direct PlutoLibra06°06'3104direct True NodeSagittarius29°04'0808retrograde
MR CAPPY>>>SunCapricorn23°30'3601direct
Moon Leo04°19'0407direct MercuryCapricorn07°49'1801direct VenusSagittarius06°43'1411direct MarsCapricorn24°59'4101direct JupiterLeo05°24'3207retrograde SaturnVirgo13°33'3308retrograde UranusScorpio20°14'2109/10direct Uranus is technically near the end of house 9 and is interpreted in house 10. NeptuneSagittarius19°17'1412direct PlutoLibra19°12'2808direct True NodeVirgo18°47'4508retrograde
MINE>>>SunScorpio10°33'0912direct MoonLibra05°31'1711direct MercurySagittarius03°35'2712direct VenusLibra03°35'1411direct MarsLibra21°24'2511direct JupiterCapricorn05°17'1201direct SaturnGemini19°43'3907retrograde UranusLibra20°04'0311direct NeptuneSagittarius04°05'2212direct PlutoLibra03°18'2111direct True NodeCapricorn19°39'3902retrograde
House positions (Placidus) AscendantSagittarius16°16'58 2nd HouseCapricorn08°19'29 3rd HouseCapricorn29°30'26 Imum CoeliAquarius23°48'01 5th HousePisces25°14'20 6th HouseTaurus05°29'56 DescendantGemini16°16'58 8th HouseCancer08°19'29 9th HouseCancer29°30'26 Medium CoeliLeo23°48'01 11th HouseVirgo25°14'20 12th HouseScorpio05°29'56 Major aspects Sun Sextile Jupiter 5°16 Moon Sextile Mercury 1°56 Moon Conjunction Venus 1°56 Moon Square Jupiter 0°14 Moon Sextile Neptune 1°26 Moon Conjunction Pluto 2°13 Mercury Sextile Venus 0°00 Mercury Conjunction Neptune 0°30 Mercury Sextile Pluto 0°17 Venus Square Jupiter 1°42 Venus Sextile Neptune 0°30 Venus Conjunction Pluto 0°17 Mars Trine Saturn 1°41 Mars Conjunction Uranus 1°20 Mars Sextile Ascendant 5°07 Jupiter Square Pluto 1°59 Saturn Trine Uranus 0°20 Saturn Opposition Ascendant 3°27 Uranus Sextile Ascendant 3°47 IP: Logged |
raaz999
Knowflake Posts: 52
From: united kingdon
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 06:51 AM
WELCOME!!!IP: Logged |
raaz999
Knowflake Posts: 52
From: united kingdon
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 06:51 AM
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raaz999
Knowflake Posts: 52
From: united kingdon
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 07:06 AM
Hope you enjoy your stay here. I can almost know how you must feel. I am a typical Libra moon as well!! Lib moons can sway a lot and i mean it a lot.You might have moon in 11th house as well. If that is the case than you could be quite emotional and easily persuable as well. There might be strong tendency for acceptance and even reliance on friends and associates. I dont know much about charts, but I would definitely say that making transition from one relatonship to another is not easy. It can be very emotionally taxing. If you really intend to change partners, first determine what you really want from a relationship. determine your own expectations first. Then see if your needs are being fulfilled. If not then ask yourself why?? See if there are ways to fulfill those needs through self reliance rather than external means. Everything is rosy during the beginning of any relationship esp romantic ones. But...be careful.
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everlost
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: australia
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 07:38 AM
thanx raaz999..for the welcome and advice!!
hehe i dont know how i get in these situations,,im usually so level headed and focused in all other areas of my life.
but in this case...im torn!!!
just dont know what to do,im letting fate drag me along,not really other people,but i know i need to make a desicion..arghgrhrg
wish some higher being would just point me in the right direction : ) IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 3178
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted March 27, 2005 08:00 PM
Well, there are some steps, first of all how easy would it be for you to live with Mr. Cap versus Mr. Scorpio? Do you WANT to live with either, or would you prefer to live alone?And if you want to live with someone do you want to marry either one, or just live with him? After you know that, think about what each would want. Does Mr. Cap want to live with you, long term, and get married or not? What about Mr. Scorpio? How do you think they will like living with you? Whose energy level is closes to yours? Then decide if you want to live with someone, and talk to him, about how he feels. If the conversation doesn't go well, then choose the other. Or if you don't want to live with anyone, date both. There is no rush to live with someone unless that's what you were looking for in 1st place. I am VERY indecisive too, and the best method is to remember what you were looking for before either man-what kind of situation, chances are you still want the same thing, Good Luck,
Natasha
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everlost
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: australia
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 09:23 PM
hmmm well i would be quite happy to live by myself for now anyhow,but mr scorp is giving me an ultimatum...get married ,live together or lose him for ever,he has wanted this for well over a year,i know im not ready to be with him,but terrified of losing him forever.
mr cap would have to live with me for awhile..as i said,he lives a long way away so would have to stay with me for a while,would be nice and comeforting to live with mr scorp but i may go out of my mind as he just is sooooo quiet,while i know me and mr cappy could talk and laugh and have fun..though he might party a bit much for my liking.
anyhow feel bad putting my sh#t on other people...thanx for listening,,you guys are sooo sweet!!!think what ever i do ..im going to regret it..if i lose mr scorp,i could be sad forever, guess really my decision is really..do i want to marry my scorpio man and live a quiet life,he wants an answer now..im not ready,i know this its obvious,but if i dont do it now,,hes gone forever..and if i do marry him now..im not sure i will handle being tied down to a quiet life.
oooohohhho the agonies of the human heart LOL!!!
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Sweet Blue Moon
Knowflake Posts: 143
From: New York City
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 10:04 PM
I think you should take some more time to think about it. I'd say months.
