posted May 21, 2005 02:02 AM         

Well I feel kind of pathetic and self-pitying saying this, but I guess I am just feeling extremely lonely & isolated these days.

A lot of my friends and I have grown apart...we just don't really share the same interests, values, life views, etc. anymore.

Other friends have moved away or we can't see each other very often due to conflicting schedules.

So anyhow, for all of the above reasons I just don't really have much of a social life anymore.

And what's frustrating is that in many ways I feel like I'm finally emerging from a kind of "dark" phase of life and moving into a much better one. My health is improving, I've gained new confidence, taken up new hobbies, and just have a much more optimistic outlook overall. These are all great things -- it just saddens me that here I am, as happy and healthy as I've been in a long time, and I don't really have any of this to share with anyone.

Anyhow, I don't mean to sound like "woe is me." I just wish I could meet some new people. I have a lot of "acquaintances" but I find it kind of difficult to go from the "acquaintance stage" to the "friendship stage" if that makes any sense. And I'm pretty shy, so I know that doesn't help much.

So is anyone else out there feeling like I am?? Any other lonely knowflakes?

Or anyone have tips/suggestions on meeting new people?

I bet you are all thinking I am some kind of anti-social weirdo, but...I dunno, I think I am pretty personable, it's just been kind of a lonely phase for me I guess.

Hope everyone's having a good night...

Take care,
GLLF

posted May 21, 2005 04:14 AM         

I have been through similar detachment from most of those I consider friends, recently. It sucks, on some levels but, it has given me new perspective as well. In all honesty, it serves up those painful truths, both about me and, them. I've yet to have it behind me but, do know, you are not alone and, I understand what you feel in being shy. If anyone could carry the tag of ' anti-social weirdo ',.... uummm, that would be me. It seems to me that you have a lot to be happy and thankful about, maybe you need to just be that with you....? I dunno and, I'm not sure if it's explainable..... at least not at 2:am, for me I believe that being able to share life and it's chaos, is something very vital for me. If you just need an ear, that is understanding and, does not see this as self pity or, woe then, I would like, very much, to hear of your happiness and health and, any and all other wonders, that you have been experiencing
... oh and, just to let you know, even as I may fit that ' anti-social weirdo' description, I'm really easy going and shy so, no worries

Chin Up...

posted May 21, 2005 06:48 AM         

Use Yahoo or MSN Messenger to keep in contact with old friends if you can. No amount of scheduling conflicts should be able to completely interfere with relationships you want to keep.

If you have trouble meeting people locally, try online in a forum like this, or in a game like the Sims Online, "There," or Second Life. There are enormous online communities where you can show your worth. What's more, the internet allows you a little more freedom from your shyness. You establish what people think of you, and about you.

posted May 21, 2005 03:41 PM         

Most of my friends don't return my phone calls or e-mails. My friends who are married with children don't have any time for me. My single friends in their 20's don't call me back. But when I run into them "LET'S GO OUT! LET'S GET TOGETHER!!!" Well, uhm, hello? you never call me baaacckk???
And men are scared of me.

Jupiter goes direct on June 5. Hopefully that will sway things our way a bit.

posted May 22, 2005 10:49 AM         

I know that doesn't have a great deal to do with the topic lol but still...

posted May 24, 2005 01:46 AM         

On Sunday I typed a REALLY long response to each and everyone's posts and then clicked "submit reply" but it somehow didn't work.

Argh I'm sorry you guys! I will respond to everyone as soon as I can. Right now I'm too annoyed and demoralized, lol. Hard to remember and re-type everything I said before!

posted May 24, 2005 04:22 PM         

I have been a redhead, brunette and now a dark blonde in the past 7 months. It was too much for my last two b/f's. I am good at pushing people away too! Now I just had my hair done again today and it's the last time, in sixth months I will go back to a soft light brown and that's it, no more for me. But when I started going gray, I put everyone I know including myself through hell.

LIfe isn't easy and we all go through phases,
you will endure so much and at the same time, remember there is someone out there who loves you, just the same,

Accept what's beautiful in your life,

posted May 25, 2005 01:04 AM         

geminstone~ Thanks. You seem like a nice person; I always enjoy reading your posts.

AcousticGod~ You are absolutely right -- I can still keep in touch with old friends, just need to put some effort into it. Actually, on Sunday an old friend called me who I figured was busy working. She had the day off and we ended up having a fantastic time together. It was SO nice to get out and kick up my heels again! Now we are talking more and planning on doing something this weekend.

Tranquil~ Can you tell us a little more about these "friends"?

Nephthys~ Yeah, I hear ya. I hate feeling like "why am I always the one to initiate everything?" Phone calls, plans, etc. Makes me say "the hell with 'em" and and retreat even more. Good friends are hard to come by I guess. But I am lucky to have 2 or 3 really close friends, people I can really and truly count on, but unfortunately one of them moved across the country, the other is always working, and the other one lives 25 mins. away and we never seem to be able to co-ordinate plans. That's why I'm really hoping to meet some new people soon. Oh, btw, I didn't even know Jupiter was retrograde. Do you know what effect that has? I have no idea.

posted May 25, 2005 01:17 AM         

sue g~ Thank you....wise words. Your posts always reflect your (nice!) sense of perspective on life.

A Perfect Circle~ Thank you for the compliment and yes I am definitely trying to take up hobbies where I will meet people. I take an exercise class and a ceramics class, but, unfortunately, (and oddly enough) everyone is much, much older than me! They all seem like great people but I just really would like to meet others who are a little closer to my age, y' know?

sthenri~ I have no idea what my progressed chart is like. I check up on transits online now and then but have no idea how to find out about progressions. Do you know of any way to do that online?