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Topic: My 78 year old dad is going for counselling!!!
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 759
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted April 28, 2005 08:58 AM
 
Having just completed a weekend doing a family constellation workshop (working on my dad and his family), he tells me today on the phone that he is going for counselling at the age of 78!! Isnt that something guys. He calls me his "psychiatrist", and I have been trying to encourage him for a while to get some help - he still doesnt accept the relationship he had with his mom. He is an Aries, still the child, god bless him. Anyway, I am so hoping he gets some relief from this. The power of healing hey, isn't it powerful - i now realise intent is everything - and in every family I am sure there is a healer - love to all xxxxxxIP: Logged |
geminstone
Knowflake Posts: 239
From: Golden, CO
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted April 28, 2005 01:53 PM
Blessed Be, Sue G.... that is Beautiful! Your Dad must be something and, no doubt, the bond you have in each other..."... there is no greater bond
than that between parent and child...
.... and no greater hatred..."
Ashleigh Brilliant ~ geminstone IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 8223
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted April 28, 2005 02:12 PM
It is never too late to learn.IP: Logged |
Azalaksh
Knowflake Posts: 529
From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted April 28, 2005 07:53 PM
sooz ~
You are the best psychiatrist anyone could wish for!! 
Your dad is to be commended for still seeking answers at his age -- it seems to be a common thread that older people are set in their ways and resist any changes the older they get. He is still exploring, still seeking, that's wonderful! I see now where you get your curiosity and the energy to delve deeply into what life has to offer.
{{hugs}}
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Secret Garden
Knowflake Posts: 743
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted April 28, 2005 10:51 PM
yes i agree, it takes so much courage to be so open minded, and to admit that one has weaknesses. theres always room for improvement, but the first step to improvement is acknowledging that change of mentality from within has to occur. i agree with ur dad that you ARE his psychiatrist, u have helped him take the first and perhaps the most difficult step in the whole process. i think you should feel very proud of yourself, and your father. i hope everything works out, and that you realize how many lives you can touch, just how much positive energy you can send out--and that is so amazing about u Love
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 759
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted April 29, 2005 04:35 AM
Oh you darling people out there, I am so touched and moved by all your comments, I just wanna give all of you a huge HUG. One of my dearest wishes was that my Dad and I would connect deeper before he passes over, he has no belief in a God or the afterlife, and I keep on saying to him "Dad we cant do it on our own, please try and open up". Well I feel he is doing and my mother says "he thinks the world of you and you are brainwashing him" (ha ha not like a Scorpio hey). But I feel it is a positive influence and not a negative one. Its people like you, Az, Pix,Gem,SG (same initials) that really help me along, honest guys you have had a huge impact on my life - thankyou all so much - God bless Sue xxxIP: Logged |
Azalaksh
Knowflake Posts: 529
From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted April 29, 2005 08:08 AM
sooz ~
The same thing happened to me!!! 'my mother says "he thinks the world of you and you are brainwashing him" '
My father and I connected pretty well in the several years before his physical death, and I think he was closer to understanding his hippie daughter and her electic beliefs than when I was growing up, clashing with his conservative Republican values. He loosened up a lot in his 70's.
 and to your daddy!
