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CharmedForever2431
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From: New York, New York
Registered: Feb 2005

posted May 24, 2005 02:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CharmedForever2431     Edit/Delete Message
Hi everyone


As much as I don't like telling my personal life stories to anyone, including those on the WWW, but this later part of the month has been very depressing and distressful.
Therefore, it's like a huge black cloud has gone over my head. Again as the story goes I'm having problems regarding family and friends. One parent has been controlling and putting me down for ages. I try my best to do my best in life but it seems that it isn't enough for him to accept. He continues to find ways to put me down everytime I am happy with what I do and feel comfortable doing. I can't wait when the time comes when I tell him that I no longer want to be his daughter. Therefore,I wish I was living in my own apartment but where I live the rent is too expensive and that I have no place to live right now.
I hate him and I hope he rots in hell.


As for friendships, I always had trouble of keeping friends. It's like I deal with so much of their drama and that I can no longer put up with them. People like that, you just want to shoot them. With this one friend, I have recently put at end to the friendship last week just to save my sanity. Then she goes around slandering and contradicting herself about me on another site just because she couldn't handle the move(she also has alot of problems herself that is why I decided to split away from her.)Three years of friendship put to the end. Therefore, I feel that it isn't worth meeting new people now because who would put up with all the stresses and dramas that come with the friendship. Also there is no need to deal with anymore additional problems. I want to stick with my few close friends whom I went to school with. I wish I lived in some place where no one bothers me and that I can be able to clear my mind. I'm really feeling hurt, confused, and even distressed that I'm having problems getting out all this negativity. It's really intolerable and exhausting. Please help..I need alot of encouraging advice. I want to enjoy love, happiness, success and inner peace of all sorts.

Please check my birth data to see what it is why I am struggling in life.


for HER
born on 13 Jan 1975 local time 03:04 am
in New York, NY (US) U.T. 08:04
74w00, 40n43 sid. time 10:36:44
PLANETARY POSITIONS
planet sign degree house
Sun Capricorn 2230'29 02
Moon Aquarius 0230'51 03
Mercury Aquarius 0710'05 03
Venus Aquarius 0850'53 03
Mars Sagittarius 2351'11 01/2
Jupiter Pisces 1531'41 04
Saturn Cancer 1451'29 08
Uranus Scorpio 0212'49 11/12
Neptune Sagittarius 1049'43 01
Pluto Libra 0915'21 11
True Node Sagittarius 0933'57 01


HOUSE POSITIONS (Placidus)
Ascendant Scorpio 2425'58
2nd House Sagittarius 2505'04
3rd House Aquarius 0053'48
Imum Coeli Pisces 0729'34
5th House Aries 0853'44
6th House Taurus 0354'05
Descendant Taurus 2425'58
8th House Gemini 2505'04
9th House Leo 0053'48
Medium Coeli Virgo 0729'34
11th House Libra 0853'44
12th House Scorpio 0354'05


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future_uncertain
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From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004

posted May 25, 2005 03:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
I can't help you much with your chart. Have you looked up any of your planets/house positions/aspects online? I'd be happy to go through some of them with you and discuss them if you'd like. Maybe we can work together to come up with something.

As far as your story goes, I can relate to the negative relationship you have with your father. I also had poor relationships with my parents that trouble me still today. (I'm 28.) I find talking about these issues can be very helpful. If you'd like to have some discussions, just let me know.

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CharmedForever2431
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From: New York, New York
Registered: Feb 2005

posted May 25, 2005 04:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CharmedForever2431     Edit/Delete Message
Hi future_uncertain

Thanks for responding. I do feel like talking about getting all these hurt feelings which has been trapped inside me for ages. Just to let you know, it's hard to trust people nowadays. When you meet new people then they change on you months later. Then grief and drama come along the way and with all your power you end up putting an end to the friendship. But then these idiots don't understand why they get dumped and take **** on you. I'm not going to put up with anyones crap, you know what I mean.

Anyway, feel free to speak to me regarding these issues. It's time to make a change in life since it's too short to allow good times pass. Oh, I never gotten a chance to look up the houses/planets for my birth chart. Do you know any sites where I can find out. Thanks

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future_uncertain
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From: ohio
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posted May 25, 2005 04:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
When I want to look something up, I just go to google and type in the house, aspect, sign or whatever. Like I have my sun in the 12th, so I go to google and type in: sun in 12th house. You'd be surprised at what pops up.

I don't know if this is your experience, but my growing up years have had a tremendous impact on what I am today, in a very negative way. You still live with your father, is this right?

