posted March 31, 2005 04:29 PM         

Recently I have had someone come back into my life that I haven't seen or heard from in over 4 years. We were never lovers just friends but had a very deep and soulful friendship. We have spoke and he is of the belief that if you love something and set it free and it returns to you that it was meant to be...I also believe this. However we were not speakin in terms of ourselves but of our friends that look to us for relationship guidance.

I am of the belief that we have a connection that will withstand the tests of time but I wonder if anyone else has had a similar experience?

posted March 31, 2005 10:23 PM         

Of course now I have to do that with a Libra,
it seems these long spaces are necessary to really get in touch with forgiving.

posted April 01, 2005 01:27 AM         

It has taught me that sometimes it's good to just not know, give up, and let whatever is going to happen, happen. Not always, but to some relationships I've found this applies, because you or they do come back.

posted April 01, 2005 02:03 AM         

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posted April 01, 2005 07:23 AM         

I have had a lot of boomerang friendships and relationships.
Its all about going with the flow. At first I would try and fight it but now its like 'Ok, you gotta be for now and when you come back my arms will still be wide open'.

People seem to take for granted relationships that feel good immediately. It seemingly throws up far more questions than if the relationship was fraught with difficulties from the start.

I think it freaks some people out. Some like to be in relationships that take time to unfurl, pretty much like a daffodil does in the right environment.
I like that too.

But when it feels right and comfortable there and then, it doesnt need to be questioned.

posted April 02, 2005 04:08 PM         

Something along these lines has been plaguing my mind nowadays. I have Venus opp. Pluto in my chart, it is not easy, I have a lot of problems letting go I rather want the person I love to stay with me forever but it can't be that way, and then I get really hurt.

I need to learn how to give more credit to fate, and leave the doors open,

in my past no one has come back after going, so I guess I am afraid of that, although I shouldn't be,

I am afraid of past things , usually because my past has been very painful involving a lot of different people in different countries, I have changed a lot along the way and feel uneasy facing those people again, think of a high school reunion to the one millionth degree (!)

So when I think of letting people go, they become my past, that dreaded thing where I don't want to deal with it anymore, because those people have changed so much and I have changed so much ,

I want someone to stay with me and grow with me as a I change instead of going off their own way, letting me go off my own way, then meeting later to find out how much uneasy distance there is between us ,

But I need to let go of these irrational fears, and accept that I like the way I have changed, I just have to find new people to communicate the change with every so often,

its going to take a while! Im pretty darn bad at this!

posted April 03, 2005 12:16 AM         

SG-

I do understand what it is that you are going through. I too have let go of so many never to see or hear from them again. I have found that in my "nomadic" life I have gained so much on a personal level that I will never be able to "go home again". At first this saddened me but now I know that I needed to grow and if some of those I have met along the way have grown too and we reconnect then it was meant to be. Other times I feel that some of the people I have met were only placed in my path to show me what I never wanted to become.

Change can be viewed as good or bad but should always be seen as an oppertunity for growth.

Know that you are not alone. Letting go is not easy but often it is for the best...I know that you will find strengh from your experiences and will have learned something from each person that has touched your life or you have touched theirs.

posted April 03, 2005 08:21 PM         

Let the love come when it is ready...if it is meant to be, it will be.

Good luck and let us know what happens...I love a good love story.

posted April 03, 2005 11:38 PM         

your comment about a good love story makes me ask,

have you seen the movie The Notebook?

I dont know if you would like it, but I did i thought it was a good love story, i haven't read the book though

posted April 04, 2005 10:53 AM         

I come from a long line of women that have had the most intresting love stories happen to them. My grandparents have been married for 59 years, she is in a nursing home and he stays with her and holds her hand all day talking her through her life...I guess that is why I cried so much watching "The Notebook"

My mother remarried after being divorced for 8 years...she married her High School Sweetheart after not seeing him or hearing from him in over 27 years. They have now been married 10 years and are more in love than any two people I know.

My Aunt's husband died and she went to London with her sister-in-law for a vacation 10 months after his death....she met a wonderful man from Ohio there and when he came back to the States 2 months later they began dating...they have been married for 4 years now.

I could go on and on...these women are an inspiriation to me and remind me that love comes in it's own time and sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads and make a lot of mistakes and your heart has to break but you should never give up.

I have faith that one day, if we don't give into the loneliness, we too will have love walk through our doors.

posted April 04, 2005 10:46 PM         

My closest pal now, a Gem/Cancer cusper, and I went through a period over a about 18 months where we weren't that much in touch, but when we got back together, it was like we were suddenly a lot closer. I can't imagine my life without her now.

I had to let many friends go over the years for different reasons. It seems to happen a lot with my Pisces friends - they just seem like people who need to wander to find themselves sometimes. Sometimes they don't ever come back, sometimes they do, like a certain Pisces-Aqua who I've let go more than once and he keeps coming back into my life. Right now he's gone again, and while I'm Ok with that, I sense that somewhere down the line, he'll be back again.

posted April 05, 2005 08:17 PM         

Let's see, we first met on a Girl Scout trip when we were, what, 9 or 10 years old? Then we end up in the same school half a state away 5 years later. Then we went off and had (ex) husbands and kids and weren't in touch for about three years. Now we haven't been out of contact for more than a week in 7 years?!? (I see where I rank )

All kidding aside, love always happens when and where you least expect it, i.e. my very special Gemini. Even if my feelings are not returned by him (which I don't know for sure, of course, because I am the Cowardly Lion after all)my own knowledge of those things makes my life so much more full.

Much love to y'all!

posted April 07, 2005 08:37 PM         

My uncle parted with his college sweetheart because they were different religions. They both eventually married other people. 40+ years later, he was divorced and decided to look her up. She was a recent widow so they started seeing each other as friends. They've been married for 5 years now.

posted April 08, 2005 10:44 AM         

Thanks Pix for the kind words earlier! I think that you are wonderful too!

jfjinca-

What lovely stories...if you feel it is meant to be it problably is! I know of a couple from India that because of religious reasons had to leave there home land so they could be together...sad but true!

Good luck to you on this, I believe that love will find a way!

posted April 08, 2005 10:02 PM         

We talk once a week now and nothing is ever said about being together but I get the feeling that there is still something there. I will wait and see....love has no time schedule.

I feel the same for you...wait and see. It is like my mother always says...lay the ground work and wait for him to realize that you are the one that he wants to share every part of his life with. It will start with a great friendship and one day he will realize what you mean to him. And if that never happens you will always have a part of him that no one else will ever have...even if you are just great friends.

Hope that helps...