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Tranquil Poet
Knowflake Posts: 253
From: City Of The Lost Towers
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted April 29, 2005 08:29 AM
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 759
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted April 29, 2005 09:06 AM
Thanks lovely Libra lady - Az, your words send shivers down my back - love to you IP: Logged |
Azalaksh
Knowflake Posts: 529
From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted April 29, 2005 10:01 PM
hi sooz ~Saw this in another thread....."Hi Tranquil, i am a Scorpio, sorry to sound ignorant, im from a different culture, but what does skanky mean and are you from New York by any chance? Thanks x" I'm putting this in the post about your dad although I don't feel good about it, but I wanted to communicate with you. I see she has already been here, which was a surprise. I think Tranquil Poet is Atlantic Myst, Mystic Dreamz, Sweet Blue Moon. It was nice of her to post all those interps in the Sun/Moon thread, I thought things were going to go well, her soul was getting "older" as purple might say.... So much for that. This is what prompted my thread about Gray not Black and White Day.... IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 759
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted April 30, 2005 05:32 AM
Thanks for your Awww Tranquil Poet xHi Az, thanks for your words, I understand what you are saying - love to you x IP: Logged |
Secret Garden
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 01, 2005 02:32 AM
sue, much love to u again, and admiration, it is the strength and reserve of women like yourself that never fails to inspire awe in me. you are the reason that i smile when i think about our gender: fearless, sensitive and caring, always helping people reach new heights. you are a true caregiver--a teacher, a wise soul, all in one. although it may not be a part of american culture as much, i am so impressed that you are taking care of your father in the most important way--the spiritual and emotional way. because believe me, in my culture there is so MUCH emphasis on taking care of parents, yet i see so LITTLE of that truly going on--in that emotional, nurturing sense. just like our parents nurture us when we're young, we need to sometimes give them emotional support when theyre old, coz they just aren't the same energetic people they used to be. and being anyones pillar of strength and hope, especially an elderly persons, and especially your parents, is such a noble thing that i really must let you know how happy i am about this.... many people see the value of guiding youth, because they see the promise of the future in them. but little people realize how precious our elders are, and how important taking care of ALL generations is. if we can't treasure our history, we will never foster a good future. i am sure u are / will be a great parent. you are a wonderful guide, and i hope to learn from u , Love
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 759
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 01, 2005 07:11 AM
Hello SG and thankyou for your beautiful words, your parents must be very proud to have raised such a caring and sensitive daughter. My parents are both very fragile and beautiful people and the thing they passed on to me was to LOVE one another - strange I am called the "lovelady" here! So I am now sending back to them what they gave to me. My father is so strong in my life, a huge part of himself is locked away and I am just trying to help him unlock it - he the cynic, is changing, I can feel it and if I can play a small part in that I am eternally grateful. Its people like you SG that help me on my path, the encouragement and support lifts me to a place that words could not describe,so again thank you sweet lady, God bless you love SG xxx IP: Logged |
calliope
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: The Ether
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted May 03, 2005 09:46 AM
Ahhh... good luck to your father, sue g.
I have been through counselling myself recently. I was doing it alongside homeopathy, but I have actually dropped it now,not because it was not helpful, but because I found the homeopathy was better at addressing both chronic and acute states of being! I think this is a big stock-taking period for Aries, I think your father may find the mood lightens after Saturn moves into Leo. It has been a difficult 2 1/2 years! Hugs and love to you both. Calliope
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 759
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 12, 2005 12:44 PM
Thanks Calli for your comforting words and do you know when Saturn changes position?Well I am always surprised when people act the way they do. My "lovely" sister was talking to our Dad and she has no sympathy for him she just gets irritated by his what she calls "weakness". So she says to him "well Sue has helped you, hasnt she"? And she said he replied 'HAS SHE"? I tell you guys I dont know what to believe, but if this is true, what is GOING ON? I feel my Dad has huge issues, but I have bust a gut to help him, and if this is the case, I am going to have to stand back. I am beginning to admit to myself that I have a very dysfunctional family, but if needs be I shall save my energy for the more appreciative - can you believe this - a sister aged 53 that likes to stir and a father who rejects his daughter's help - weird or what? What would you guys do? Love to all xxx IP: Logged |
Azalaksh
Knowflake Posts: 529
From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted May 12, 2005 11:00 PM
Hiya LoveLady ~I'm sad and puzzled to hear about your situation with Sis/Dad. No offense to your family, but I think you are the most advanced/evolved of all of them -- you also sound as if you are the one most open to any change (for a predominantly Fixed chart you are awesome in your openness!!!). My first thought was "do you believe your sister told you the truth about what your dad said?" I understand what you mean about "saving your energy for the more appreciative", and you will probably remember what I said about energy-vampires. But you also have much to give others (even the ones who don't deserve the priceless gift of your love) -- and those who give find themselves eternally renewed! Best of luck with this sweetie, and keep us posted on how Dad's doing in his adventures. I don't think your sister is being straight with you, but that's a gut feeling and nothing I can explain with logic. Loves & Hugs,
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 759
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 13, 2005 04:53 AM
Thanks for that Az, I have the same feeling, I think she is dangerous, jealous and a very unhappy woman and I dont think she appreciates my ability to support our Dad. I am going to call him soon and see how things are. For a very short time I felt a little hurt, but now...............nah, tis their problem not mine and after all they are operating from a lower level arent they? Thanks again Az xxxxIP: Logged | |
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