We should talk about this. It's amazing the amount of responsibility people take on from their parents' mistakes. I've got lots of good books I can recommend, too.

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CharmedForever2431
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From: New York, New York
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posted May 25, 2005 04:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CharmedForever2431     Edit/Delete Message
Hi

Thanks so much for your time and help. My growing up years also made an impact on me in a negative way as well, even though I try to make things better for myself. I'm sure you do the same. But it still hurts that I see things from my dad repeating unto me and it must stop now.

At a point, it doesn't pay to be nice anymore. People would just take advantage of you and they suck for that.
Yeah, I will try to look up on google for the positions of the planets whenever I get the chance.

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future_uncertain
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posted May 25, 2005 08:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Check out google and let me know what you come up with. I'd like to continue this discussion with you. These things can be very painful and debilitating. I think that people who haven't been in these situations have a hard time understanding why something that happened in the past could have such a dramatic impact on now.

And for you, you're still living with it!

We'll talk. Take care!

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CharmedForever2431
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From: New York, New York
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posted May 26, 2005 09:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CharmedForever2431     Edit/Delete Message
Hi

here are some of the positions of the planets/ houses that I have found. Maybe you can help me interpret their meanings.

Mars in 2nd house
Sun in 2nd house
Moon in 3rd house
Venus in 3rd house
Saturn in 8th house

Saturn and north node is retrograde. Is that the reason why that something is blocking me of moving ahead. It's my dad who is doing this

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Happy Dragon
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From: a dark recess .. somewhere in Zog
Registered: Apr 2005

posted May 26, 2005 04:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Happy Dragon     Edit/Delete Message
CharmedForever2431

born on 13 Jan 1975 local time 03:04 am
in New York, NY (US) U.T. 08:04
74w00, 40n43 sid. time 10:36:44

for now :::
these are the main outer planet transits
currently effecting you chart
and are in close orb ...
both Plut and Chiron are retrograde at moment

tPlut conj nMars .. ( i.e. transiting Pluto conjunct natal Mars)
tChiron conj nMoon / squr nUrns
tLillith opp nMoon

the transits above are far from easy .. but what u say makes sense
with regards to them ... i had a pretty bad 'controlling' type relationship
with my parents .... just be aware those transits can realy lead you into
some real intense feelings .. and said transits WILL pass ...
I had a major Chiron transit a whilst back .. but almost.. well did have to
travel back to childhood in my mind .. it felt a bit on the traumatic side
and cetainly made me angry at having to go thru it

maybe meanwhile research the above thru LL and the web ...
and i shall at least give you info on the time span involved with
those transits ... but again to to the recent movement of 2 ..
plus the Lillith transit .. makes sense ..
the short term Lillith transit is probably raising your emmotional
temp. a bit.. i.e the hate .. thats relatively short term ( weeks )
Lillith has a 9 yr cycle 'round the zodiac .. i guess her transits be
about 2 weeks in duration ..
will suss it out and let u know

will copy your heading post .. read it and try to get back to you later
.. i rarely drop into soul unions.. but normaly check in at the astro section ..
http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/A.F.L.G.html
http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_chiron_e.htm
http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_wounding_e.htm
http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_transits_e.htm
http://martinlass.com/healhand.htm
http://www.martinlass.com/chiron.htm


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future_uncertain
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From: ohio
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posted May 26, 2005 05:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Charmed, let me look up some of these things and get back with you. Take care!

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SavageScorpio
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From: Davis, Ca. US
Registered: Mar 2005

posted June 04, 2005 06:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SavageScorpio     Edit/Delete Message
I know how you feel regarding the situation with your friends. If I could go back and change some of the things I've done/said, I would make sure to maintain a balance between friends, because everyone gets sick of each other you know, and you really doo need space sometimes! Also, sometimes you simply outgrow people, and there isn't anything wrong with that. Besides if she's stressing you out to the max with her venting, etc. she probably needs some time on her own too so she has some kind of peace. People have stressed me out sooo much when it seems like they have so many problems, and I don't mind listening and offering advice, but nothing I say is viewed as being "right"..so I just give up. People are sometimes really needy too, in need of constant attention/affirmation..like you're their friend just to make them feel better, and they don't help you any. It's hard to talk and reason to people about this, so I've just stopped talking to people (need some space!) because I know if I don't I'm going to be too blunt about something and don't want to leave on bad terms. Sometimes you just realize that they aren't someone you want to be friends with also..especially if they bring you down..(like I said with some space and time they may come back to themselves again)..

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