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Topic: Is it too soon to give up?
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kiwigirl
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: New Zealand
Registered: May 2005
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posted May 28, 2005 07:03 PM
 
Is it too soon to give up on my virgo? it has been two weeks and he lives right next door to me and he has made no kind of contact, not even a hello over the fence, surely they are not this shy? but i almost feel like he is either embarrased or just plain rude! I FEEL HURT. Princess Aqua and Sue G you guys will know if this is normal behaviour. Me, well i'm too caught up in feeling rejected and hurt to see clearly now. HELPIP: Logged |
lovely*
Knowflake Posts: 746
From: CA
Registered: Jul 2003
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posted May 28, 2005 08:29 PM
hi kiwigirl~ welcome! i'm a virgo and when it comes to love and attraction, i hang back to see what happens. I rarely pursue because the truth is..most virgos are extremely vulnerable when it comes to love and hate rejection. especially when venus is placed in virgo. we're fickle pickles.the catch is..i'm (we're) also sensitive to people chasing us and find it really flattering yet unattractive when someone pushes too hard. kiwi, i see you have a dilema here. my suggestion is to be honest-tell him you want to go to a movie, something casual, don't play games (we sniff out the subtlest of games) and just be your high-integrity, punctual clean self. cut your nails if they are long and no outlandish colors. pluck your nose hairs too because he will see each and every one of them  do you have his astro stats? IP: Logged |
Ayumi
Knowflake Posts: 83
From:
Registered: Jan 2005
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posted May 28, 2005 08:33 PM
Hi! I don't know your situation, but I'm a virgo expert. sort of.
So whatever went on with you and him, a Virgo can and will completely withdraw from you. They will do it to punish you, or they will do it if their feelings for you are strong and they are not willing to show you.
A virgo, depending on aspects, can be plain snobby, too. So if you socially embarrass him, he may do that too.
It sounds like a punishment/game to me though.
Remember Virgo's take themselves too seriously. Maybe you can help him lighten up!IP: Logged |
Ayumi
Knowflake Posts: 83
From:
Registered: Jan 2005
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posted May 28, 2005 08:34 PM
oh duh, you guys haven't even hung out? sorry! I think Lovely's right then. Very shy. Doesn't want to impose, or assume that you are interested in him.IP: Logged |
lovely*
Knowflake Posts: 746
From: CA
Registered: Jul 2003
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posted May 28, 2005 08:41 PM
ok i just got some background from another post~ looks like you need to call him someone has to be the confident one here and it aint him. i was just reading sue g's post and i remembered that i seem to draw fixed partners to my life. my leo hubby had his work cut out for him. i dodged him for a year before we went on our first date. and he did ALL the work. let us know what happens. IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 958
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 29, 2005 08:41 AM
Hey Kiwi, I asked my very shy Virgo man what he thought and he said, from what you say he thinks the guy in question really likes you (doing practical things can be a Virgo way of caring). I agree with him and listen girl if you DONT contact him soon, I shall fly over to NZ and drag you to him - what have you got to lose. Would you think me terrible if I told you that all three of my marriage partners were such because I made the first move with ALL of them - I love shy men!!! Go for it Kiwi NOW - please xxxxxIP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 335
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: May 2005
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posted May 29, 2005 11:23 AM
He lives next to you.
Say Hi.
You have the right to.. simply because you hung out a bit, and also because he wants to.
Don't justify.. just do it.
Might you put on your best short shorts, and go over to borrow a cup of sugar......
( for the cookies you want to bake for him?)
Be sure to mention they are for sharing.IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 958
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 29, 2005 01:09 PM
Oooohh Pixie, short shorts hey? I remember when I wore some once, in Florida. I went into a jewellery shop on the beach called the Silver Witch and the guy in their was soooo sexy and almost immediately said to me "do you wanna make love honey", HIS shorts were so tight I hardly knew where to look and guess what guys.......he was a Virgo and NO I didnt, he was too pushy for me (he must have had something firey rising - ooooeeeer) LOL Love Sue xxxIP: Logged |
lovely*
Knowflake Posts: 746
From: CA
Registered: Jul 2003
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posted May 29, 2005 03:40 PM
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kiwigirl
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: New Zealand
Registered: May 2005
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posted May 29, 2005 04:33 PM
Thanks guys. This has been a great way to start my monday morning, reading all your lovely posts. mmmmmm lots of food for thought here. I would say hello over the fence if only I saw him, but as i said he is keeping a very low profile. I saw him yesterday as i worked for a couple of hours at our down town branch, he didnt see me but i got to watch him for about 10 mins and it really got to me. I WANT HIM BAD! I had to leave work early cos i couldnt handle seeing him, what a wimp i am. I also saw him with a girl which kind of sucked but he does have heaps of female friends, he was with his sister as well. I promise I will do something i am just not sure when, the cup of sugar thing wont happen cos there is always someone at his house, its like grand central station, and he lives with his family, and i've always thought his sister didnt like me!! i know i am making excuses, but because of this deep rooted fear of rejection there is a part of me that is thinking that i am just a conquest to him and if i make any sort of move towards sharing the truth with him then he will laugh at me.....will keep you all posted. Your insights have been amazing. Thank you all so much, and Sue G thank your shy virgo for me. Can you ask him if the age difference bothered him at first, cos that is the other thing i think is going on in his head. All his mates are around 22-25 and they all have girlfriends there age.Peace and much love
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 958
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 30, 2005 05:00 AM
Hey Kiwi, I dont have to ask him about the age difference, cos I know the answer already.. ...........he ALWAYS fancied older women, even when he was a lot younger, he said he never had time for women his own age, he likes the wisdom and sexual experience of the more mature ones!!! I think a lot of Virgo men seem to have a very mature vibe about them, so I suppose it would make sense for them to be drawn to older people in general. I am 46 now and he 35, and so far he hasnt showed an interest in anyone else, but then again I am a very challenging woman, which I think he likes (very unpredicatable, passionate, and of course at times a pain in the arse)!!! I know if anything happened to our relationship, I would definately go for another younger man (perhaps one in his 20s this time LOL). It really works for me so you being a Scorp and all, give it a go girl. Will send you some courage.............coming at you N O W  xxxIP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 958
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 30, 2005 05:02 AM
Hey Kiwi and all his mates will be so jealous and say "an older woman - WOW" and you will feel GREAT (am talking from past experience here) xxIP: Logged |
kiwigirl
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: New Zealand
Registered: May 2005
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posted May 30, 2005 06:43 PM
Thanks Sue....courage nearly received!!! I think he is seeing someone at the moment not 100% sure. so will just let it slide for now. I am too vulnerable myself having gone through quite a bit in the last year, and dont feel in a position to put myself out there at the moment.....have waited 2 years already whats a bit longer right? I guess a part of me wants him to like me but the other part that has been so hurt and abused cant quite believe that someone as awesome as him is into me.....so frustrating but thats how i feel.Love....Hugs
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