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cartoon123
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From: Bangalore, India
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posted April 07, 2005 12:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cartoon123     Edit/Delete Message
Help !!

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cartoon123
Knowflake

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From: Bangalore, India
Registered: Feb 2005

posted April 07, 2005 12:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cartoon123     Edit/Delete Message
Hiya,

I desperately need some guidance and help with this one..

A colleague of mine, with whom I have had a long history of a love-hate relationship, said something nasty abt my fiance. For the first time in my life, I gave it back to her really badly and she had to take back her words. This happened at the ned of December 2004.

We were staying together in Cardiff at the moment on a business trip. She didnt speak a word to me since the next morning and I heard her speak to her mom in the morning when she said stuff like it has gone to her head, she was screaming so badly, I will teach her a lesson etc....the cyber police will get back to her etc etc

I couldnt understand a word of what she said till it flashed me, that she was having some problem with an anonymous person who mailed her parents regarding something she did.She had confided in me abt the trauma it caused.

Now, it looked like she wants to take revenge by putting it all on me .

I dont trust my luck with all such kind of things.

She did seem very fanatical about getting back at me.

She had contacted the IT team of the company I work in to investigate etc. She just didnt want to let go. Ultimately nothing happenened..

I spoke to her and told her that I didnt want to lose her friendship for a silly thing.
She agreed and we both patched up. I was very happy and went for my vacation. We are on talking terms.

However, when I returned , though we smile and talk to each other, I overheard her talking to another girl that she plans to have the proceedings with the cyberpolice in the first week of Feb when I would be back in India.

We came back to India..and nothing happened. I got married on the 20th of Feb and now am in Birmingham on a project, unfortunately with her again

On the face of it..she was extra sweet and everything but she would speak ill of me to her parents and her boyfriend thinking that I dont understand her native language.. when I could understand every word of it..

She again spoke to them today...and I cant handle it anymore..

Any advice, on how to handle this psycho??

Her details are 20th April 1979
Bangalore, 12:30 pm

My details
18th September 1979
Udupi, 10:27 am
India

Thnaks a ton!
Aparna

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jfjinca
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From: L.A., CA, USA
Registered: Jan 2005

posted April 07, 2005 09:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jfjinca     Edit/Delete Message
I had a 'somewhat' similar experience. I am
disabled and met a guy on a disability list. About 6 months into the friendship, I realized this person was VERY angry about having a disability. He was demanding, verbally abusive, condescending, tried to tell me how to live my life. I finally e-mailed him that I didn't want him in my life. He left for 3 months then started calling again. He was as sweet as could be for a few months then started in on me again. I finally hung up on him. He e-mailed me a nasty letter, accusing me of horrible things and telling me that I "wasn't worth his time". He hasn't called me since. That was a year ago. BUT we were still on the disability list. This past Feb. he wrote something nasty about me to the list. My boyfriend, who is also on the list, wrote
what had 'really' happened and that what he wrote wasn't true. HE was the bad guy. I found out later that he left the list.

You don't want this person in your life. She's 'obviously' not your friend. As far as work goes, tell your side of the story. If they're fair, they'll listen.

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cartoon123
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From: Bangalore, India
Registered: Feb 2005

posted April 08, 2005 03:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cartoon123     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks a lot for your reply..

I really dont want her in my life now..its a lot of negative energy..I can do without it.

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cartoon123
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From: Bangalore, India
Registered: Feb 2005

posted April 08, 2005 11:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cartoon123     Edit/Delete Message
Could anybody please take a look at my chart and let me know if I will be a victim of any wrong doing from her????


Please ..Please ..pretty please.

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Ayumi
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From: Under your bed, next to that magazine
Registered: Jan 2005

posted April 24, 2005 09:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ayumi     Edit/Delete Message
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PinkPearls&Stars
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From: San Diego, Ca, USA
Registered: Apr 2004

posted April 27, 2005 11:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PinkPearls&Stars     Edit/Delete Message
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