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Topic: I'm severing ties with two bestfriends...
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Virgo-AriesArtist
Moderator Posts: 1221
From: USA
Registered: Nov 2001
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posted April 12, 2005 02:28 PM
 
I don't feel caring about my two bestfriends Tara and Tony is doing any good for me or them. They are consistently making negative choices and will not listen to anyone else or reachout and ask for help/support. I feel drained whenever I hear about one more thing either one of them has done becasue all it makes me do is want to cry. It is a hard decision to come to, and was not by any means easy...we've been friends for 6 years, but right now, I'm doing everything in my power to keep my life only filled with positive people and positive energy. It's all I can do to keep myself afloat, and darn it, I'm doing a pretty fine job at that. I'm sensing it is time to let them both go for good. There is nothing more I can say or do for them, they'll have to learn those lessons the hard way...IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 135
From: ne ohio
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted April 12, 2005 02:42 PM
been there, done that! It's not a happy choice but there does come a point where you have grown or otherrs have changed {or refuse to and it grieves you} and one must re-evaluate even friendships. Hope it works out for you. I understand.IP: Logged |
LeoSweetHeart
Knowflake Posts: 370
From: California, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted April 12, 2005 02:51 PM
I think if your positive energy is being drained by anyone, then you should get away. If you don't protect yourself, who else will. I think your doing the right thing, but I know its probably still very hard for you..I'm sorry you have to make this decision  IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 480
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted April 12, 2005 06:46 PM
I have done the same thing, attempted to let two people out of my life, one has gone and the other came back and said sorry, but like your friends, she is heavy going, and my new saying is "friends should be fun" so I understand where you are coming from , and well done girl xxIP: Logged |
PinkPearls&Stars
Knowflake Posts: 70
From: San Diego, Ca, USA
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted April 12, 2005 11:21 PM
I agree completly as well. I think, you should just step back and breathe a fresh breath of air, as if a big load has been lifted from you. You made a wonderful decision. I have had to do such things before as well. I had a lot of close friends that I would have so much fun partying with and what not, but after a while i just got tired of that sort of life and I had to seperate myself from pretty much all of them. it was hard and kind of lonely, but Im making more positive freinds now. When I hung out with them again for the first time in months, I was shocked to see that a lot of them had gotten into hard drugs and some even more negative habits then they had before. I was a little sad about it, but most of all I was greatful I got out when I could, because I definitly would have not liked to be dragged down with them. And if the relationships aren't being benificial to both people, perhaps if there's nothing else that can be done, they should just split and continue their path apart. I truly believe everyone will find their way eventually. Just start picturing yourself around people that are positive, happy, and supportive and you'll attract just that! IP: Logged |
GemStar
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted April 13, 2005 09:23 AM
You know...no one ever tells you when you are younger that you will have to let some friends go in life. I never knew that and when it came time for me to let go of people in my life who were not good for me per se, I grieved. What disappointment I felt!!Little did I know that this was the natural progression of Life. Letting go. It is a valuable lesson. Be at Peace with your decisions....Ihave never regretted letting a person go in my life who was not truly deserving of my Friendship. In very, very rare cases do I allow such a friend to be in my Life. And if so, I have to restrict my time when I feel too drained with such person(s). (Ex. A friend of 25 yrs.) One of my friends is soooooo far behind with her development....at the point of jealousy at times by her towards me...then I have to step back and be in my own space. In this case, I honor the time together and allow her leeway....eventually she gets it.... In the meantime, no worries about letting these people leave your Life...usually it is for the best. And new friends will find their way into your life soon! It always happens that way!  Warmly,
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CNO732
Knowflake Posts: 22
From: New York City
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted April 13, 2005 01:16 PM
As a Virgo I understand how u feel and undersratdb how hard it is to let go ... we expect so much from people cause we give so much ... We demand the same type of loyal, firebrand energy that we put into a relationship ... Since we are so reluctant to bring people into our lives and our hearts (cause we love and care strongly in general) it is very hard when they don't follow-through ...As I get older I realize that sometimes u must reacess and re-evaluate every relationshio in ur life at given times ... If people are not fitting the bill and are taking away from u emotional and draining u where ur thiking about whether they are in ur corner or if they are an asset in ur life, THEN U MUST LET THEM GO ... Things change, people change ..life is not solid earth as we would like, so u keep moving and instead of mourning the loss, celebrate the freedom it gives u to bring better energy into ur life ... Those people will get it or not but it's not up to u to help them along ... catch my drift? IP: Logged |
trillian
Moderator Posts: 3188
From: The Boundless
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted April 13, 2005 01:24 PM
Consider waiting till all these eclipses are over before making your final decision. According to Debbi Kempton Smith, ten days before till three days after an eclipse are the worst times to take action. I have been wrestling with a similar decision...
good luck, sweetie.
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Secret Garden
Knowflake Posts: 511
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted April 13, 2005 07:03 PM
VAA, I understand becoz it is so painful and I have a tendency to make some of the worst friends.... The only thing I can give you is my support and love, and say that we are all your friends, right here at LindaLand. One thing I would say is, if you end it, try to do so on logical terms, by distancing, instead of burning bridges. If at any time later they see the light and realize how wrong they are, it would be inexplicable humanitarian for you to guide them back to the right way of doing things. When you're wrong and have lost your friends, you're at the loneliest place in the world. To help people out, that have bad judgement, is a really noble thing to do. Move on to focus on more positive people, but tell these friends when you leave them, that if they ever feel they missed out on something, or did something wrong, to contact you. Love
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 21050
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted April 13, 2005 07:30 PM
Sometimes you have to let a best friend go, so that person can spread his/her wings and fly. If the friendship is true, he/she will fly back to you one day.  ------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 135
From: ne ohio
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted April 13, 2005 09:00 PM
So true, so true!IP: Logged | |
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