If they don't like it...to bad it's your life and you want to be able to take your time and try to do what is best for you.
Don't commit to either yet. Make sure you take it slow. I don't think anyone wants there feelings hurt. IP: Logged |
everlost
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: australia
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 11:12 PM
very true sweet blue moon,thou if someone could have a look at our charts in the opening post>>>would appreciate it greatly!!!
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Sweet Blue Moon
Knowflake Posts: 143
From: New York City
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 27, 2005 11:15 PM
I'm sure someone would take a look at your charts. I'm not really that advanced yet.IP: Logged |
PrincessO27
Knowflake Posts: 70
From: Riegelsville, PA, USA
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted March 27, 2005 11:28 PM
Well the way I see it, I think it really only comes down to one thing- love. Which one do you actually have real feelings for and which one do you truly love. If you don't love either of them, then which one do you feel a closer connection with and which do you believe you have stronger feelings for as of right now?Nothing in life is guaranteed, so you just kind of have to take a risk..that's how loves goes right? And that's the only way you'll ever find out, just follow your heart  Good Luck!
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26taurus
Moderator Posts: 7091
From: the stars
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 27, 2005 11:42 PM
Welcome everlost.  IP: Logged |
everlost
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: australia
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 28, 2005 12:28 AM
thankyou all for being sooo welcoming : )
as for love...i love my scorpio male,and im in love with my capricorn..feel like they could both be soul mates,mr cap is more like the person i am now,mr scorpio is like how i was 10 years ago,i can be more myself with mr capricorn,and live how i want,hes just more of a risk cos we havent known each each other long.
i think i will definitely take my time making my decision,and if i lose my scorpio then..i will just have to live with it.its just i would hate to live the rest of my life in regret
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Azalaksh
Knowflake Posts: 269
From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted April 02, 2005 08:46 PM
Welcome, Everlost! 
Some notes:
"mr scorpio is like how i was 10 years ago."
"he is wayy to jealous,doesnt like me hanging out anywhere near other males"
"doesnt like the clothes i wear,has a big problem with most things about me ie career,friends etc"
"he also doesnt talk much..we have different views and ideas on life"
"he loves me dearly,would never cheat on me,doesnt even look at other girls"
"he is gentle and kind and would do almost anything for me"
"would be nice and comeforting to live with mr scorp but i may go out of my mind as he just is sooooo quiet"
"mr scorp is giving me an ultimatum...get married ,live together or lose him for ever"
"he wants an answer now..im not ready""i can be more myself with mr capricorn,and live how i want."
"we have similar views on life"
"he smiles and laughs and we can talk and go out,we have fun together"
"there are definite fireworks"
"he has also been a bit of a womaniser but says that will change if we live together" "but i have no idea where the (mr cappy) relationship would go..there are no guarentees here,whereas i know mr scorpio would love me forever." Everlost, I urge you not to succumb to the ultimatum from mr scorp. As quiet as he may be (and it sounds like this would really be a problem for you should you cave in and commit to him in the name of emotional security), I think he sounds like a controlling personality. I wonder if he thinks once you are married, he will be able to tell you what to wear and who to see? You said yourself that you are not ready and you are not sure you can handle being tied down. WHY is it that you MUST marry him RIGHT NOW, according to mr scorp? If it were me, I think I would be unnerved by such a demand, and react by pulling back. From what you listed above, I see more challenging qualities than positive in mr scorp. You didn't list a whole lot with mr cappy, but you don't know him well yet. I would do some more thinking about YOUR future and what YOU want before you commit to either of these guys.....it sounds to me like this is all about what THEY want! IP: Logged |
LovelyLibraLady
Knowflake Posts: 112
From: Gotham City
Registered: Jan 2005
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posted April 02, 2005 11:10 PM
I can see why you're torn, after glancing over your story, both your lovers sound very similar. You can't have both of them, we've all been there, just follow your heart. And sometimes, choosing turns out to be much easier than it seemed it would be. I'd say go with Mr. Cap, b/c I just plain don't like Scorps, but you say Mr. Cap is a womanizer while Scorp is more faithful...it's up to you, girl.IP: Logged |
everlost
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: australia
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted April 03, 2005 03:36 PM
hmmm Azalaksh and lovelylibra lady ,i think you are right,im thinking i will be making an ending between me and mr scorp, i guess i just hate hurting people, though i do love him and im scared i will later regret it, i also hate endings,but then who doesnt, i hate things being final.guess i just have to be strong. i am really listening to my inner voice now AND my logic, i really am falling in love with mr capricorn, we have talked more deeply now on the issues that have bothered me about him,and my fears were lessened dramatically!
Hes such a sweetheart,and not only does he bring sunshine into my life,but he makes me feel good about who i am.
anyway time will,
thanx so much for your thoughts guys xox IP: Logged |
everlost
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: australia
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted April 03, 2005 04:02 PM
Azalaksh forgot to say you are totally right about working out what i want.
In all other areas of my life im fine,i am happy..got my beautiful daughter,got my band, got my music,got my business{clothing label} got everything i want!!
i know i am truly lucky and blessed,just my love life that has me muddled : )
but i think i know what i need the most from a relationship and that is sunshine, laughter,and a true friend,ohhh and greattttt sex doesnt go astray hehe!!
im not gonna make any major decisions in a hurry,but will let mr scorpio know where he stands, and i am just gonna concentrate on enjoying my own company for a while. i am travelling to see mr cap. and spend a week with him,then i have several months to be by myself b4 he moves to the city i live in. i do think mr. cap is near perfect for me..and have told him so too,and he feels the same way!
thanx again for your advice xoxoxox
if you or anyone could have a look at our charts which are in my opening post and let me know astrologically how well im suited to the two beautiful men in my life,,it would sure make things easier
kisses n light again!!
xlx
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