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Topic: the unforgetable one
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Hecate
Knowflake Posts: 43
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 10, 2005 12:56 AM
 
Hi guys,
Has there ever been someone in your life past or present, that has stood out beyond all others? Someone that you love/loved so very much that no matter what became of the relationship, you feel you will have them inside forever? I once loved such a person, an Aqua that way. At the time, I wasn't ready for it since I had just gotten out of a serious relationship. For stupid reasons, we ended up hurting each other and things ended badly. Its been four years, and he has married and has a baby. I've been in a serious relationship for awhile now, but these last few days his memory has been haunting me for no apparent reason. I don't understand why this is happening? Its really confusing me since I'm ok with his moving on, and now I'm filled with thoughts on him. Has this ever happened to you? You thought you had forgotten someone only to realize you will never quite "forget" them?
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BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 263
From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted May 10, 2005 01:42 AM
Oh yes. I have had such a person. They have/had such a profound effect on you and your life that they've made an imprint. Are you still in contact with him at all - do you talk? Unusual that a few people here have been deeply affected by these Aquarius men, never able to forget them. Such an enigmatic sign. I hope you are eventually able to find closure, he will always be in your heart. I don't think we're ever meant to forget those that we love, really. Some of these people are also in our past for a reason. We just put them in a special place in our hearts and minds.About love...it's universal and we don't feel one kind of love for a sister and another kind of love for a husband, another for your teacher...it's all the same kind of love, and if we apply the same kind of love to everyone, we find there is enough for everyone, it's infinite. There's more to it than that, but where the pain comes in with relationships like these is we try to define or impose our own will (or the other person does this to us) onto the other person and this causes the conflicts, power struggles. It's just not the right time for this person to be in our lives. What we need to do is step back and make our love a safe place for the other to be. A tough thing to remember when you're in it deep. I've been there. Just my two cents.
kisses
Laura
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sarah9
Knowflake Posts: 19
From: india
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted May 10, 2005 01:48 AM
Oh yes, i have had one such person and it was closest to what one would term 'Unconditional love'. No matter what happened to the relashionship, no matter how i was hurt i couldnt just help loving him cos it didnt matter. And well the fact was, he never did hurt me ever. That was what i also term as a 'Soulmate'.This was something of a romantic nature and the love was unusual to say the least. It didnt have a 'Name' to it. I felt he was everything to me....a father, lover, brother, friend, mother, guide....it was the most amazing 1 year of my life in a relashionship that had NO ups and downs at all. It was a gift and so was he. If u have met someone like that in your life then yes, they are truly your soulmates and really there are NO ego hassles. Its all so 'EFFORTLESS'. Thats the Key word....efortless. Love
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Gooberzlostlovefound
Knowflake Posts: 548
From: and the embers never fade in your city by the lake
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted May 10, 2005 02:48 AM
Yes, I have had such a person in my life.Sarah~ If you don't mind my asking (I don't want to pry), what ever happened between you and this individual? IP: Logged |
sarah9
Knowflake Posts: 19
From: india
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted May 10, 2005 07:05 AM
Hi Gooberz,Of course ure not prying. Ide be happy to tell everyone and anyone abt this most amazing experiance of my life!  Well, in a nutshell, we met, we knew instantly and we drifted together naturally. We met at work and he was already committed to another. He was married, i wasnt. We did not indulge in an affair because it wld have been very unfair to me and to his family. But he helped me professionally, personally and in every way. We had amazing telepathy, a thousand similarities including the fact that we even looked alike, shared our birthdays, shared our middle names, addresses etc. We were given this for only an year and it changed my life. I could physically see the golden light when we smiled at each other and ive never felt anyone SO much my 'Equal'. It was like he was always supporting me to give my best and i was always advising him when he felt hurt by something. It was perfect yin yang, negative positive etc. And like i said it was the most effortless love ive ever know and the most unconditional.We could have been in touch but i gs it wasnt planned for us this time round. He left after an year and i felt a Vast, vast emptiness. But life goes on and sodid i. Just knowing i met someone like him who loved me that way and whom i loved that way was enough. One neednt even ask, one knows when one is loved i think. I could have been in touch but i would have probably destroyed the beautifully gift wrapped parcel by stretching it. So i went with the flow and well.....sigh.....it was beautiful and yes, i beleive in love and i beleive in soulmates. What abt you Gooberz. Ide love to know how it was for you, i.e if u dont mind? Love
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sthenri
Moderator Posts: 3270
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted May 10, 2005 11:41 AM
For me it was another Aqua with Moon/Mars in Cancer, Venus in Pisces, Libra ascendant. What a doll, never anything physical, just lots of love and guidance every day for about two years. I helped him get over a lost love and he helped me out of an abusive relationship,I will never forget him although we live now, so far apart. Aqua men do that to me, especially those with anything in Libra. The Libra/Aqua combination is pretty devastating, charming, and emotional at the same time. Natasha
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Hecate
Knowflake Posts: 43
From:
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 10, 2005 02:24 PM
Thank you guys so much for responding, I feel so much better now. BT, we no longer speak to each other because I hurt him pretty badly. He's a Scorpio rising and Venus with a Libra moon. We've ran into each other about twice, and he'll just look into my eyes with that pluto stare and just walk away as if we'd never known each other... SHentri, just like your Aqua, he inspired me to build up the strength to get out of a horribly abusive and stagnant relationship. For that I'm forever grateful that our paths did cross. IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 263
From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted May 10, 2005 02:46 PM
Natasha...I have found an Aqua man with Venus in Pisces makes them very easy to connect with women and understand us...I know of one such Aqua now with Venus in Pisces and he's that way...very warm and caring, helpful person. His Merc is in Pisces tooo.
