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Topic: What would you do?
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Irish Eyes
Knowflake Posts: 346
From: PA,USA
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 11, 2005 11:51 AM
 
I have a wonderful friend that has (after 10 years) admitted that she is secretly in love with an old friend. They never dated but their families are close friends. He is seeing someone and she is single. She has made some small talk with me about if she should let him know and how.So my dear Knowflakes...what would you do! Do you think that the guy should know or do you think that she should let it go? What would the complactions of him being told be? (other than the obvious that he could reject her) I do value all of your oppinions and look forward to your replies! Love to all
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fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 713
From: ohio
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted May 11, 2005 12:41 PM
She is single. He is not married? Has he ever shown any indications that he could be interested in something more than just friendship? Ten years is a long time to keep a secret like that from someone. Has she carried a torch for him that long? How close are they? Why has he never shown any interest in something more? Or has he, and she didn't respond, but now that he IS seeing someone, he is a hot commodity, that before was just there for the taking whenever she(or anyone) got around to it? My husband is the quiet, sensitive and gentlemanly type of man. Women just wanted to be friends with him because he is so sweet and gentle. They were waiting for HIM to seduce THEM! Well I made my move, waiting is not my cup of tea! I see/know what or who I want and I go for it! So I DID! Well the ladies begain descending upon him in virtual droves! Suddenly he was someone to notice for more than a friend! Ha! Stupid silly women! He ignored their advances(and from time to time some still try) and stayed with me, even though most of them were thinner and younger! I am 15 years older, but I noticed him, I saw through his shell, I courted him and romanced him! He said that I was the only one who really noticed him and wanted him for him, and did not want to try and change him. So ask your friend a few more questions, I'm not sure what exactly her particular situation is. 
PS: I was nearly 400 pounds when I made my move! I'm much thinner now. So unless she is like a major troll or something, has rotten teeth and stinks, I do not see why she wouldn't have a chance with him, but again I don't know the specifics of her situation.IP: Logged |
Irish Eyes
Knowflake Posts: 346
From: PA,USA
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 11, 2005 08:38 PM
fayte-She isn't a troll, but is a bit overweight. He is a body builder type. She never made her move cause she was waiting for him to. And then there is their families...hers would except it and his may not. She has felt this way about him for years and her family has tried to get her to admit that she does have these feelings but she is STUBBORN and refused to make a move for fear of rejection and not wanting her family to be right. They are close enough that they talk on the phone every 6 weeks or so..she does most of the calling. They live 3 hours from each other. His mother always has updates about him for her and vise-versa. She has never shown intrest other than friendship towards him. I think that if he were to stand back and look at the situation he would realize that most friends don't act the way that she does towards him. He wants a Barbie Doll type with a brain....She is a Brain but is no Barbie Doll. Does that help?....Loved your story!...love is blind and I am happy that all turned out the way it did for you. Love to you,
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fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 713
From: ohio
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted May 11, 2005 08:48 PM
Ouch! If he really wants a Barbie Doll/with a brain...Ouch! She may not be able to get through to him. If she DOES however, will he insist she make drastic and long term changes to her looks? If so...she should not pursue this! If it is that important to him, it does not bode well for this potential relationship to work out. Also if someone is that interested, and it is meant to be, one generally does not take 10 years before considering making a move. No matter how stubborn she is, if she really wanted him, it I think, would have been a case of "too heck with what people say! I want him!"
I just wonder why she is going on about it now.IP: Logged |
Irish Eyes
Knowflake Posts: 346
From: PA,USA
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 12, 2005 10:11 AM
That makes two of us.....I really don't know what will happen with her and him....I don't see anything until one of them makes a move. I have talked to this guy's sister (we are all childhood friends) and she told me that her brother hasn't a clue that this girl likes him. She also informed me of his tastes in women and how the relationship with the new woman in his life is getting serious. Gotta run...
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