kisses
Laura
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Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 598
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted May 10, 2005 03:54 PM
Oh this sounds oh so familiar Hecate. The part where you hurt him and when you see him he just ignores you and stares with that pluto stare and he acts as though you guys never knew wach other. That is how my ex Aqua is acting. I said somethings that really hurt him, BUT he did something that really hurt me to make me say those things, I recovered from the pain he inflicted on me he has not. So when we see each other at the gym he tries to ignore me but the attraction that he still has for me is starting to get the best of him. But I don't bother him I just let him be. I know how that feels though. Aqua's its something about those men. I do know a Aqua with Merc in Venus and he was a lil different form the other Aqua men that I was invloved with. He seemed to be more intouch with his feelings and yours.. IP: Logged |
Hecate
Knowflake Posts: 43
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 11, 2005 01:05 AM
MM,
He always was that way very controlled with his emotions.... I remember he once told me that he likes to bury his pain and be cooly aloof because it will hurt you more than it would hurt him to show any weakness....
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Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 598
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted May 11, 2005 11:12 AM
Ok exactly what was that suppose to mean. That sounds scarey!!!! They try to bury their pain and show none or very lil emotion when infact they are the most emotinal ppl you may ever meet. They are just good at tucking it away. Out ignore him and see what happens, I have done it and everything short of and explosion went down... IP: Logged |
zoso
Knowflake Posts: 350
From: Nevada
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 11, 2005 12:33 PM
Ahhh the Aqua>> I know exactly what you're talking about. IP: Logged |
Hecate
Knowflake Posts: 43
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 11, 2005 05:14 PM
I will try that, turn the table in him. That would be interesting, to see what reaction if any he'd show. Sigh. I've resigned myself with the comfort that he will always be a special memory no matter how badly it ended for us. I wouldn't want to be back together again, even if we were both free. I wish I knew if he at least thinks of me as someone he once cared about, or if I'm just some dispicable snake which is how he makes me feel when he just sees right throug hme as if it never was.IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 598
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted May 11, 2005 05:47 PM
Awwwhhh don't feel that way, What exactly did you do if you do not mind me asking.
You had to have touched him to make him shut down like that. They hate to be ignored just try and not pay him much attention. It is funny it really does seem as though they can see right through you. Aqua's have some type of mental telepathy thing going on they know how to recieve and send info. Its weird I know. Hang in there you will be ok...IP: Logged |
Tranquil Poet
Knowflake Posts: 221
From: City Of The Lost Towers
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted May 11, 2005 06:16 PM
Alot of aquas tend to impact people that way.IP: Logged |
Hecate
Knowflake Posts: 43
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 11, 2005 08:04 PM
Mama Mia, I really appreciate your insights. Here is our story: We casually knew each other from Junior High and High School, but were never really friends. Later in life, I became friends with his sister and she told me he liked me back then and still thoguht of me. During that time I was in a horrible marriage but afraid to leave because I had a young son. To make a long story short, I began talking to him as friends. He was and is the best friend I've ever had, he'd listen and understand me in such a way. I found the inner strength to finally get divorced. We then got together as something more, but the issue was that I had been married so young, that this was the first time I was free. That is how I hurt him. I loved him so much, but at the same time I was out having fun with my friend his sister. When he found out, he broke up with me even if I never messed around with guys.
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Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 598
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted May 12, 2005 01:03 PM
Oh I see you did hurt him, he built a bond with you and he see it now as you betrayed him. Well those things happen and if you hurt
Aqua's deeply emotinally 9 times out of ten that is how they act. He did obviously care about you other wise it would not be like this. Well do not let it get you down we learn from our mistakes, just be content with
knowing that you once did have a special place in his heart..IP: Logged |
Hecate
Knowflake Posts: 43
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 12, 2005 02:12 PM
Thank you so much for your wonderful insight and for taking the time to listen to me  I've done some deep soul searching, and am getting that closure.My bf and I have been going through an emotional time lately, which had me doubting our relationship and triggered memories of the Aqua. Last night, I gathered the courage to honestly discuss my feelings with my bf. It was scary, but it cleared the air so much. I realize I do not love the Aqua anymore, although I will hold a special place for him in my heart. I was seeking closure, and I'm on my way to achieve it. Today I'm going to do a little closure ritual. I'll write a letter to the Aqua, expressing all the feelings. Then, I'll burn the letter in a candle, relasing my emotions into the universe.... Once again, thanks everybody. IP: Logged |
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